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Godsblessedme · 04-29-2008, 12:25 PM

My dear Mina,
I know how your feeling. As was said to me THINK POSITIVE the weight will come off eventually and just ignore those skinny backtalking women. You'll be the hottest thang' in the office after a while and then they'll really want to talk. You'll be ok

shan76 · 05-03-2008, 07:27 PM

I totally feel what you were feeling...I myself was out of work about a month before surgery and when you come back people look at you like...well where is the weight lose? I myself have lost enough weight to notice but we aren't content I feel because we still think like that fat person did but it gets better as time goes by! I kept asking people I work with questions about their surgery and what they lost in the beginning? I now sit back and think that no matter if it is 5lbs. a month that I'm losing it's more than I did in a long time if ever! Believe me I was there thinking at first I'm down 22lbs. but I don't feel any different but as it comes off you will start to feel differently about it! I recently found myself not wanting to part with my big clothes which my fiance said "what are you doing those won't ever fit you again!" I thought wow he is right yet I still kept some stuff for what reason I have no idea???? The rest went off to a consignment shop for someone else

We all have different feelings and no one can tell you that how you are feeling is wrong or right they don't walk in your shoes

Phoenixfire · 05-04-2008, 02:40 AM

Well I hope this doesn't sound like a negative response, but you're actually in a good place. You're learning the reality that not many people "get it" when it comes to the huge change that WLS is in your mind, body and emotions.
Screw the people at work. They haven't lived in your skin. I know, easier said than done, but it's what you have to believe.
TT is good for support, I'd encourage you to find a friend, support group, or just a best friend that knows you, to give you the day to day support. Or a therapist. At some point, if you're like me and others, you'll need some help in dealing with the changes that come when you have a drastic weight change.
You are on the START of your journey...as another poster said: you didn't gain this weight overnight and it won't go away overnight.
There are a lot of changes and it's a huge job you're starting. But you can handle it.
Just find the tools to help you ignore the snippy size 8's at work (hey, I'm a size 8 and nobody at work believes me when they learn I was 300 lbs. - so you'll be there one day right?)
Be gentle to yourself, breathe and take one day at a time.
And I went thru being on disability for awhile due to spinal conditions. I know it's hard to go thru stuff others can't imagine. I couldn't have done it without those close to me that know me and love me. I hope you have those in your life

They make the difference!

Claire-in-Texas · 05-04-2008, 06:31 AM

A suggestion....

Step back -- look at the big picture -- remember why you are doing what you are doing.

If you do that, it won't matter what other people say. What is important is what YOU do with what YOU ARE DOING.

Go for it! It's right there, at your fingertips!

UuUuLaLa · 05-04-2008, 11:46 PM

All you gals are amazing! its an unbelievable dramatic change in my life everyday is a new day for me and it gets better! i did this surgery for mee and for me only not for people to admire my weight loss it was impossible to live how i was living but its so dificult when other people i have to be around 8-10 hours of my day five days a week dont understand and im not the type that's going to go into details on what i did to myself so they asume and hurt feelings and god they have an eye on me on everything i put in my mouth.. and question my menu for the day.. its very fustrating when they are tweeaker looking gals that could eat a cow and dont gain any weight.. its just hard to be around negative people that just love to critizise but im better then that im a very strong women i been told... and my actions show that.. but i guess the changes that im going thru mentaly and phisically are really playing with my emotions and its hard to cope with it thank you all oh and wish me luck tomorrow its cindo de mayo! and they are having a pot luck i could imagine how it will be kisses to you all and thanks once again!