The Biggest Loss of my LIFE... - ThinnerTimes

ducky · 04-11-2006, 06:08 PM

The last thread i posted i was so excited, I just found out i was pregnant. I was 11 weeks and had my first ultrasound last monday. We got ready that day , my son was so excited and could not wait to see his pictures of his new baby brother or sister. I had my wls surgery in july so that was only 8-9 months ago. The doctors believe my insides were not completely healed and that caused stress on the baby, I found out that day the babies heart had stopped at 9 weeks. I am so angry, sad, hurt and just dont know why God did this. I know we are put to the test in life but we loved this baby very much even though we didnt meet it yet. I find it very hard to accept and i am now regreting this surgery. I know time heals but i just cant accept it right now.

Cinerbelle · 04-11-2006, 06:24 PM

No words can say how truely sorry I am about your loss. You will be in my thoughts. ((Hugs))

coptergirl · 04-11-2006, 07:45 PM

I am so sorry for your loss - you will be in my prayers...

LisaBoston · 04-11-2006, 07:54 PM

No words can describe your pain. I am very sorry for your loss. Take Care.

Stacieeg · 04-11-2006, 08:06 PM

I am very sorry also. You will be in my prayers.

Vibe1973 · 04-11-2006, 08:21 PM

I'm so sorry-- I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Jeanie · 04-11-2006, 09:20 PM

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. My bestfriend went through the same thing. She was almost 5 months pregnant. It was so hard to see her go through the pain. The good news is she had a healthy baby girl about a year and a half later.
I hope that you the pain gets easier. I know it will never go away totally.

Laura@BellaBabies · 04-11-2006, 10:43 PM

I am so sorry my heart breaks for you.

When I was pregnant with Sergio I was actually expecting twins. I had lost one early on. My heart was broken and it was very hard to explain to my children. They still question what happend to the "other" baby. They are 8,6 and 4. just try and take comfort in knowing that God just wanted your baby home with him. I know that in heaven my little one is with my Nana and Papa and I will see him/her again some day. (((((((hugs))))

chrisie_92020 · 04-11-2006, 10:59 PM

I wish there was a way for me to ease your pain. I had a miscarriage before my last son, he is now 5. My doctor at the time told me to be careful, because it would be much easier to get pregnant after the miscarriage and it was, he also told me that the chances of losing the next baby was very slim. I have my little boy now and the doctor was oh so right. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Gina · 04-12-2006, 09:07 AM

Ducky, I understand where you are.... Last April I found out I was pregnant... after 20 years of wanting another child... We were beside ourselves with joy. I did EVERYTHING the way they said. The morning I was scheduled for the ultrasound I started spotting ... they found no heartbeat and on May 19 I misscarriaged. I had just lost my daddy on March 1 as well.

I struggled with and still struggle with why God let it happen at all. I had accepted that there would be no more children, and to give my a child and take seems to be more than cruel.

I know that little soul is waiting for me in heaven and I will one day know it, and in the mean time my daddy had one of his grandchildren with him.

There is not a single thing that can be said to make this better. Just know that everyone here cares about you.