Coming up on a year... - ThinnerTimes

JennaM · 10-23-2005, 12:05 PM

and I have lost more than half my body weight, and it's still coming off. I can't afford to lose anymore. I've been having problems with my ability to eat enough. Almost everything I eat makes me feel awful for about 45 minutes. So I hrdly eat. My pcp said I'm starving and my body is breaking down. lots of ketones in my urine. I need to get back into the support group. I've been going through alot in the last few months. My marraige is one of teh ones that did not survive gbs. I miss you all and need some love, support and encouragement. I'm reaching out.

LizardQueen · 10-23-2005, 12:56 PM

Jenna, I have missed you! I'm sorry to hear about the marriage, Sweetie. Hey, I know I'm a zillion miles away, but if there is anything I can do or you just want to talk, I'm only a PM away! Do you think the eating problem is mostly emotional or do you think there is something physically wrong? Get into to see a doc ASAP! An anti-depressant might help you out for a little while or some therapy. Have you seen your surgeon lately? Might be a good idea to get into see him/her and see if there is a physical aspect to your eating problem. Glad to see you back. Big hugs to you and we are all here for you!!!!

BethBaugh · 10-23-2005, 01:06 PM

Sorry to hear of your problems. One of the only times I've been thinner than now was we a was in a deep depression after my frst husband left. So you could be having emotion and or physical issues with your eating. Life goes on and can get better. I now have a loving, compassionate husband who I can set my clock by. LOVING IT! Come back often. We're here for you.

JennaM · 10-23-2005, 01:18 PM

Thank you, I think you both may be right about the emotional part. I am under so much stress emotionally and finacially ( he's not helping me at all) not to mention physically. I was a homemaker for 6 years and was dependant on him, now I have to take care of myself ( not something I'm used to doing) I haven't opened up to my Dr too much about everything. I skipped my 9 month (well never scheduled it) followup. I need to get in to see Dr C or Kelly. I'm so broke I can't spare the copay so I just don't do it. I know I'm making excuses. Maybe by writing this I'll just get off my ass and do what needs to be done, tommorrow is a new day, and it's monday so I'll call the office. Thanks again, I need all the encouragment I can get cuz I'm not taking good care of myself.

SDphotogrl99 · 10-23-2005, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by JennaM

and I have lost more than half my body weight, and it's still coming off. I can't afford to lose anymore. I've been having problems with my ability to eat enough. Almost everything I eat makes me feel awful for about 45 minutes. So I hrdly eat. My pcp said I'm starving and my body is breaking down. lots of ketones in my urine. I need to get back into the support group. I've been going through alot in the last few months. My marraige is one of teh ones that did not survive gbs. I miss you all and need some love, support and encouragement. I'm reaching out.

Support group Tuesday night at Rains house if you wanna go. Its North County and I see you are in Carlsbad.

JennaM · 10-23-2005, 01:31 PM

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Support group Tuesday night at Rains house of you wanna go. Its North County and I see you are in Carlsbad.

I saw that and replied on the thread asking for directions, Thanks.

HeatherT · 10-23-2005, 01:59 PM

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My marraige is one of teh ones that did not survive gbs. I miss you all and need some love, support and encouragement. I'm reaching out.

you know i am only a few days post op and my marriage is rocky too all of a sudden - and i have only lost about 12 lbs from my consult and pre-op but all of a sudden my husband is really pushing my buttons - saying things like he know when i am skinny i will find someone else who makes more money & will make me happy i dont know what the deal is but its a little scary so i want you to know i am sorry so for you! & remember we are here for you!

Qweets · 10-23-2005, 02:40 PM

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you know i am only a few days post op and my marriage is rocky too all of a sudden - and i have only lost about 12 lbs from my consult and pre-op but all of a sudden my husband is really pushing my buttons - saying things like he know when i am skinny i will find someone else who makes more money & will make me happy i dont know what the deal is but its a little scary so i want you to know i am sorry so for you! & remember we are here for you!

Is your husband kind of overweight as well? I think he just might be worried that you wont be attracted to him anymore and get some other guy because of your weight loss.. Just show him that he means alot to you and i'm sure things will smooth over.

Blueyz · 10-23-2005, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by JennaM

and I have lost more than half my body weight, and it's still coming off. I can't afford to lose anymore. I've been having problems with my ability to eat enough. Almost everything I eat makes me feel awful for about 45 minutes. So I hrdly eat. My pcp said I'm starving and my body is breaking down. lots of ketones in my urine. I need to get back into the support group. I've been going through alot in the last few months. My marraige is one of teh ones that did not survive gbs. I miss you all and need some love, support and encouragement. I'm reaching out.

Jenna,

Sorry to hear about your marriage. WLS is rough on a relationship. I feel very lucky to have made it through. Please hang in there because it will get better. I think a lot of your weight loss and non-ability to eat is from the strees of your relationship crumbling. It is not your fault and remember that you have all of us to lean on. I can't wait to see you....I probably won't even recognize you because it has been so long since I saw you...at the last Poway meeting....that was when you were talking about your marriage. I am sure maybe you won't even recognize me either. Also, you must try and see Dr. C because it is very important. Maybe, he will waive your co-pay if you tell him of your financial hardship right now. He is more worried about his patients and their well-being and not worried about the $$$$. He is a genuine person. Take it easy Jenna girl!!

HeatherT · 10-23-2005, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Qweets

Is your husband kind of overweight as well? I think he just might be worried that you wont be attracted to him anymore and get some other guy because of your weight loss.. Just show him that he means alot to you and i'm sure things will smooth over.

he is NOT overweight at all which is why i felt embarrassed as i have put on so much weight i felt huge next to his perfect size...and well to him i was just fine at my size but he said he understood why i wanted to be smaller but has been weird - so i will just keep reminding him why i choose to do this and that i love him i do think he is a great husband most of the time