is it normal to keep questioning the WLS decision? - ThinnerTimes

mommy_to_two · 01-18-2008, 10:54 AM

Did any of you constantly go back and forth on the WLS decision? I know what I have to do, but I still waiver a bit. I will have these fleeting thoughts that I may be making a mistake. Then other times, I feel so confident in my decision to pursue WLS? Please help!!!

rappaport · 01-18-2008, 11:01 AM

I think you can say it's absolutely normal. I changed my mind several times, but in the end, my co-morbidities and my desire to be able to spend time being active with my 9yr old made it an easy choice. I think the mind-changing is just a part of the addiction that got us here in the first place.

fisher1000 · 01-18-2008, 11:14 AM

It took me four years of going back and forth...and now I'm mad at myself for waiting. What you're feeling is normal...

-Mike

thedonnybrasco · 01-18-2008, 11:22 AM

I Went To The Pre Seminar And It Scared Me To Death And I Said No Way!
I Can Do This On My Own-this Is Way To Drastic.
Then Eight Months Later After 2 More Failed Attempts AT LOSING WEIGHT- I Knew It Was Time
I Really Think God Played A Hand In Me Getting This Surgery
I Just Knew It Was Right
And I Too Wish I Had Done It A Long Time Ago
Good Luck In Your Journey This Was Just Right For Me

rainrain · 01-18-2008, 11:36 AM

yup...normal

kellyMASS · 01-18-2008, 11:37 AM

I have been doing the same thing.Just remember its better to do it and be healthy.

chiquita · 01-18-2008, 04:01 PM

About 6 months ago I had made my mind I was going to do this, but I had to save for it since I have no insurance,, had saved 2000 and changed my mind so took the money and spent it,, then after failure after failure (I wasn't even able to last more then 2 days on a diet no more) I realized that at my age and at my weight and with my health the way it was heading, I be dead in a year or two, or as soon as I go through a nother 2 or 3 rounds of pneumonia, and that was no fun the last time so, started saving again.

Did I had doubts about doing this after I had gone to the doctors and started the process, yes I did, but staying in this group and reading all the great testimonies kept me going and gave me the strangth to carry through.

Want to know how much I still wavered? When I woked up from the anestesia first thing I did is started to laugh, The nurse giggled and said what I was laughing about, I asked her if it was too late to change my mind

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I am 11 days post-op, and still I think at times, what the heck have I done? I have to cook for my family and I cook all this delicious dishes and feed this to them and boy do I wish, but all it takes is looking at my Morb obese body and I smile cause I know I did the right thing. My back today is killing me, I did something to hurt it, and if I was in better shape, it would not hurt as much,,, a little insentive to keep moving forward, because you know the surgery, is just the beginning of a life long journey

taydavreg · 01-18-2008, 05:34 PM

im glad you posted this because i too am preop and have the same feelings. im getting ready to go to my 2nd appt where they schedule the surgery and i pay and all that. i am scared sick something will happen to me and i have 2 small children to think about. i know if i stay MO i will die early in life anyway but i keep thinking at least then my kids will be grown. i just feel so selfish doing something so drastic and risky! i keep feeling really down on myself because i have to do this to lose weight and i cant do it on my own. i feel ridiculous. thank goodness my DH is very supportive!

oh and another thing i started doing is keeping tabs of all the times i feel horrible about myself just in case i get buyers remorse after the surgery. i didnt want to look back and fool myself into thinking i was fine and shouldnt have went through with it. i can go back and read about every time i felt like i couldnt breathe, put my shoes on, ride the merry go round with my children, avoid a trip on an airplane, avoid a restaraunt with booths, every time i dreaded getting dressed in the morning because of the way i look, everytime i felt ashamed to be in a store that dont have plus sizes when shopping for my sister and having the clerks look at you like you are an alien, all the times strangers look at me like "oh my gosh", (that part may be in my imagination but i still felt like i saw it so i wrote it down), everytime my child couldnt wrap his arms all the way around me for a big hug, everytime i avoided sex with my husband and the times i didnt but didnt enjoy it because i was worried about what he was thinking, i could go on and on. i hope some of you can relate to what im saying. i just think it was a good idea to write this stuff down because people have a tendency to look back but never remember the really ugly things vividly.

csautumn · 01-18-2008, 09:21 PM

Thank you for this post. I'm 10 days out and up until this week I felt ok emotionally. Now I'm starting to stress. Cancelling the surgery is not an option or an issue...it'll happen on the 28th. But I have 5 children 2-17 y.o. and it's scary.... I read a post last night when someone posted about preparing in case something happened by seeing a lawyer and getting his affairs in order. Now I wonder should I write out the bills, the passwords, school and daycare info. etc...my husband doesn't have a clue. It hadn't crossed my mind until I read the post. I'm fully aware of the risks, but of course knew I was undoubtedly coming home. I don't know, I'll probably start taking the "happy" pills I take during my pms spells.

AnnieH · 01-18-2008, 10:22 PM

It is very normal!!! I am pre op and have been going back and forth so many times. What I am doing is keeping a daily journal - when I looked back last night, my very predominant feeling was definitely that this is the right decision. It is normal and even good to be scared - shows that we understand the implications of this surgery and dont take it too lightly. Start your own bariatric journal and note your feelings down every day - even if there's nothing new to say. Write down your pros and cons, worries, excitements etc.

I've been struggling with horrible anxiety - my surgery is only in May - and journalling has helped me quite a bit this week.

An