:(, surgery date changed 3/3/08 - ThinnerTimes

UuUuLaLa · 02-11-2008, 08:30 PM

Oh my ... what a horrible day.. here i am mentally physical preparing myself for this huge experience crying, worrying doubting and writing my last good-byes just in case something goes wrong with this surgery getting my Mom to take care of my kids.... protein diet for a week and last two days before surgery just liquids and fleet my but!,,, ugh! i was so ready preparing my tummy and shrinking my liver for this big procedure well Friday i came down with a soar throat and continued to get ugly .. very congested slept thru Saturday trying to heal drank some cough syrup and a hot tea to clear my chest and it did help but once i got to the Pre op to get ready for surgery today they prepared me, blood work IV put in place blood thinner shot.. last concerns with surgeon before surgery any questions??? he said then while i was saying bye to my hunni before i go in for surgery i started coughing i cough a little deep and doctor questioned me and said OHH no IM gonna have to change your date that's a horrible cough and you sound very congested that could give you problems after surgery... days in ventilator pneumonia and who knows what so lets be safe and get you back here March 3 and he also said i looked sick do to me crying my eyes were swollen a little but i did feel good and yeah a little congested he continued to say...all the germs going from your nose to your tummy will be gone and your cough will be gone and we can have a great recovery...so here i am... OK thinking in my head i rather be at home then stressed and worried and scarred so i jumped off changed and they pulled out my IV and i was sitting waiting for discharged from NO surgery thinking i will never go back to that its sooo scary!! i dont know how many times i just wanted to come back home because i was so worried they did not calm me down i was very scarred i really want this done and IM prepared for it all but gesh its an awful feeling...and after all that i get back home happy to see my kids and mother like if i had been away for a long time they ran out and hugged me felt good to be home like never before.. and the first thing my mother says is EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON IM so glad you did not do it you could do this on your own no need to be putting yourself and kids thru this just eat healthy and exercise and sooo on now here am crying wile i write this and IM sure IM not making any sense cause IM so upset now cause i will BE FAT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!! IM so tired have not ate or slept for couple days now so i feel terrible it was a wild ride i didn't even get on plus my job is on the line i was expected back to work by march so now i better start looking some where else for one IM sooo upset maybe its not really for me but IM sooo fat i need help!! anyway thanks to you all that said a prayer for me on this day hugs and thanks for being here so i can cry and let it all out xoxo

Toony · 02-11-2008, 08:44 PM

ooooh sweetie! What a horrid day for you! That happened to my DH once also --- all prepped for surgery and they uncovered his legs to reveal cellulitis... sent him packing home. Extremely disappointing for him - and even more so for you with all the prep work you'd done!!!

I wish I could say something to make it all better for you --- I feel your pain!

Rocky · 02-11-2008, 10:05 PM

What are you talking about?? "you will be fat for the rest of your life???" Please do not make such agreement with yourself. You can still have your surgery March 3rd. I know you feel awful right now but like they say doctor knows best and right now he thinks it is best to wait till you are feeling healthy from your cold.

I also had a slight cold on the weekend of my Monday surgery. Dr. Callery asked if I had a fever. No fever. Just runny nose, scratchy throat, & coughing. Then he asked if I am up to having surgery or if I would like to postpone surgery for in two weeks. I told him I feel okay to have the surgery. So then he ordered a chest xray and CBC. He said if my lungs have no fluids and my blood count was normal we will proceed with surgery. Everything was fine.

I must say the scratchy throat and coughing did added a little more discomfort to my recovery. But not any danger.

I hope you feel better. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

chiquita · 02-11-2008, 10:07 PM

Hugs Mina.

But hon it's for the best.. Pneumonia wears you out, surgery alone does that, don't need to add to it all. Last year I was sick 2 times in a row with penumonia and after that took so long to recover, no energy all I did was sit and eat, and I gained 50 lbs

(. But can you imagine coughing up a lot with fresh scars from surgery. I am sure the doctor was dissapointed as well, but he did it for your well been, just remember that he does cares enough to wait.
The 3rd is really not that far away, think only about getting well.

I was looking at your long long road to get to this point, and I don't want to say hey have it who cares what anyone else thinks, but hon, from my experience, I am so happy I have done this, I see the light at the end of the tunnel for once, I have hope that I will go into smaller clothes and have the energy to be a good mom for my kids. I am sure you can think of the many diets you have fail because we all have. This is your journey, hang in there and just think about getting better. Take Vitamin C and drink lots of fluids. And next time around at the hospital you ask them right away you need some anxiety meds to help you, don't wait, ask, it's your experience not theirs, so make it as good as you can and take charge.

Hugs, hope you get to feel better soon.

UuUuLaLa · 02-11-2008, 10:16 PM

exactly i needed something to relax me cause i was feeling horrible it was a terrible experience im a tough women but a sissy to the thought of going under but i was mentally prepared for the change and recovery plus the whole journey from day one has been a roller coaster making me doubt if this is really for me but yeah im just upset and fustrated thanks for reading hugs

katzz87 · 02-11-2008, 10:20 PM

If you chose to have this surgery...you will! This is all up to you in the long run. I think your doctor was correct in postponing your surgery if your cough was so bad. You do not want to get pneumonia while your body is trying to recover from major surgery!

I realize it was a terrible let down, but like your Mom said things happen for a reason...are you positive you want this surgery? Since you mentioned that you hopped down from the table, sounding kind of relieved that you got a "reprieve" from surgery. Take these extra few days and really, really, think about what YOU want! Either way...do what is best for YOU and YOU ALONE!

Good luck and hope you feel better.

Debri85 · 02-12-2008, 03:55 AM

Cheer up Sweetie, you're Mom is right and you gotta like a Doc who is responsible. Believe me, you don't want to be physically vulnerable having major surgery of any kind and it's normal to be worried...

As for your job, can you call them and explain what happened?

No matter what, you're in my thoughts....;-)

Deb

mommy_to_two · 02-12-2008, 04:45 AM

Mina ~ Hugs from me too! I would be very upset as well, but as everyone else has said, it is for the best. I hope you are feeling better soon, and March 3rd will be here sooner than you know it!!!

Joanne705 · 02-12-2008, 04:53 AM

I am so sorry this happened to you. I just want you to know I am thinking about you and hope you gain strength from all of us; whatever you decide.

((((((((big hug)))))))))

SeptemberDay · 02-12-2008, 06:24 AM

Poor thing! (((((BIG BIG HUGS)))) I feel just how drained you are and I just ache for your heart.

Listen, this past year for me was a big lesson on Dark Gifts. The things that are given to you that seem to be icky but are actually for the best. Let me explain. My grandfather had a heart attack. I was scared and sad but then I started to look at it as a gift. I hadn't seen him in about a year and this scare made me realize that I needed to spend more time with him. I had my back windshield busted one night and I was furious! They didn't leave a note or anything. It was going to cost me money I didn't have to fix it up! But it turned out that the cop who came to take my report had a wife in marketing who hired me for a job! These are Dark Gifts.

If you had the operation while you were sick, you could have died and then you WOULD have been "fat for your entire life". You were given a gift to have the surgery and live so that you would not be fat your entire life. Yay for you! I know it's hard to see it that way right now and you have every right to pout and be upset and we'll be here for you while you do that. But when you're ready to take a deep breath and get back on your feet and take your Dark Gift and be thankful, we'll be here for that,too. I'm so proud of you for coming here to vent! That alone takes some fire and shows that you ARE NOT finished yet! Yay Mina!!!!