Does RNY process remind you of Pregnancy and Delivery? - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

Vim&Vigour · 11-25-2007, 02:23 PM

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Omaha Jim · 11-25-2007, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Vim&Vigour

When I was expecting each of my three children I was really excited about their impending births. Each child had been desired and planned. They were all by unavoidable caesarean. I planned and prepared for the surgeries, survived post-op with minimal inconvenience. All was swell until there. THEN the real Life started, i.e. DEALING with the babies! Learning to guage when they were hungry, needed changing, packing the necessary nappies (diapers), bottles and paraphernalia when going out, dealing with breastfeeding (about to burst, dashing to find a quiet place to feed, leaking breasts in public...). It took a little while to get the hang of each child's individual needs. I never had any problems with them. Pre-surgery I had been wondering what the birth and delivery would be like and how I would cope. When the time came, it was generally "easy" and I quickly learned how to be a mother...
Does my story ring any similarities with you regarding the RNY pre-op/post-op feelings? My lap RNY is on 5th December!
I hope to hear from you!
"Expectant&Expecting RNY patient"!
Cheers!

Not me

I don't know what to compare it to. As a guy, it was just another project that needed to be managed. A life saving project.

Andie · 11-25-2007, 04:11 PM

As the mother of twins and have had a C-section....yes it does kinda remind me of my big csection. Never thought of it that way. You always have to be prepared and bring the proper food and drinks with you, all of your supplies etc. What a neat perspective! I guess mostly the women will relate!

Toony · 11-25-2007, 06:02 PM

Yes! Waiting for insurance approval reminds me of waiting for our babies to be born... Just like then, anxious for the day to come... and scared about it at the same time... I know something wonderful is going to come into my life and affect me forever --- til the day I die....

I've thought of this analogy often... as I still sit and wait for "THE" day!

Dyann · 11-26-2007, 05:29 AM

It is like that in the anticipation, pain, fatigue and post op emotional rollercoaster. Thank goodness there are no diapers involved, but there could be baby food, vomiting and colic. In general is exciting and rewarding. I don't know how old your kids are, but I am a much better mother to my currently 4 and 5 year olds.

BBella · 11-26-2007, 06:02 AM

I thought about this analogy when I was preparing for surgery. I had c-sections with both of my babies but never any other surgeries or reasons to be hospitalized so all I could think of was the delayed gratification (having surgery but waiting months for the outcome) but all of your thoughts brought into perspective that this is very much like anticipating and adjusting to a newborn

marine · 11-26-2007, 02:00 PM

Dear Vim & Vigour,
Yes there are similarities, but for me there is one major difference: becoming a mother is within the "normal" process of life, creating family and continuing our "civilisation" if I may say so.
Having to undergo any kind of GBP is against nature, and a consequence of a major deregulation in our nutrition system. NOt all have to undergo. Millions of people can control their weight, we cannot or could not. Therefore this surgery is to change the route of how mother nature created us.

Of course I was thrilled to be able to undergo, of course I was very excited and still am about the outcome and the re-discovery of life, but I cannot forget that it is my fault, my lack of discipline that lead me to the "articifial" reroute of my digestive system.
IT is ONLY a tool, and all our dear long-term colleagues have written enough how difficult it is to maintain weight loss over long time.

Therefore I thank God that it went all fine, but cannot forget the WHY, and do know that my share of job is enormous, in order to maintain what the surgeons did to me.

Yes I was totally excited, and prepared myself, did all administration at home before, prepare my absence at work, went to pedicure etc, threw away all bad habits from my head. And every day I feel I am a new person... nevertheless, one of my first questions to the surgeons, and to some people in this forum was: why did we reach this no return point? (meaning no return with diet alone?), when did we miss to control ourselves, and even so crutial how can I avoid my sweet daughter not to go through this hell called severe obesity with all issues, and pain which are included?

I try to show a good example to her nad my family, have a balanced diet witha lot of vegis, fruits fish and lean meat, and let her enjoy a little sweet from time to time: but not hidden, not in a rush, and not fast crap food.
The same we will have to do our whole life, take time and simply enjoy, while stopping focusing on food.

IT is long, but I cannot hide behind the reality. THe more I am conscious where I came from, the more I try to understand the why, and where were the "defaillances", the more I will be able to reach the success long term I believe.

Good evening and take care and we will be all heart with you on the 5ht of December.

PepsiGuru · 11-27-2007, 12:10 AM

I just did the deed, the wife did the birth part. So I can't really compare, sorry

I know I'm at the end of my journey (and its only been a 6+ months) so I really have had no complaints what-so-ever.

Lovetoday · 11-30-2007, 05:17 AM

It is a lot like having your first child. You don't know what to expect, every talks about pajama drill and giving birth ( hell week) and you have no idea if you will be able to do it...

And then it happens ( emergency c-section / Lap RNY) and you think- oh- this is not so bad.. and then you get the tiredness ( pain / not enough protein / vitamins / screaming baby) and you keep thinking : " 'This too shall pass".

Yes- nappy bags ( this time around filled with allowed food, always something to drink- in my case I go out with 3 litres of fluid because my family can't resist drinking my juice.. ( difficult to always gauge how much I'm actually having))..

But then the child grows up ( Hello scale my new friend, I've come to talk with you again) and you this time- blossom into something. And strange people ( and the familiar ones) compliment and make you blush all the time.

It is like giving birth and seeing your child grow, but this time, you see things-not through your child's eyes but through a thinner persons. Places you have not been able to go, stairs that no longer frighten you. And here all my previous ex-phats will agree- that tiredness that went right down to your soul that made every mundane task so difficult- is dissapearing like mist before the sun....

My bedtime is however very close to a 2 year olds. I get up with the sun ( in Cape Town this is 05:15 )but fade long before it sets(Cape Town about 21:00-yes you may come experience our fantastic summers-please come in Feb- best time of the year

.) By 8 I'm a zombie.

kittens4 · 11-30-2007, 07:45 AM

Yes, this is a lot like the whole C-section thing. I didn't know I'd be having a C-section until 14 hours of labor...they finally figured out my pelvis was too small! yikes! I stayed awake for my c-section though, because after all that labor, I wanted my husband to be able to be there for Christopher's birth. Still, after that surgery I felt great...just like the RNY...then about a week later I developed a blood clot that rose to the surface of my incision and started draining..good times. Then a breast infection....more fun....then they found that my uteris hadn't contracted back all the way, so they gave me this medicine that about killed me!!! It made the uteris contract allright..it was like labor all over again...with no demerol! So, that was like the RNY..because 1 week after that little procedure I developed the blockage, had to have the 2nd surgery, then got the pneumonia! More good times!!! Note to self....no more surgery!!!! I don't care how much flab, saggy boobs, whatever is hanging around is staying, I'm not going to another elective surgery! Mama is DONE!!!!