I'm getting really tired of not enjoying food! - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

Gwen · 02-05-2008, 05:25 AM

You might have a crush on Big Jim (aka HuggyBear) but I think if I was of a different sexual orientation

I might have a crush on you!!! Oh dammit - I think I DO have a crush on you!!!

I loved your vent!!! I loved your reply to Ruca!!! I just love YOU!!!

PLEASE come and join the Bears - you are made for us

PS: Me neither Duckie - are they actually best friends or is Red one "heckova" calm chiccie???

XXX

Duckie · 02-05-2008, 05:31 AM

I meant literally, I don't know how to take the original post. I am of the same mind as Rucca.

Ruca · 02-05-2008, 05:44 AM

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I'll have a reversal when YOU do!!! This "hoochie" isn't failing, I just wanted to vent and get over it. Now go enjoy your whopper jr and banana.

Uh yah. I don't need a reversal sweetheart. Obviously you misunderstood my post.

I didn't call you a hoochie per se. Its a slang term that I guess is over your head. As in, whining and bitching about something that you feel is unfair or unjust.

In addition, I stated that you are two freakin months post op and **Shouldnt** be able to eat more than what you currently are. In 6 months you are going to be able to eat a LOT more. This typically happens when the swelling finally goes down.

And then, I think you will change your tune to "I cant believe I can eat so much omg...this sucks!" Which in reality is what you should be able to eat when the swelling goes down.

I'm a bitch but I in no way actually would call you a hoochie. At least not unless I was all up in your face.

Gwen · 02-05-2008, 05:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Duckie

I meant literally, I don't know how to take the original post. I am of the same mind as Rucca.

Ooops!!! That Jim Diamond song is playing in my ear right now

I can see where Ruca is coming from but I thought this place was meant for ranting AND raving and Red is only using the Forum to vent

isn't she

Being a "foodie" and addicted to food, I could have probably written that post myself but I've had the opposite problem (probably what Ruca is talking about) in that I haven't had any of Steph's issues - I can eat what I like and Dr D has left me with a very large pouch (compared to our sisters across the waters) - so I have to keep an eye on myself and have to follow the Rules and Respect the Pouch!!

XXX

fisher1000 · 02-05-2008, 06:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Gwen

I can see where Ruca is coming from but I thought this place was meant for ranting AND raving and Red is only using the Forum to vent

isn't she

I agree.

While I'm not really having the same issues, I understand where Steph is coming from. There are not many things, foodwise, that I truly enjoy right now. But that is the way I want it. It's frustrating to get used to, but I believe that is what is going to keep me on the straight and narrow, and change my habits for the better.

Sunday night, at our Superbowl party, somebody made crab stuffed mushrooms. I had three of them, and they seriously had to be the single best thing I've eaten since the surgery. I'm also liking spicy stuff more now than before--I want TASTE! The things I used to like before: Spaghetti, Steak, Chinese Food--none of it tastes the same to me...though I do still enjoy Egg Drop Soup; that's my chinese food now.

There's a lot of mental stuff that goes with having this surgery, and sometimes a good vent helps...God knows I've posted my share of crap up in here! I think, though, that the nature of the online forum keeps us from really understanding sometimes the intended nature of a post, or a person's intended meaning. We've had such good vibes these last few weeks, and the last flaming cost us several valuable members. I hope we're not heading there again, especially in light of what Gwen said about why we are all here in the first place.

-Mike

zkiekie · 02-05-2008, 07:07 AM

Ruca you are a total ass. People like you should not be allowed to join a support group! I share Redinsc's rants and have been saying almost the identical same complaints to my husband. Does this mean I will pick up a freakin cheeseburger anytime in the next century, hell no. The whole idea of a support group is to be able to express how you feel without getting judged or critisized. But let me guess you are one of those people who (even though you have been down the same freakin road of being overweight) now lost their weight and were so successful that you are above and better than half of these people on here, right? I have a hard time believing that you didn't come out of surgery and at SOME point or another have the same longings or feelings...

I personally have been overweight for 20 of my 28 years of life. I hate that I had to resort to going through this surgery to lose this weight. Now that I did, I am not for nothing going to **** up this opportunity to change my life. I am allowed to, during this process, still feel bitterness, anger and defeat. We are all humans and even though this was an "elected surgery", MOST of us had no choice but to opt to have this done to expand a few years on our life.

I feel that these forums are a place to share our emotions. To find maybe one or two other people that can understand where the hell we are comming from because they have experienced the same feelings. NOT a place to open up and rant about how you feel and have some jerk come into your discussion and only contribute a "suck it up you whine ass and just to let you know.. you are going to fail at this weight loss because, you should be feeling this way instead". People like you, that sit there and critisize individuals for not feeling as positive and cheerful about going through this process on a 24/7 basis like you, should come up with there own damn site, or shut the hell up and take your "too good to have ever felt the same way bit" and shove it up your ass. If you are so damn perfect, then why the hell did you have to go through the same crap that we did!

Oh and by the way. Anyone that is stupid enough to take an opportunity like this and blow it by eating a freaking cheesburger or tub of lard, should either be rich or seeking serious mental evaluation. Even though this is a constant battle between mental cravings and old habits of seeking comfort with food, in the long run, this is one fight that if you can succeed in gives you the ultimate reward, a few more years of a healthy, happy and meaningfull life!

lward76 · 02-05-2008, 07:31 AM

I am glad you vented!! And always feel free if needed!! We know you really dont want to be reversed!! "trust me"!! I know you dont want that whopper which hell ya sounds good and even though im reversed i still dont want one!! My taste buds have changed so much!! You will be ok, just keep taking one day at a time!! AND VENT AGAIN IF YOU NEED TOO THAT IS WHY WE WELL MOST OF US ARE HERE ((((HHHHUUUGGSSS))) LAURA

Ruca · 02-05-2008, 07:35 AM

Everyone needs support in their own way. I've never been one to sugar coat or slap a sunshine label on every post. I'm not going to agree with everything that everyone says nor am I going to buy in to every pity party that is initiated on this forum.

I am a realist and say what I feel. Just because my opinion doesn't fit in to the cookie cutter stamp of approval that you have doesn't mean that it isn't my own and that I should supress it or hold back to spare someone's feelings.

If that is what you are expecting of me, it's not going to happen. Even though I am generally the controversial opinion and don't typically agree with every thing that everyone has to say doesn't mean that I don't need or deserve support.

To state otherwise could in turn, force a recriprocal statement and make you the ass for indicating such.

But alas, I digress for I have nothing to prove as I've already expressed my sentiment to her post and stand by my thoughts.

Alleusion · 02-05-2008, 08:37 AM

I have to agree with Ruca. Honestly. We see too many people venting about a common issue (search feature is your friend) and the replies come back as "it's okay" and "patpat". Sometimes someone needs to come along and get rid of the sunshine and light that's being passed off and show some reality.

I didn't enjoy food until well into my 9th month post op. And even now, I still don't really enjoy it all that much.

My solution...try everything I could that was on my list of approved things. I experimented and found flavor combinations I liked now that I didn't before.

There's a reason most doctors and insurance companies want you to seek psychological help before going through with this.

Oh and calling someone an ass for experessing their personal opinion is just showing your ass as well.

Godsblessedme · 02-05-2008, 09:33 AM

i agree you vent all you want!