Louisiana gal makes it thru surgery! YAY! - ThinnerTimes

sunshine74 · 01-30-2007, 01:11 PM

Well guys, my surgery was on 1/22/07 and I made it thru. I was in the hospital thru Thursday. It really has been a very emotional 7 days since the surgery. You see, my father passed away on the morning of my surgery- I found out literally 3 hours before I had to be at the hospital. So, needless to say, I did go thru with it, but it seems as though last week was just a dream and now I've kinda woke up- but I still have to deal with everything. I am not going to lie.... I still want to eat everything normal. It can be so sad at times, watching my little ones eating the normal foods and then I have to just WAKE UP and realize that this is going to be great... I'm already losing and it's not that bad. Maybe it's the culture down here in Louisiana. I mean, one of the state tourist motto's is "Some states Eat to Live, but here in Louisiana, We live to eat!" So I KNOW that about 97% of this is psychological, and I am dealing with that, but it still is very hard. Maybe its because with the loss of my father- eating would be a comfort? A way to mourn- you know like the post funeral stuff, everyone gets together, the spread of food is crazy, and in the end you have just eaten you blues away.... UGH. Anyway, I guess the real reason I am spilling my guts about this all is because it takes one to know one... Did you find the first few days to be hell because you simply missed the norms you used to have? Maybe I am nuts? Ahhh, its probably the protein talking... YUCKO... But seriously, in all, I am very excited about "the new chapter in my book"-the one I am creating everyday. It's just that it has been very hard to cope with everything and I miss my old friends (those being bread, pizza, potato chips, pasta, jambalaya, etc.) I am telling myself not to dwell on it, and it works, I find other things to do and think about, but it really can be hard at certain times.... So there's my story!! Hope everyone is well and all us "newbies" are all healing well. Later guys!!!

shereeks · 01-30-2007, 02:19 PM

Hi Amy

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad - it must have been such a tough decision to go ahead with your surgery.

Congratulations on making it through!

Just take your time - the head hunger will go away - and it is just that - your body just won't be hungry right now.

You can always count on these wonderful people here for support and advice - they have been great to me. Ask, ask, ask away!

Now go and get plenty of rest and lots and lots of water!

chilmoe · 01-30-2007, 03:28 PM

amy so sorry to hear about your loss, and then the stress of the loss of your food friends too, can be a very overwhelming thing to deal with on its own, hang in there hun, keep strong, wishing you all the best.

SD_Johnsons · 01-30-2007, 04:03 PM

I am sorry to hear about your father. That must be so hard right now when you have not learned new coping skills to deal with emotions. Eating was a major coping skill for the most of us. I highly recommend therapy to help with psychological issues as well as helping wiht the grieving process. I recommend to my clients a book called On Grief and Grieving. It is a wonderful book that helps explain different stages of the grieving process. yo u may need it now since there will be different emotions coming up after surgery. I think I cried for almost a week for no reason at all. Take care and welcome to the loosing side.

Duckie · 01-30-2007, 04:32 PM

{{{{{{amy}}}}}}} I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Take the time to take care of yourself.

BethBaugh · 01-30-2007, 05:52 PM

So sorry to hear about your dad. I was sole caregiver to my bedbound grandmother. She passed away hours before my surgery. I too went on with the surgery and oddly enough was suddenly at peace with it. Yes it was weird watching others gather round the food to eat and relax and talk. I just kept an ISOPURE clear protein in my hand and sipped away.

Yes the head games are here but you can overcome. Recognizing the craving is not hunger is a step in the right direction. Slowly you'll feel less "deprived". Also I made slow changes to how my family eats too so they are more healthy. My husband is not overweight and is a vegetarian, but this year we vowed to cut out transfats in the house. One of his few things he likes to eat that is a sweet is Krispy Kreme cinnamon apple doughnuts. They had them in his Sunday School class Sunday and he did not get one. YEAH! We can stand up for our health. Food Industry Take Note.

Beth B. in TN
AGAIN HUGGS!

JenBear7 · 01-30-2007, 07:50 PM

Gratz on making it through surgery.. and I am so sorry to hear about your dad.. I would think that the emotional changes with just the surgery would be hard to bear, but with both, maybe thats why you are having such a rough time with food.. having to deal with 2 MAJOR life changes within hours of each other.. You are goign to be one strong person

Best of luck to you.. keep us posted on your journey.

trickychick68 · 01-30-2007, 08:27 PM

Whea'yat, girl?

I am really sorry to hear about your dad, but happy to hear you're doing well. You will be just fine - I have been checking in on this board for a LONG time now, and every question I needed an answer to, I have found the information, or at least someone with a clue, or a guideline, or alot of the times, someone going through EXACTLY what I was going through. Welcome aboard, and give yourself some time to just be.

Bypassingme619 · 01-30-2007, 11:59 PM

Amy many blessings and prayers are being sent your way from me and my family. Welcome to the losing side. I am sure your father is proud at how strong you are being through your journey.

ajmoe · 01-31-2007, 12:13 AM

Amy, I am so sorry about your dad.
Congrats on making it through surgery and getting to this side.
When things are really tough and there is extra stress on you it is really hard not to eat comfort foods. My first couple of weeks after surgery were not to hard. I just was not hungry and was terrified of screwing this up. But I had my surgery right before Christmas and my family came to visit me. I had the added stress of family and lots of food in the house with Christmas. I found it really hard to not eat any of it. The head hungry aspect is super hard. It is the hardest part of this thing so far for me.
You will make it through, just rely on people here to help you through it all.