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mbrace · 02-04-2006, 09:39 PM

Hello everyone I just wanted to check in with everybody and let you know I am doing good I weighed 218 today from 262 day of surgery that is 44 pounds in 7 weeks amost eight I do not really know how I feel about this I think I thought that things would be going faster everyone tells me how great I look but I think my body may be going faster then my mind I still feel like a huge fat girl I caught myself eating more then normal today I think it is because it is almost that time of the month I was not eating bad stuff just more then normal spread out through out the day this is the first time since my surgery that I have thought hey I ate alot today I did not get sick so maybe it was just more then normal I worry that the surgery is not working for me like it does anyone else I guess everyone probably thinks that I wish it would be warm already so that I can get outside and run around

feeling discoureged Melissa

coptergirl · 02-04-2006, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mbrace

Hello everyone I just wanted to check in with everybody and let you know I am doing good I weighed 218 today from 262 day of surgery that is 44 pounds in 7 weeks amost eight I do not really know how I feel about this I think I thought that things would be going faster everyone tells me how great I look but I think my body may be going faster then my mind I still feel like a huge fat girl I caught myself eating more then normal today I think it is because it is almost that time of the month I was not eating bad stuff just more then normal spread out through out the day this is the first time since my surgery that I have thought hey I ate alot today I did not get sick so maybe it was just more then normal I worry that the surgery is not working for me like it does anyone else I guess everyone probably thinks that I wish it would be warm already so that I can get outside and run around

feeling discoureged Melissa

Um...sweetie...you have lost 43 pounds that will be gone FOREVER! At what other time in your life have you ever lost 43 pounds in 7 weeks never to regain it again?! What you deserve is a pat on the back and an "attagirl" - you are doing great!! Keep on keeping on, love

Dyann · 02-05-2006, 07:19 AM

You have lost almost 40% of your excess weight in less than 2 months. Average is 50% at 6 months so regain some perspective here. You are doing better than great. Keep up the good work and you will be at goal before you know it.

SAMI'S GRAM · 02-05-2006, 07:39 AM

44 lbs in 8 weeks is way ahead of where I was at that same time. You're doing great! It's like you said, we all go through the " I'm the one person this surgery is not going to work for" stage. And don't forget those wonderful hormones. They are our best friends or our worst enemies. Get through this next week and you'll start to fee a lot better.

Martha

Bypassingme619 · 02-05-2006, 08:37 AM

Melissa that is a normal reaction a lot of us have post-op. The feeling it is going to work for us or you question if you have even really had surgery. You have to remember that now that your healing has advanced you will be able to eat a little more as the weeks come to past. No one eats exactly the same amount they did a couple of weeks post-op. Don't beat your self up. Have you started to drink with any of your meals? Watch out for that, that could allow you to consume more as well. Melissa is there a gym near you, you seem discourage because you are not able to get out and workout the way you want to. Do you have any workout videos? Stay postive and focused, don't get sidetracked by to many of your thoughts about you not losing fast enough or you can't really noticed. Its not how much is coming off when you want it but the fact that it is coming off and not pilling back on. Take pictures so you can see your progress, pictures help alot.

Mavisavis · 02-05-2006, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by mbrace

Hello everyone I just wanted to check in with everybody and let you know I am doing good I weighed 218 today from 262 day of surgery that is 44 pounds in 7 weeks amost eight I do not really know how I feel about this I think I thought that things would be going faster everyone tells me how great I look but I think my body may be going faster then my mind I still feel like a huge fat girl I caught myself eating more then normal today I think it is because it is almost that time of the month I was not eating bad stuff just more then normal spread out through out the day this is the first time since my surgery that I have thought hey I ate alot today I did not get sick so maybe it was just more then normal I worry that the surgery is not working for me like it does anyone else I guess everyone probably thinks that I wish it would be warm already so that I can get outside and run around

feeling discoureged Melissa

Melissa,

Hey there....nice to see you posting. Just hang in there and keep working on it. That is a great weight loss. That is ahead of target from what I can tell. You are at the point where mine slowed down, so don't get discouraged! You are doing great.

Ryn · 02-05-2006, 02:22 PM

I had surgery the day before you and I am stuck at -37

I only lost a pound last week and I upped my protein, too!

Domus · 02-05-2006, 02:30 PM

I think that sometimes with this surgery we fall into the trap of knowing one thing intellectually, but feeling something entirely different emotionally. I'm sure i'm not alone when i say that there have been plenty of times that i've spoken to others about the surgery and said, "i'm not interested in losing quickly, i just want to lose slow and steady and keep it off." Now yes, there is an element of that for me...that's my logical, rational side. That's the side that doesn't want to get my hopes up too far and be disappointed.
Then there is my emotional side...this is the side that says "f***k slow and steady, i want it all gone in 2 months!!" lol.
As for still feeling like the "huge fat girl", you are entirely right - your body is going faster than your mind. We spend a lifetime seeing our body's image in a specific way. When the physical reality of that changes, it takes an awful lot longer for us to truly accept what we see in the mirror.

Don't be discouraged Melissa, your surgery is working, but remember this was major surgery and it will still take quite some time for your body to adjust...this is merely one of many stages you will go through. And hey, it may not be warm out, but you can still wrap up warm and get out anyway. Go stretch those legs and blow a few cobwebs away

Mavisavis · 02-05-2006, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Domus

I think that sometimes with this surgery we fall into the trap of knowing one thing intellectually, but feeling something entirely different emotionally. I'm sure i'm not alone when i say that there have been plenty of times that i've spoken to others about the surgery and said, "i'm not interested in losing quickly, i just want to lose slow and steady and keep it off." Now yes, there is an element of that for me...that's my logical, rational side. That's the side that doesn't want to get my hopes up too far and be disappointed.
Then there is my emotional side...this is the side that says "f***k slow and steady, i want it all gone in 2 months!!" lol.
As for still feeling like the "huge fat girl", you are entirely right - your body is going faster than your mind. We spend a lifetime seeing our body's image in a specific way. When the physical reality of that changes, it takes an awful lot longer for us to truly accept what we see in the mirror.

Don't be discouraged Melissa, your surgery is working, but remember this was major surgery and it will still take quite some time for your body to adjust...this is merely one of many stages you will go through. And hey, it may not be warm out, but you can still wrap up warm and get out anyway. Go stretch those legs and blow a few cobwebs away

Very good points you've made. I do say slow and steady, and I do mean it intellectually.......but slow feels sometimes like failure. That fear that I won't get where I want to be creeps in. And I do still feel fat sometimes, and much thinner all at the same time. It's so mental.

My BF admits he just doesn't get that part of it. He's like, "You look great, you feel great, you look younger, you're basking in the afterglow of shopping for new clothes......how the heck would you feel fat?" But it just can't catch up......and besides, I never want to lose touch of my old fat girl. She is wise and strong, and has true compassion for others.