3 weeks post op (having mixed feelings) - ThinnerTimes

yvy14 · 01-06-2006, 01:59 AM

Wishing everyone a happy new year

Well i finally had my op on 16/12/05, it all went well even the surgeon couldn't believe my speedy recovery.
I have been having mixed feelings about this operation, i have been in tears for the last week and half thinking to myself have i done the right thing or not, as all i have wanted to do is eat and drink normally, i think this has a lot to do with it been christmas. I keep trting to look past these first few weeks and think to myself just think in 6 months i will be able to wear nice summer clothes and not have to hide myself away. But this all seems so distant.
Are these feeling normal ? or am i just mad.
I also feel as if i have just been forgotten about because i have had such a speedy recovery, i was suppose to have a 2 week follow up ans they hospital forgot about me i have had to chase the appointment up myself, my doctors don't know much about the in's and out's of the operation so they didn't know what vitamins to prescribe me. No wonder i have been feeling so low.
Well that is enough of my moaning for now, i will keep you posted on my success.
Love to all yvonne xxxx

Bypassingme619 · 01-06-2006, 03:48 AM

Yvonne first off Big Hugs sweety, I am sure most of what you are feeling is hormonal. It is very ruff at first but better days are ahead. I know things are taken care of differently in the UK but I am concerned with the lack of care you are not getting. This is a very serious operation. OK do you have a seperate doctor you see outside of the doctor who performed your surgery? Is there another way you could find one who is a little more educated in WLS patients? Yvonne have you done any of your own research as far as what kin of vitamins to take and how much protein to take in daily? I hope in time things will get better, hang in there, it really does get better but you have to believe that as well.

Brooke220 · 01-06-2006, 05:55 AM

The first month or two were so difficult for me. It gets so much better. You'll finally figure out what pills or vitamins you can take without problem and you'll be so excited about your weight loss you won't care so much that you can't pig out anymore.

LisaM · 01-06-2006, 05:58 AM

Denise has it pegged - and my dietician even warned me and it still took me by surprise. Right at the 3- to 4-week mark, your hormones flip right out. It's sort of like massive PMS without the cramps. And, since the surgery is the biggest thing in your life right now, that's what stays on your mind. Most of us did EXACTLY the same thing, felt the same way. It does get better--you will not always feel the way you do right now, I promise.

I'll put it this way - my husband scheduled a business trip for that time period, and was very glad he did.

Mavisavis · 01-06-2006, 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by yvy14

Wishing everyone a happy new year

Well i finally had my op on 16/12/05, it all went well even the surgeon couldn't believe my speedy recovery.
I have been having mixed feelings about this operation, i have been in tears for the last week and half thinking to myself have i done the right thing or not, as all i have wanted to do is eat and drink normally, i think this has a lot to do with it been christmas. I keep trting to look past these first few weeks and think to myself just think in 6 months i will be able to wear nice summer clothes and not have to hide myself away. But this all seems so distant.
Are these feeling normal ? or am i just mad.
I also feel as if i have just been forgotten about because i have had such a speedy recovery, i was suppose to have a 2 week follow up ans they hospital forgot about me i have had to chase the appointment up myself, my doctors don't know much about the in's and out's of the operation so they didn't know what vitamins to prescribe me. No wonder i have been feeling so low.
Well that is enough of my moaning for now, i will keep you posted on my success.
Love to all yvonne xxxx

This is a great place to get the info you need for after surgery health needs. It's a shame your own docs aren't up on it. The vitamins and supplements are very important to your health. I agree with the others, the emotional and hormonal effects of the surgery can flip us out a little......or a lot.

Try and talk or journal yourself through it. I used to tell myself, "I know this feels really real and imortant right now, but normally I would not think so.....so later I'll see that this is just hormones." It basically worked......I didn't ruin any important relationships....and noone got hurt!

Hang in there.......I hope you feel back to yourself soon. Keep posting.

Mavisavis · 01-06-2006, 06:53 AM

Oh, as for the food thing..........get out there and find some interests, hobbies, friends.....anything you can safely and healthfull enjoy to fill your life and take foods place.

CiCi · 01-06-2006, 07:10 AM

Things are MUCH better after the first couple of months. Give your body time to heal and adjust - which is easier said than done, I know! You really will start to feel better... it just doesn't seem like it right now!

queenzed · 01-06-2006, 08:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by yvy14

Wishing everyone a happy new year

Well i finally had my op on 16/12/05, it all went well even the surgeon couldn't believe my speedy recovery.
I have been having mixed feelings about this operation, i have been in tears for the last week and half thinking to myself have i done the right thing or not, as all i have wanted to do is eat and drink normally, i think this has a lot to do with it been christmas. I keep trting to look past these first few weeks and think to myself just think in 6 months i will be able to wear nice summer clothes and not have to hide myself away. But this all seems so distant.
Are these feeling normal ? or am i just mad.
I also feel as if i have just been forgotten about because i have had such a speedy recovery, i was suppose to have a 2 week follow up ans they hospital forgot about me i have had to chase the appointment up myself, my doctors don't know much about the in's and out's of the operation so they didn't know what vitamins to prescribe me. No wonder i have been feeling so low.
Well that is enough of my moaning for now, i will keep you posted on my success.
Love to all yvonne xxxx

I think this happens to a lot of us. For the first month I was so depressed. My husband and 9 year old daughter can eat whatever they want and not gain a pound. Everytime they ate something I would start to tear up, they didn't want to eat in front of me but I made them! I would cry to my husband and say "I will never eat again, boo whooo whooo". Now I look back and giggle about it. It is the inital shock and getting used to the new you stage. Once you start eating solids, and a more regular diet, it gets better. I would turn back for the world! Hang in there!

Scarbelly · 01-06-2006, 11:18 AM

Hey, it does get better! I post op 10 days before you and just this last week I noticed I was getting much more energy and generally feeling alot better all at once. You're almost there! As the weight starts to come off you will begin to notice things that are changing in a positive way. Example, getting that weight off your knees and noticing they dont creak and moan when you get up is nice, as is laying down in bed and not feeling that weight on your neck that makes it difficult to breath comfortably laying down; gone! Feeling like you can take real breaths because that tire wrapped around your chest just under the boob line is reduced; wonderful! It probably will take a while for others to notice your weight loss but believe me, your body notices and thanks you. Yes, there are some sacrifices but try to remember what your're gaining every day that goes by and how this just wasn't possible without the surgery. Good luck!

Ryn · 01-06-2006, 01:52 PM

Yvonne
I am right there with you! I am off work and watch Food Network all day. It loooks so GOOD. But anything in real life just looking or smelling it makes me nauseous. I dont miss food that much although Bridgette is getting to me with all her talk of apples

. What I wouldn't do for an apple...that and pizza. Okay I do miss it a bit. But people eating around me doesn't bother me, except to make me sick.

I have been pretty depressed as I have mentioned in other threads, but I am in no pain. When hell week was mentioned I thought it was more of a pain thing. I think it is all emotional to me, that and the itching which is slooowing down.