Gotta Vent! - ThinnerTimes

Lojak7 · 01-09-2006, 02:30 PM

First off...Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all! I hope the Holiday season was spectacular for everyone! Ok....so I'm at work 2 days ago, I had to eat lunch #2, so I had 4 oz of chicken breast and 1 cup of endive greens w/ a table spoon of olive oil, and balsmic vin. Good satification. So one of my co-workers wals by while I'm eating, shakes her finger and says "i wouldn't eat too much, your gonna gain everything back" I looked at her and said "I need to eat, If I don't I will Fu****g die dumba**." She looked at me and just shook her head. Now this co-worker is about 5'2" and weighs about 195 lbs. I'm not judging her by her weight, but WTF....why does everyone feel the need to comment on my menu choice or just me eating in general. I have lost 251 lbs in 11 months tomorrow. I am where I want to be, I workout 6 days a week, I eat between 1500-and 2000 cals a day, I calculate my cals/ protien/ carbs/fat. Take my vitamins, drink my water, do everything I am supposed to....so why the critisim...What I am venting is about, is why can't people just say "hey, your looking good or just say nothing at all." I regularly get, "I hope you do not gain your weight back." I still not done yet....sorry just needed to vent.....Oh yeah, for the first time in my life I am NORMAL according to the BMI chart. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I would be 188lbs.....the last time I weighed this was in 8th grade....again...thanks for all of the support, If I can do anything for anyone...I am a few keystrokes away.....Keep fighting!

Dyann · 01-09-2006, 03:01 PM

People are waiting for us to fail. The only thing they like mocking more than an obese person, is one who was formerly obese and gains it back. Human nature and it is wrong. If you keep it off it was because you had surgery, not because of hard work. If you gain any, they are waiting in the wings with a glare and whispers of I told you so. Screw them all. Keep doing what you are doing. It is obviously working. Tell her that you would never be so rude to comment about her food or weight, she should do the same and worry about what goes in her own mouth.

LizardQueen · 01-09-2006, 03:24 PM

Welcome to my world! It has gotten so bad for me at work with evryone telling me what I should/shouldn't eat that I have decided when i go back on Jan 23 that I'm not going to eat at work anymore. I'll just eat before or after. Just try to ignore the ones who want you to fail-they are everywhere! I know it sucks but there is nothing you can do to change the minds of ignorant uninformed morons!

Gladitsme · 01-09-2006, 03:39 PM

Lojack,
You have come so incredibly far, I hope you can grin and ignore the ones who are trying to mess with your head. You have worked waaaayyy too hard to let someone else have free rent in your mind.

And, it sounds like she could use some slap therapy.

Blueyz · 01-09-2006, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Lojak7

First off...Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all! I hope the Holiday season was spectacular for everyone! Ok....so I'm at work 2 days ago, I had to eat lunch #2, so I had 4 oz of chicken breast and 1 cup of endive greens w/ a table spoon of olive oil, and balsmic vin. Good satification. So one of my co-workers wals by while I'm eating, shakes her finger and says "i wouldn't eat too much, your gonna gain everything back" I looked at her and said "I need to eat, If I don't I will Fu****g die dumba**." She looked at me and just shook her head. Now this co-worker is about 5'2" and weighs about 195 lbs. I'm not judging her by her weight, but WTF....why does everyone feel the need to comment on my menu choice or just me eating in general. I have lost 251 lbs in 11 months tomorrow. I am where I want to be, I workout 6 days a week, I eat between 1500-and 2000 cals a day, I calculate my cals/ protien/ carbs/fat. Take my vitamins, drink my water, do everything I am supposed to....so why the critisim...What I am venting is about, is why can't people just say "hey, your looking good or just say nothing at all." I regularly get, "I hope you do not gain your weight back." I still not done yet....sorry just needed to vent.....Oh yeah, for the first time in my life I am NORMAL according to the BMI chart. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I would be 188lbs.....the last time I weighed this was in 8th grade....again...thanks for all of the support, If I can do anything for anyone...I am a few keystrokes away.....Keep fighting!

My goodness...I didn't even recognize you....you have done so well. People just don't know how to say positive things. Keep doing what you are doing and vent away. That is what we are here for.

coptergirl · 01-09-2006, 06:09 PM

Lojack - keep on doing what you're doing as you are doing it great! Like Dyann said, if someone says something you could simply reply that you don't comment on their diet, so you would appreciate them not commenting on yours. This woman was also probably a bit jealous of your incredible success - you have so much to be proud of!

tryintolaughitoff · 01-09-2006, 11:16 PM

I have experienced the same things in the work place so I completely understand. But you should be proud of yourself!!!! And for lack of a better word...screw everyone who tries to criticize. You know the main reason people put others down is to try and make themselves feel better.

alikat · 01-10-2006, 03:08 AM

You know a week ago I posted that people at work had not commented on my weight loss at all, well one did yesterday. She said, here you go skinny as she handed me a file, I replied "not quite yet but getting there" to which she replied "yeah, and you know it really sucks watching it because you don't even have to work for it like the rest of us"

Now mind you, I would never speak to my boss that way, so it just shows the level of ignorance in the work place of today. Also, my husband put it well, he said hun, these are not your friends, or family, so why do you care what they think?

But overall, I am still left with the sentiment that PEOPLE SUCK.

Bypassingme619 · 01-10-2006, 06:03 AM

First off let me say I am so proud of you. You are doing better then amazing. There is a topic about Star Jones and her not wanting to expose her method of losing as much weight as she has. This is one good explain why. Sometimes when you open yourself to certain people they will pick on your weakness. As much weight as you lost I would be high-fiving you every moring at work, instead of watching what it is you eat or making none-of-yo-business comments. You have are doing the dang thing. To know what you are doing and how far you have come in under a year gives me motivation to stay focused and on track. Stay focused and on the road you are on now. Congrats on your success and your continued success.

CiCi · 01-10-2006, 06:40 AM

Sad as it is, Dyann is right. People are waiting for us to fail, then they can say "told you so". Luckily, those of us on this board understand one another. I spent too many years caring what others thought of me... I still do to some extent, but I'm in a better place and can blow off the rude, ignorant comments. Or I face them head on and let someone know how stupid they are.

Hang in there!