Fears creeping up - ThinnerTimes

Metamorph7 · 08-06-2007, 06:44 AM

I'm having trouble sleeping lately because I'm constantly thinking about what's the worst part of surgery and the recovery. I still have 4 months to go before my Lapro R-N-Y so I don't really want to be consumed by these unknown fears. Anyone want to share their stories with me? Maybe then I won't obsess as much if I hear about the experiences of people that have come through this.

LisaM · 08-06-2007, 06:50 AM

You're very normal... unfortunately, you just have a long time to wait. The best fear-soother for me was research, research, more research. The more I knew, the more I felt better about my choice.

Having said that, I still made out a holographic will, listed the possessions I wanted to go to various people, and made all the preparations I could for not coming back. Once I had done that, I felt better. There's a lot of talk on Thinner Times lately about fears--and I think part of the consensus would be that, the more you talk about your fears and the more accurately you name them, the better you're able to cope with them. This is a really good place to tha.

Fear of death in general is an unhealthy fear. We're all going to die eventually, and there's nothing you can do about it. Fear of this surgery, and possibly not living through it is HEALTHY fear. Of course you're scared! So, you do whatever's necessary to feel better about it until it's time, and then you leave it in your surgeon's hands and hope for the best. If you're not in pre-op counseling, you might consider it. It helped me.

JenBear7 · 08-06-2007, 07:56 AM

Maybe its a good thing you are getting these feelings now.. it will give you lots of time to read people stories where the surgery and recovery were cake.. (mine included..) There are many of us that didnt have the horrible recovery time. Granted there are just as many that go through hell week... Deal with it now. Turn your fear into knowledge.. and go in knowing you are going to do GREAT.. thats half the battle!