2nd thoughs - ThinnerTimes

emanon428 · 07-27-2005, 11:33 AM

I am wondering is it me or have you been having 2nd thoughts about this. I keep thinking mybe I can follow a more strict diet (I tried them all), I can exercise more (who I am kidding)! My thoughts are every where and I consider myself a strong person. I can't understand why I am feeling like this.

mfergusont · 07-27-2005, 11:39 AM

I struggled with 2nd thoughts for a couple years. It is hard, but I really wish now that I wouldn't have. I had a referral to my surgeon already, and I didn't follow through because I was so wishy-washy. I thought that I should try this or that again, meanwhile gaining more weight in the end.
This is a major decision and only you can make it. Deep inside of you, you know whether it is right for you or not. I had to do a lot of thinking to make this decision. I wasn't even sure I wanted to make it still up to the weeks before surgery. But I am so glad I did now!! Going through all of this, and making the decision to have surgery is a hard thing to do, even for a strong person! I am sure all of the feelings and thoughts you are having are completely normal!

feliciaespinoza · 07-27-2005, 12:01 PM

This will be the best thing that could ever happen to you unless you have a child(ren) then that would be the best thing. No worries we are all here for you if you have any questions or need support. August 2nd is just around the corner and you have taken all the steps to get you this far dont give up now...there is nothing you cant handle everything is attainable with a little hard work. I am here for ya if you need to talk. Take care girl and I look forward to hearing how everything went once its all done with.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!

CiCi · 07-27-2005, 12:10 PM

Honey, if you are truly second guessing the surgery, then take time to step back and decide if it's the right thing for you. You definitely don't want to go into this with anything but a go-get 'em attitude.

But, keep in mind, we were all nervous and stressed prior to surgery. If you have thought it through and decided that it's the best (or only) alternative for you, then just keep the focus and go full steam ahead. Get everything in order, pay your bills, set up your comfy little place to rest when you get home from the hospital, etc., and then you'll feel better.

I will say that although the first month or so was pretty rough, after seeing the results (I am still in the process of losing) I would definitely do it all over again. I have a new lease on life and feel like I could take on the world!

Best of luck to you!

Traci
LAP RNY 3/30/05

watergirl · 07-27-2005, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by emanon428

I am wondering is it me or have you been having 2nd thoughts about this. I keep thinking mybe I can follow a more strict diet (I tried them all), I can exercise more (who I am kidding)! My thoughts are every where and I consider myself a strong person. I can't understand why I am feeling like this.

Maybe you're not ready for this surgery. If you have any notion that you could possibly do this without surgery, you should explore that. This surgery is a last resort for health.

I wish you clarity.

LizardQueen · 07-27-2005, 01:46 PM

Take a step back and consider what you are doing. This is for life. I had serios second thoughts. I almost didn't go to the hospital the morning of my surgery then I almost left. I'm sooo glad I went through with it BUT you have to decide what is best for you!

wlcasper · 07-27-2005, 03:36 PM

I think your feelings are normal. I would however take a step back and really examine if this is what you want to do. I mean really want to do. Make the decision and move in that direction. I am glad I had WLS it has changed my whole life and health!

Peckkale · 07-27-2005, 03:40 PM

We all have been there. I was on the table and and going going almost out and trying to tell the Doc I changed my mind....I'm glad the surgery proceed as scheduled.

Although I'm losing at a snail's pace, I'm still losing. The best part of the surgery is I have gainned control and if I do lose control the pouch reminds me not to try that again.

I am in control now thanks to this surgery.

veroniquetalk · 07-27-2005, 04:42 PM

Before I decided on the surgery I also thought I should try one more time. But, after talking to my husband about whether to try another program, one that had helped me lose once before, or just have the surgery he said, "I have watched you struggle with your weight all your life. If I were you, I would just have the surgery and be done with it."
I almost backed out of the surgery the day I had it. I was so stressed that my resting pulse rate was 129! Normally it is 77. Anyway, I went through with it and am so glad that I did.
One of the most amazing experiences I had happened this morning. My daughter, granddaughter and I went for a girl's over night up to Duluth, MN and stayed at this awesome place on Canal Park. Anyway, they have a huge breakfast there every morning. There was a ton of danish (one of my favorites). I passed it by without even a second thought. The same with the bagels and english muffins.
Anyway, there was a heavier woman sitting next to us as we ate (I had yogurt and fruit) and she asked her husband to go back up and get her more danish and another bagel. It hit me like a ton of bricks- that was me a month ago. I would have filled my plate, maybe went for seconds and then asked my husband to go get me more. I would have obsessed the entire time about all those "goodies" there calling my name. I have NO explanation of why it was different - it was just a total turn around from where I had been before.

Pokey757 · 07-28-2005, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by emanon428

I am wondering is it me or have you been having 2nd thoughts about this. I keep thinking mybe I can follow a more strict diet (I tried them all), I can exercise more (who I am kidding)! My thoughts are every where and I consider myself a strong person. I can't understand why I am feeling like this.

I have 2nd, 3rd, and 4th guess my decision about having surgery. Just in the last few days have i finally come to terms with it. I am now ready. It truely is a decision only you can make. As long as people can talk you out of it, then i think you are not ready. No one is talking me out of it this time.
Just keep asking questions, (Lord knows i have asked a ton) but the people here are more than willing you answer questions even if they have answered them 50 time already. I just love that i found this place. We are all here for each other no matter what. So just keep thinking and soul searching until you make up your mind.