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Post-op Gastric Bypass Gastric bypass post-op concerns, milestones achieved, establishing new eating/exercise habits, dealing with emotions without food to turn to, etc.

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Old 02-11-2005, 01:36 PM   #11 (permalink)
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They should be here this afternoon around 2pm. All will be good when I get to hug all of them, and now that they can actually fit their arms around me it will be even better to hug them!!

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Old 02-11-2005, 02:23 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Good luck to you now honey. You have mixed feelings for him, it is understandable. I loved my first husband and still do, married him after one date, loved him for 24 years. I learned to dwell on his shortcomings. When I had thoughts of love, I thought of all the beatings he gave me. When I had love I remembered how he left my babies without a daddy and disappeared for 10 years without a word because he was running from a drunk driving tour in jail. When I finally told him all the stuff in my heart after 10 years, I was free to love my husband with everything I have, and my first husband is a nothing, and after all these years, my children now know who, what and how he is.

Your day is coming, dont worry about that. When you least expect it the Lord will drop one in your lap and you won't be able to get rid of him.

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Old 02-11-2005, 02:51 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Today is Feb 11th. Today is the day that I meet the guy that I thought I would marry. When we meet it was like we knew each other for years. He was in the Navy. After dating for 1 year he had to move to VA. He didn't want me to go with him, because he didn't want me to leave my family for him (or that's the reason he gave). We talked and did the long distance thing for awhile, but then I found out that he was seeing someone else. He married the girl a few years ago. When I found out I cried for hours. I thought how could he do this to me?? No one could love him like I did.
I did have a chance to see him again about 2 years ago on this very day. Feb 11th the same day that we meet the first time. This time I was mad I had hate for him. I didn't even know I felt that way until I saw him. I guess it was a good thing to see him again, because I found out that I no longer loved him. The hard thing is I do still have love for him, and on this day it really hurts.
Anyone have any great ideas on how I can stop feeling this way? I know this really has nothing to do with WLS, but I had to get it off of my chest.
I have no words for you sweetie, all I can send you are gentle, tender hugs, and to tell you that with time, this too shall pass...
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Old 02-12-2005, 09:06 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Sweety pie...I sorta know what you're going through. I met Jason almost 2 1/2 years ago. I thought everything about him was WONDERFUL...until he stopped "seeing" me to go back to his ex. I was crushed. I kept trying to get him to see that no one could love him like I could. We stopped talking for like 4 months (not quite as long as you) and he called me again. Said he wanted to see me again. Said he was going through some stuff and wanted to talk to me. He didn't bother telling me that he was living with some girl. He was in the middle of breaking things off with her and moving out. He made it sound like there was actually a chance that we could get back together, but broke my heart AGAIN. ANYWAYS...to make a long story short, we are still friends, but I know that the only time he calls me or comes to see me is when he wants something from me. I realized a long time ago though that I was no longer in love with him and that was the day that I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I was no longer holding onto something that wasn't even real. I took a deep breath, took a step back and walked away. That was a good day for me. One day you will meet the man you were meant to be with and you will be the happiest you have ever been. I can't wait for that day for you or for me. Just relax and let life do what it will. No amount of crying or being depressed will make it any better. I love you girl, and wish you nothing but the best!
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Hang in there. Guys are strange (sorry guys). You WILL find your price charming. I told this to Christina and look she found Stuart! There are some nice guys left out there and there is one for you.
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"Why was my burden so heavy?" I slammed the bedroom door and leaned against it. "Is there no rest from this life?" I wondered. I stumbled to my bed and dropped onto it, pressing my pillow around my ears to shut out the noise of my existence.

"Oh God," I cried, "let me sleep. Let me sleep forever and never wake up!" With a deep sob, I tried to will myself into oblivion, then welcomed the blackness that came over me. Light surrounded me as I regained consciousness. I focused on its source: the figure of a man standing before a cross.

"My child," the person asked, "why did you want to come to Me before I am ready to call you?"

"Lord, I'm sorry. It's just that.. I can't go on. You see how hard it is for me. Look at this awful burden on my back. I simply can't carry it anymore."

"But haven't I told you to cast all of your burdens upon Me, because I care for you? My yoke is easy, and My burden is light."

"I knew You would say that. But why does mine have to be so heavy?"

"My child, everyone in the world has a burden. Perhaps you would like to try a different one?"

"I can do that?"

He pointed to several burdens lying at His feet. "You may try any of these."

All of them seemed to be of equal size. But each was labeled with a name.

