I've been away for awhile - ThinnerTimes

LindaS · 05-08-2005, 07:31 PM

Hi all

I've been away from writing for awhile and needed to get back here. I read everyone's posts and they are inspiring. To bring you all up to date, I have had my consult with Dr Potts. I don't feel like I was treated warmly. Maybe its just me or are all surgeons like this? This guy really put me on the defense and on top of that I was really sick. I am just now starting to feel better but has anyone experienced this kind of problem with their surgeon?

I have completed all tests and the psych consult is on Tuesday. I wanted to go the the meeting on the 5th but since I was sick Potts ordered me to go home. By the way, does your buddy have to go to the two required meetings with me? Do I have to get on the list at the office to attend these meetings?

Please help me anyone?

Linda

anthrgdgrl · 05-08-2005, 08:55 PM

Linda,

I had my buddy with me for the first educational meeting and the dietary one but he couldn't make it to the pre-op support meeting. I think it is OK if your buddy can't make one meeting. The only meeting we had to rsvp for was the very first educational one.

When I had my consult with the surgeon I didn't even talk to him. I met Ninette and Kelly and that was it. Both of them were very professional and welcoming in my opinion. I am sorry you had a different feel.

Bypassingme619 · 05-08-2005, 11:15 PM

Linda no you are not the only one that felt that way. I just recently posted my situation too that happened at my consult. Well it nice to know that I am not the only one that was treated kind of not so warmly. For a minute I was feeling like maybe I was just being to emotional but I have read a couple of post from OH and had a couple of e-mails sent my way. I am just the kind of person who needs to feel comfortable and my GUT was just not feeling the way I was being treated. There has to be some type of trust with staff mainly because I know these individuals are about to play a very important part in my life as well as a very serious procedure. I never had the pleasure of having a one on one with Dr. C but was dissapointed about the way things were handled with me. I will keep details and names to my self because I don't want to recieve any hate mail or bad comments here. Mainly because everyone speaks so highly of Dr. C and his staff I have been kind of scared to speak about the way I was feeling. I mean it was bothering me so much that I had to pray on it and I had to make a couple of phone calls to people who have been such a big part of my journey and asked them what they thought of my situation and everyone says follow my gut. I have changed surgeons. I feel bad because I feel like I am going to be missing out on making new friends and being a part of such a great group of people.

Well I guess thinnertimes is all I have of you guys for now that is if I am still welcomed here. Linda I wish you the best in your journey. Give it another try, feel it out first see how you feel after a couple more visits. I know this is a very emotional time for us all, so our emotions are runnin wild. Keep smiling and keep on pushing to reach your goal.

Anne · 05-08-2005, 11:29 PM

Of course you are welcome here. We all have had experiences, bad & good with Dr C and his staff. I know, I thought Kelly was a little cold, but she is professional and has a lot going on. (I probably shouldn't have said that!

) I appreciate the fact that they are very experienced in this procedure. They are not here to change our lives, that is up to us. They are here to make sure we come thru the surgery ok and start us on our journey.

Everyone is welcome here, and hopefully we can help everyone's experience to be a little better, with the knowledge everyone here can share with us.

I know I only needed my partner the educational meeting. If they can come to the other meeting, that's great but i don't think they penalize you for it of they can't. Hang in there, it really does get better.

LindaS · 05-09-2005, 08:34 AM

Thanks guys. I'm glad I'm not alone. i gues I just had to get this off my chest to someone who cares. I will hang in there because I want the final result.

Linda

twokids · 05-09-2005, 09:26 AM

I think surgeons go to a class called "Cold Heart" in school! I don't think I have spent a total of 30 minutes total with mine (except for sugery). My surgeon has great staff to back him up!

Bypassingme619 · 05-09-2005, 11:12 AM

I did take into consideration that there were some emotional things going on in the office but I had that uncomfortable feeling way before the emotional sitautions occured. I am glad to know that I am still welcome here even though my out look is different then everybody here. I really wanted my surgery done there. I had come comfortable with the thought but thee first impression is an lasting impression. I do kind of wish things could have gone differently but of course everything works out for a reason. I am greatful to have you guys because you all have been great. I would like to think we all have something to learn and gain from eachother. God Bless you all for being such great individuals.

kristyann · 05-09-2005, 11:23 AM

I agree completely with you. If you do not feel comfortable definitely do something about it. I actually ran into something similar. I have not yet had my surgery however I have already went to my orientation, done all my testing and also met with the surgeons office. The very first day in my process was my orientation where one of the surgeons talked about every little detail with us. At that orientation I felt so uncomfortable with the surgeon. The whole time he was giving his presentation he was staring at me. I expect that from people who truly don't understand and when I am not around many other people of my size or bigger, however there were many my size and bigger there. Well anyways when I went to the surgeons office and met with the nurse practitioner she try to, and actually scheduled me to meet with the same surgeon that gave the seminar even though there were two others available. I didn't protest too much at the time because I felt very intimidated. However, once I got home and had time to think about it I realized that this is one of the most important things I will ever do and I need to make sure that everything is right for me, so I called the office and switched surgeons the next day. Since I made the switch I just feel so much better about the whole situation, I'm not even nervous about anything just anxious for my new lfe.

Bypassingme619 · 05-09-2005, 01:25 PM

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I was kind of doubting if I had or not but I just can not be in situations where I am very uncomfortable. Mainly when it involves such a very important part in my life. Kristy I hope all works out for the best for you on your New Life. We will all be losers soon enuff.

kristyann · 05-10-2005, 06:42 AM

Thanks Denise,
Good luck to you as well, soon enough we will be on the losing side.