Sometimes, you really should just lie - ThinnerTimes

Debz · 11-07-2007, 10:56 AM

I have been completely unbalanced lately. It seems to be a common thing around here as of late. I have been afraid to take my Wellbutrin since surgery. And boy is it ever beginning to show. I'm depressed and just really out of sorts. I want to crawl into a hole and just die. No...I'm not suicidal (Even just thinking of a method to kill myself is just more effort than I seem to be able to muster)...I just wish I could go to sleep and not wake up.

I've decided it's time to start back on the meds.(Ya think?) Have talked to my surgeon, who tells me, just go ahead and take the time released medication, even tho my instructions to you at the beginning of this journey were to never take time released medication again. My shrink says to ask the surgeon. My PCP says to ask the shrink. In the mean time...I'm going crazy here and no one seems to really give a shit.

Talked to several pharmacists. None of them had a definitive answer. One told me that since Wellbutrin is a subjective result med to go ahead and take it and see if it's working. Finally I got in touch with GSK, the manufacturer of the drug...And they have no data regarding GBP and Wellbutrin. Ok...if they don't... WHO DOES?

I've read stats that say up to 50% of WLS patients have depression. (No shit...go figure). It would seem that someone, by now, would know this shit. I just don't seem to be able to find the right person to ask. I feel like that kid in the old tootsie roll commercials...but I can't find the wise old owl.

Now that that's out...lemme tell you the reason for the title of my post. I was talking to my fiance the other day about my feelings of desperation, and my weight loss. We got on the subject of my body size and how unaware I am of what I really look like. As a side question...I asked him what size woman are you actually attracted to. His answer?????? Are you sitting, cuz if you're getting ready to read his answer, you really should be sitting.

He said, "Oh, someone just a little bigger than you are right now". Really?? REALLY??? And you didn't think to mention that 6 months ago???? I mean, I still would have had the surgery, but I've so been looking forward to getting to a size where he would find me more attractive, and now I found out I passed it already? I feel somehow cheated. He told me as always my size doesn't matter. That he loves me...not my size....but somehow it's just stuck in my craw.

Which brings me back to....sometimes, really...just lie. In an effort to save fine china and stitches, when talking to a mentally unbalanced post WLS female...just lie.

1fatmama · 11-07-2007, 12:30 PM

I was on and still am on a time released nerve pill (Effexor XR) My surgeoun left it as was and so far i have not had any issues... My only complaint was that it doesnt work as well as it did before gbs.. so my pcp raised the dosage and I feel normal again.

Sorry for you struggles.. hope everything starts looking up soon.

marine · 11-07-2007, 01:23 PM

Debbie, I am so sorry what you are going through, I hope yo uwill find the way to the light again, the surface, but if you are so tired, tired, just take time, make it possible, but get help. Sorry all the best
Marine

CeeCee · 11-07-2007, 02:28 PM

Debbie, I'm sorry you're going through this crap. Does Wellbutrin not come in tablet, so you can take it a couple times per day instead of the once-per-day time release? If not, what about a drug that does? I know for a fact that Effexor comes in a tablet form.
I sure hope you get a little relief soon!

I_love_Hello Kitty · 11-07-2007, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Debz

Which brings me back to....sometimes, really...just lie. In an effort to save fine china and stitches, when talking to a mentally unbalanced post WLS female...just lie.

Debz,

Time and time again...you crack me up...(just that last part of your post)...but you are so funny...I find I laugh because you have such a sharp and sarcastic sense of humor...and I always look forward to your posts most of all....

this time, though I know you are not feeling well...and despite it all, you still have a sense of humor...

ok..that being said, I take Lexapro. I don't know if its a time released pill or not...but it is an antidepressant, and I have continued it, and have had no issues. I don't know if that helps...but you may want to just try your meds, and if they don't work as well, then try a different one...this one has really worked for me...no depression here.

As for your man...don't let comments like that get to you...he is a MAN afterall...and they are clueless about NOT discussing things like that....of course, asking that type of question to your significant other is like playing with fire because really there is no "good" answer. However...he loves you, not your body size. If I talked to my husband about the qualities I find attractive in George Clooney or Jude Law, and he thought he didn't have those, it would only make him feel bad...doesn't mean I don't find my husband attractive...there are just LOTS of qualities about someone that can attract you to them...

When you're on edge and not feeling well, its a bad time to ask those types of questions...so just let that one go....you need to feel good about yourself...and that's all that matters. If you feel good about youself, then he'll want to be with you, regardless of what size you are...so just work on feeling good. You'll find a size that you feel good at...and you're the most important.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I hope you get it sorted out soon. Keep that sense of humor alive!

Nyn · 11-07-2007, 03:26 PM

Debz, you crack me up!! I love reading your posts. Your man just really should know enough about women to not answer a question like that so casually! On the other hand, how refreshing that he likes bigger women.

That said, I'm so sorry you're having problems. It sounds like you did a TON of homework trying to find an acceptable answer to your problem. I really admire that tenacity! I've never taken a med like that before, so I have no suggestions, but I wish you the very best -- you deserve it!

sdgrrl · 11-07-2007, 07:30 PM

There is a non-timed release version of Welbutrin in addition to the Welbutrin SR. No, you won't get the desired outcome by taking ANY timed release or "enterically coated" medications. We just don't have the plumbing to make them work anymore!

Watch out for Welbutrin! I had been taking a huge dose from back when I was big, and one day out of the blue I had a terrific seizure that landed me in the hospital. It's kind of a picky drug, and you need to keep the dose matched to your body size. I'm now taking Effexor, and it helps, but isn't as effective as the Welbutrin was. But the seizure was really a drag. They had to notify the DOT and I had to do a whole bunch of stuff to get my license back.

katygirl · 11-07-2007, 07:41 PM

To "Hello Kitty" : Well said!!!!!! To Debz: Hang in there as the saying goes "this too shall pass" You will find the right med that works for you, just don't give up. Depression sucks and there is no reason to suffer with it. One of the meds will work for you.
Good Luck.

kittens4 · 11-07-2007, 08:18 PM

I was taking Effexor XR before surgery, but after surgery they told me not to take anything extended release..and the regular Effexor made me sick..he also said I can't take capsules..ever...because the capsule coating can stay in the pouch and build up over time, causing a blockage eventually...so, I take 10mg of Paxil in the morning, and .5mg xanax in the evening. So far, so good. I hope you find the right medicine for you. My co-worker takes Zoloft and she likes it. I guess you just have to experiment and see what's best for you. Good luck!

bubbasmama · 11-08-2007, 01:13 AM

I take the Effexor XR and it works.Not like before but I can't take the tablet it made me sick. Barb