"There's Joan's," I said. Joan was married to a wealthy businessman. She lived in a sprawling estate and dressed her three daughters in the prettiest designer clothes. Sometimes she drove me to church in her Cadillac when my car was broken.

"Let me try that one." How difficult could her burden be? I thought. The Lord removed my burden and placed Joan's on my shoulders. I sank to my knees beneath its weight. "Take it off!" I said. "What make it so heavy"?

"Look inside".

I untied the straps and opened the top. Inside was a figure of her Mother-in-law, and when I lifted it out, it began to speak. "Joan, you'll never be good enough for my son," it began. "He never should have married you. You're a terrible mother to my grandchildren... "

I quickly placed the figure back in the pack and withdrew another. It was Donna, Joan's youngest daughter. Her head was bandaged from the surgery that had failed to resolve her epilepsy. A third figure was Joan's brother. Addicted to drugs, he had been convicted of killing a police officer.

"I see why her burden is so heavy, Lord. But she's always smiling and helping others. I didn't realize... "

"Would you like to try another?" He asked quietly.

I tested several. Paula's felt heavy: She was raising four small children without a father. Debra's did too: a childhood of sexual abuse and a marriage of emotional abuse. When I came to Ruth's burden, I didn't even try. I knew that inside I would find arthritis, old age, a demanding full-time job, and a beloved husband in a nursing home.

"They're all too heavy, Lord" I said. "Give me back my own." As I lifted the familiar load once again, it seemed much lighter than the others.

"Let's look inside," He said. I turned away, holding it close.

"That's not a good idea," I said. "Why?" "There's a lot of junk in there."

"Let Me see."

The gentle thunder of His voice compelled me. I opened my burden. He pulled out a brick. "Tell Me about this one."

"Lord, You know. It's money. I know we don't suffer like people in some countries or even the homeless here in America. But we have no insurance, and when the kids get sick, we can't always take them to the doctor. They've never been to a dentist. And I'm tired of dressing them in hand-me-downs."

"My child, I will supply all of your needs...and your children's. I've given them healthy bodies. I will teach them that expensive clothing doesn't make a person valuable in My sight."

Then He lifted out the figure of a small boy. "And this?" He asked.

"Andrew... " I hung my head, ashamed to call my son a burden.

"But, Lord, he's hyperactive. He's not quiet like the other two. He makes me so tired. He's always getting hurt, and someone is bound to think I abuse him. I yell at him all the time. Someday I may really hurt him.

"My child," He said, "if you trust Me, I will renew your strength, if you allow Me to fill you with My Spirit, I will give you patience."

Then He took some pebbles from my burden. "Yes, Lord," I said with a sigh. "those are small. But, they're important. I hate my hair. It's thin, and I can't make it look nice. I can't afford to go to the beauty shop. I'm overweight and I can't stay on a diet. I hate all my clothes. I hate the way I look!

"My child, people look at your outward appearance, but I look at your heart. By My Spirit you can gain self-control to lose weight. But your beauty should not come from outward appearance. Instead it should come from your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in My sight."

My burden now seemed lighter than before. "I guess I can handle it now," I said.

"There is more," He said. "Hand me that last brick."

"Oh, You don't have to take that. I can handle it."

"My child, give it to Me." Again His voice compelled me. He reached out His hand, and for the first time I saw the ugly wound.

"But, Lord, this brick is so awful, so nasty, so... Lord! what happened to Your hands? They're so scarred!"

No longer focusing on my burden, I looked for the first time into His face. In His brow were ragged scars-as though someone had pressed thorns into His flesh. "Lord," I whispered. "What happened to You?" His loving eyes reached into my soul.

"My child, you know. Hand Me the brick. It belongs to Me. I bought it."

"How?"

"With My blood."

"But why, Lord?

"Because I have loved you with an everlasting love. Give it to Me."

I placed the filthy brick into His wounded palm. It contained all the dirt and evil of my life; my pride, my selfishness, the depression that constantly tormented me.

He turned to the cross and hurled my brick into the pool of blood at it's base. It hardly made a ripple.

"Now, My child, you need to go back. I will be with you always. When you are troubled, call to Me and I will help you and show you things you cannot imagine now."

I reached to pick up my burden.

"You may leave that here if you wish. You see all these burdens? They are the ones that others have left at My feet. Joan's, Paula's, Debra's, Ruth's... When you leave your burden here, I carry it with you. Remember, My yoke is easy and My burden is light."

As I place my burden with him, the light began to fade. Yet I heard him whisper, "I will never leave you, nor forsake you.

A peace flooded my soul.



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