Bad day Friday and still upset - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

veroniquetalk · 11-12-2005, 08:42 AM

What an AWESOME teacher!!

11-12-2005, 09:18 AM

I just read you post from last week and wanted to share something that has happened to me a couple times recently.

I walk into the ladies room and see a loving mom with her child. She is smiling and her child is so in love with her. They are laughing and she is a wonderful mom. Both times this happened one was leaving the rest room and the other was washing her childs hands. Both times my heart was so warmed with how lovely this scene was. Both moms were M.O., both moms stopped laughing with there child when they saw me. I smiled and said hi to the child and yet that look I got from the moms was one so familiar.

Why familiar? It was the same look I had when I felt like some one was judging me, because I was heavy. It struck me as strange that now I was the enemy. Assumed that I would judge them. I wanted to cry. Not because they had me all wrong, but because I had everyone else all wrong.

So many times I assumed someone judged me for my weight bacuase they were not heavy, they must be judging me.

The moral of this long story is that even when something obvious happens, like when the child said something, we tend to already be beaten up because of all the times we "think" someone has judged us. I ruined so much valuable time feeling bad about myself.

I want to tell every heavy woman, to stop assuming and keep loving your self and your children and realize you do deserve the love of the people who love you!!!

o.k. thats my soap box.

Had to say it!

R

annemarie · 11-13-2005, 12:26 PM

Like someone said earlier, that childs parent is the root of the problem, I raised my children (3 boys) to respect people and I explained to them why they must not judge. I used to feel self concious because when my boys were in high school they played sports and I was the fattest team mom, but you know they always hugged me before and after there games in front of anyone who wanted to see and you know that was all that mattered to me my kids loved me for who I was and they are proud of me for taking this step of surgery because they know I will live longer and I will be healthy. I think the bigger issue is the perception of obese people in this country and how it is ok to say snide remarks or make jokes, I have been pasted up for promotions in my job. One time in Seatle my sister and I were not served at a resturant. You hear comedians say things like fat people should not wear shorts, but you know if I wore shorts it was because it was 90 degrees. You know if that child had said look that lady is a cripple, it would of been more than a talking to. When I was trying to get approved for my surgery I wrote letters to the govener to my congressmen about recognizing obeseity for the illness it is, just like someone who drinks or suffers from any disease. Ok I'll get off my soapbox I relize I am preaching to the......