Goin Crazy - ThinnerTimes

Hope · 04-16-2005, 05:44 PM

Hello again,

Is it normal to be completely consumed with the impending surgery? I cannot focus on ANYTHING else. I am having my surgery at a military hospital and the docs. still don't know if they are going to do lgb or rgb. My bmi is 52.8 and the largest lgb they have done is 47. I may go under thinking lgb and wake up with rgb. If they do the rgb they will be removing the old stomach and that scares me to death. How bad is the pain going to be really? and What is the hardest part those first few days? I guess I just want a reality check on what to realistically expect.

Most of my friends and family are totally against me having the surgery and only a handfull are completely for it. My husband and kids are cheering me on but I am scared that something will happen and I won't be here for them anymore. I guess that is my biggest fear, the biggest reason I am doing this is for them, I don't want to be a spectator in their lives anymore.

Help, I am driving myself crazy!

Lori K · 04-16-2005, 07:16 PM

Hope,
YES, it is "normal" to be preoccupied by the surgery. There is so much involved with the surgery both physically and emotionally. It's exciting yet scary at the same time. Even almost a year out, I'm still preoccupied by the surgery ramifications; weight loss, hanging skin, missing certain things I used to consume and the impact the weight loss has had on my relationships. If I can give you any advice it would be to stay clear of those who do not support you in your decision until you're on the other side. It only adds to the confusion you feel. If you've researched the surgery and are comfortable with your decision those people will only add stress to your life which you don't need now.
Yes, there is some pain after the surgery but it is nothing that you can't handle!!!
Good luck to you!
Lori
Open/Dr. Callery
5/10/04
259/129.5/130 BEAT MY GOAL!!!!

Groovey kinda Love · 04-16-2005, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Hope

Hello again,

Is it normal to be completely consumed with the impending surgery? I cannot focus on ANYTHING else. I am having my surgery at a military hospital and the docs. still don't know if they are going to do lgb or rgb. My bmi is 52.8 and the largest lgb they have done is 47. I may go under thinking lgb and wake up with rgb. If they do the rgb they will be removing the old stomach and that scares me to death. How bad is the pain going to be really? and What is the hardest part those first few days? I guess I just want a reality check on what to realistically expect.

Most of my friends and family are totally against me having the surgery and only a handfull are completely for it. My husband and kids are cheering me on but I am scared that something will happen and I won't be here for them anymore. I guess that is my biggest fear, the biggest reason I am doing this is for them, I don't want to be a spectator in their lives anymore.

Help, I am driving myself crazy!

Hi Hope,

I am right there with ya! I understand what you are going through and feeling as everyone else here does as well. My surgery is in less that a week and all i can think about is all the WHAT IF'S I am nervous and I want to know everything as well. I full confidence in my doc and I know I will be fine.

Just today my son said to me..... Mom you could die in this surgery, it is very dangerous.... your not that big, I had to reasure him that yes I am bigger than most people realize, and that people die in car accidents, in their sleep, watching tv ect.... the list goes on and when it is Gods time to call me home I won't beable to stand in the way. I have full comfort that my higher power is guiding the hands of my physician. God Bless hope and take care.

LizardQueen · 04-17-2005, 01:24 PM

Deep Breaths Everybody!! It's normal to be preoccupied with wls. try to find something to occupy your mind. Crafts, reading, housework, etc. It's going to happen! I was the same darn way! As far as the pain, it was pretty bad for me the first couple of days. The worst part was the dry mouth since I couldn't have liquids for 3 days (my docs policy yours may vary). I was so thirsty I thought I would die, but it passes as does the pain. I would do it 20 times over because I feel so much better and I have only lost 48 lbs. so far. Thats in 7 weeks. I'm missing a few fat rolls and I can actually get dressed without getting out of breath now. If you have questions let me know and I'll answer the best that I can. I only know how I felt and everyone is different. Best of Luck!!!!

Amber

LadyGigi · 04-17-2005, 04:30 PM

hi, I'm Cindy and I've been lurking here for about 2 months and suddenly see posts of exactly the way I'm feeling today. Trying to find a way to think about something other than surgery. Waiting is so hard. I have gone to all the pre-op meetings, met with Kelly a week and 1/2 ago, finished all the tests, etc. this last week and will send them down to Dr. Callery's office tomorrow. Then sit back and wait some more for the insurance to be approved and surgery scheduled
I wish I had spoken to more of those at the meeting on Thursday, the 7th, but I kinda sat back and just listened.
Dr. Callery is going to do my surgery, but I live about 5 hours north of San Diego.
I plan to schedule my post-op appts. around the meeting nites so I can attend when I'm down that way, but hope to find something also up in this area. How do I go about finding a support group up in my area?

Cindy