Do you ever feel your doing it wrong? - ThinnerTimes

D's Hope · 10-30-2005, 06:24 PM

For some reason I feel like Im doing it wrong, like it's not going to work for me. I know that this is also a mental thing and having the wrong mentality can sabotage everything. I am just so new at this. I see bits and pieces changing, but for some reason I dont think it is working. Like I wonder how big my pouch ACTUALLY is. Maybe its a mental thing and I really can have more than what they say. But at the same time, I dont want to test it. I totally trust my surgeon, but sometimes I wonder if he actually did the procedure. Maybe its because Im feeling better. Maybe its because I will be moving on to food soon. Maybe I find it mentally rewarding that I have actually gone this long on just liquids. I dont know, I guess I am just feeling doubtful.

Did/does anyone ever feel like this?

Thanks in advance,
Hope

Peckkale · 10-30-2005, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by D's Hope

For some reason I feel like Im doing it wrong, like it's not going to work for me. I know that this is also a mental thing and having the wrong mentality can sabotage everything. I am just so new at this. I see bits and pieces changing, but for some reason I dont think it is working. Like I wonder how big my pouch ACTUALLY is. Maybe its a mental thing and I really can have more than what they say. But at the same time, I dont want to test it. I totally trust my surgeon, but sometimes I wonder if he actually did the procedure. Maybe its because Im feeling better. Maybe its because I will be moving on to food soon. Maybe I find it mentally rewarding that I have actually gone this long on just liquids. I dont know, I guess I am just feeling doubtful.

Did/does anyone ever feel like this?

Thanks in advance,
Hope

Okay young lady.... I don't recall giving you permission to copy and paste out of my diary!

I think we all experience this at the early stages. At about 3 months out you will see the results beginning to show.

For me it was when my husband snapped a pic of my dog and caught my face in the pic. I was shocked to see that my round face now was oval with defined cheeks.

Now at 4 1/2 months out I have a turkey neck and I praying it will go away so if anyone reading this knows of a few neck exercises please share!

You will do fine! Your new pouch will see to that and soon.....Really soon you will begin to see the new you begin to peek through! Have faith and stay on track!

feliciaespinoza · 10-30-2005, 08:28 PM

You should not worry so much you CAN'T do it wrong cause its already done your job is to listen to your doc's instructions and follow them best you can you will see the weight start to melt off and when you do your worry about if you are doing it right will no longer be an issue then the issue becomes ok have I stopped losing, because we sometimes plateau and stop losing for a week or two while our bodies adjust your new pouch is about the size of a lime maybe a tad bit bigger depending on your surgeon but usually its the size of a lime we often worry am I streaching it out how come I can eat so much more on some days then on others (when you start solid foods) it is mostly all mental you will be worried about streaching it out its almost impossible to streach you new pouch out in the first year unless you are eating normal size portions of food like before surgery so very very unlikely your pouch will streach until you get further out then yes it does streach a little but really not much more then the size of a lemon so you should not worry. Mentally it is definately a challange in almost everything you do and every step you take and it usually doesnt stop when you are all better and you are months or even years out there are always thos mental issues about accepting the new you and how people see you now and the Drastic changes that you have been through some people can handle it on their own and some people need professional help it all just depends on the individual so be patient and know that if you are following your doctors orders in the diet dept and drinking your water and walking like you should be then you will have no worries about weight gain or if you are doing it right. I hope this helped if you have anymore questions put them out there someone is sure to answer. Good luck to ya and your journey into your new improved life.

got2bthin · 10-30-2005, 10:32 PM

Hey Neighbor,

I am right there with you when it comes to those feelings! I am a Dr. Paya patient as well! I had my surgery 8-8-05 and I wonder if I am doing everything right too. I've lost 50lbs so far according to my scale so I know that I must be doing something right! I have an appointment to see him this week so I will find out for sure just how well I am doing. Don't worry too much....as long as you follow his orders you should do just fine!

Have you been to any of the support groups yet?

D's Hope · 10-30-2005, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by got2bthin

Hey Neighbor,

I am right there with you when it comes to those feelings! I am a Dr. Paya patient as well! I had my surgery 8-8-05 and I wonder if I am doing everything right too. I've lost 50lbs so far according to my scale so I know that I must be doing something right! I have an appointment to see him this week so I will find out for sure just how well I am doing. Don't worry too much....as long as you follow his orders you should do just fine!

Have you been to any of the support groups yet?

I havent been to any yet, from the time I saw him to the time I had the surgery I think there was only one in that time. I will be going to the support groups at Encino Hospital since I work in the medical building a half a block away. Oh Im so glad you posted! While I know that everyone is supportive of everyone, sometimes I feel left out because I dont know anyone.

Anyway, If you happen to go to Encino Support Group's I really hope to meet you, I think it would be wonderful.

Thanks again,
Hope

suzanne · 10-31-2005, 05:42 AM

I felt like this to, that it was all a big trick. Then one day I ate a little to much and it came up, I realized then it wasn't a fake. Hang in there girl it is going to happen for you.

LizardQueen · 10-31-2005, 07:53 AM

We have all had that very same feeling! It's normal! We can all tell you a thousand times that it is working etc. but, you've got to get past this thing in your head, Sweetie! I wish I had a magic answer, but give it some time. We have all failed at dieting so many times that it's unbelieveable that we may not fail at something. Our attitudes didn't become this way over night and they won't change overnight. You can and will succeed! I didn't know anyone here at first either! I still haven't ever met anybody from here (I want to so badly!

)but I feel like I know all of you! The worst part of wls (my opinion) is not the pain or dietary restrictions. It is all the mental stuff that goes on, but we can deal with this! I'm still dealing with stuff! I can't look at myself and realize that I'm thin. I can't go buy clothes without my kids to help guide me away from XL and L clothes. In my mind, that is where I think I should be even though I know logically that I'm not. Hell, I refused to try on a medium coat because I knew I couldn't be that small, but I am. You will get past this and then you'll be on to the next phase like me. The good news is, we will all get through this TOGETHER!!! Big hugs to you!

D's Hope · 10-31-2005, 08:14 AM

everyone for such encouraging words. It really does help to know Im not alone in my crazy illogical thinking. It means the world, it really does.

Thank you
Hope

sbjim5755 · 10-31-2005, 08:46 AM

I feel like that every single day. I wonder and I sipping too much at one time...am I getting enough water or protein.....am I exercising enough. I am following the guidelines my doc gave me so I guess I shouldn't worry and just keep concentrating on sipping and walking. You will do great.....just focus on what needs to be done and let that pouch heal!!! Good luck

got2bthin · 10-31-2005, 11:08 AM

I hear ya.......everyone here is absolutly wonderful, but it's nice to hear from someone closer to home, especially the same doctor! I had my surgery at West Hills Hopsital and that is where the supoort groups are for me. I have not yet been to one since I have had surgery (Shame, Shame), but I plan on going to the one this week (NOV. 3rd @ 7:00 pm Cafeteria). If you happened to swing by....would love to meet you in person! If not, we'll always have this forum!