It's a sad day - ThinnerTimes

Jeanie · 02-11-2005, 08:24 AM

Today is Feb 11th. Today is the day that I meet the guy that I thought I would marry. When we meet it was like we knew each other for years. He was in the Navy. After dating for 1 year he had to move to VA. He didn't want me to go with him, because he didn't want me to leave my family for him (or that's the reason he gave). We talked and did the long distance thing for awhile, but then I found out that he was seeing someone else. He married the girl a few years ago. When I found out I cried for hours.

I thought how could he do this to me?? No one could love him like I did.
I did have a chance to see him again about 2 years ago on this very day. Feb 11th the same day that we meet the first time. This time I was mad I had hate for him. I didn't even know I felt that way until I saw him. I guess it was a good thing to see him again, because I found out that I no longer loved him. The hard thing is I do still have love for him, and on this day it really hurts.
Anyone have any great ideas on how I can stop feeling this way?

I know this really has nothing to do with WLS, but I had to get it off of my chest.

HAMPTON5555 · 02-11-2005, 08:40 AM

Hi Jeanie,

Yes, this does have something to do with wls. Your feelings and how you deal with them has so much to do with why we are here!!

I don't know if I have the right words for you. But, when getting through difficult times, sometimes it helps to remember that without the tough times we can't appreciate the good stuff.

So, with that said, I wish you good stuff, happiness and fun.

Maybe you can do something special and replace the memory of meeting that guy with a memory of fun and adventure.

Hope this helps.

Remember your not alone, you always have us!!!

RAin

pambragg · 02-11-2005, 09:15 AM

Jeannie,
Oh sweetie, I am sorry that this day is so hard for you

I wish there was some magic salvo I could toss your way to make you feel better. Just find strength in the fact that it wasn't meant to be, and you are better off now than you were then. Don't lose yourself in the what-if's, it's too emotionally taxing. You are an awesome person and there is someone out there for you. He will come along when you least expect it. We will have to go out soon and do it up right!!! Keep your chin up my friend and remember that your "family" is here whenever you need us. Big, big hugs to you.

watergirl · 02-11-2005, 09:40 AM

Sending (((((((((((((((((Big HUGS)))))))))))))))))) your way. I like the idea of replacing the feelings you are having by making some really happy thing happen today.

Rain is right. Emotions are what trigger eating binges for some people. How you deal with what you are feeling right now, is a good indicator of how you will deal with other issues throughout the rest of your life or make the changes necessary to make sure that you "deal" in a positive manner.

Jeanie · 02-11-2005, 11:07 AM

Pam, Kim, & Rain,
Thanks so much for all the kind words. I'm actually doing better now. My sister and the kids are on there way down right now, and should be here by 2pm. This will make me happier than anything else.

Oh yeah and all though I wanted to earlier I didn't binge eat. I stayed strong.

YIPPEE!!!

watergirl · 02-11-2005, 11:34 AM

That's great news that you didn't turn to food for comfort! You are strong and you can do it!

Have a great visit with your family! Make some good memories.

bridgetgirl · 02-11-2005, 11:49 AM

Having a Lemon Drop Martini or a Buttery Nipple Shot will make you feel better..... I wish I could get my hands on a babysitter chicken, I take you out and dance the night away (in comfy shoes of course.)

I love ya my little flower! breathe, stretch, shake, let it go......