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sandyg · 05-21-2006, 01:05 PM

I am almost 5 weeks post op (as of Wedneday 5/24/06) I have lost 44lbs so far however... today I decided I wanted a new swimsuite as I am going away for a 3 day weekend. I must explain... I have VERY HEAVY legs and when I stepped in the dressing room, although I could get smaller sizes with ease, the lighting showed every nook and cranny and I felt sick to my stomach looking at myself. I was happy and feeling good, but I guess its too soon and I am expecting too much. Has this ever happened to anybody? I have honestly never seen anybody with legs like mine and I often wonder even if I reach my goal, will my legs stay like hippo legs.
I am trying not to be a downer and remain positive but I almost felt like the 44lbs did nearly nothing.

I guess I need my butt kicked for whining or for somebody to bring out the cheese for my wine.

just feeling bummed today.

VanessaSFL · 05-21-2006, 01:22 PM

Sandy,

I wore a bikini to a PUBLIC BEACH yesterday for the first time.You know,I didn't look great..but from 280 to 132 what can you do.

I have deflated breast and a prema wrinkle across my butt...actually my stretch marks are worse than the 7 lap lines..can't even see the lap scars now.

I guess what I am saying is..first...the lights in fitting rooms are killers.

2nd...We have to deal with our bodies at every stage of weight loss.We may never look like a non gastic bypass person at the same weight but it's ok.

I think your doing great....don't worry...we may never look awesome in a bathing suit but we look HOT HOT hoT in clothes.

I know your frustration but I want a tan tummy so I said "screw it"

Best wishes~

V

VanessaSFL · 05-21-2006, 01:28 PM

This may come out wrong,even insensitive but.......I took my son to the waterpark last weekend and let me tell you....NO ONE IS IN SHAPE!!!!!Even little kids,teenagers,20's,30's.older....I am telling you that NO ONE LOOKED like hot mama-airbrushed body.
I don't know why But I watch people now...and it's sad but everone is overweight if not obese,maybe not MO like me but close or on their way.

It really is sad but you have doen something and your doing great by the way.Here is to your success.

V

sandyg · 05-21-2006, 03:12 PM

Thanks Vanessa and High Fives for your weight loss and bikini. I think that in time I will be at peace with myself , maybe this is part of that depression that follows surgery.
Your right, there are a lot of out of shape people and while I have been yelled out at in the past I know my healthier future is coming.
xoxoxoxo thank you sooooo much Vanessa xoxoxoox

coptergirl · 05-21-2006, 04:54 PM

Sandy - your day will come when dressing rooms will be your friend

Even at almost 3 months, it is still too soon for me as I am trying on clothes at home in smaller sizes. Do know that your views of yourself (and I of myself) will change over time

They operated on our tummies...not our heads

sandyg · 05-21-2006, 05:14 PM

that is a GREAt point Whitney , thank you for helping me put things back into perspective. I think I will try things at home on as you do and avoid dressing rooms for a while. xoxoxoxo

trickychick68 · 05-21-2006, 06:46 PM

Sandy, your journey has JUST BEGUN, and there will be lots of time to do the dressing room thing - it sucks no matter what size you are -

My sister is 5'9 1/2, 150, looks like Sharon Stone when she has short hair - she is striking and long and lean - she gets in a mirror and notices every flaw, and is hard on herself as much as anyone else. I think you are doing SOOOO well, and a bathing suit try-on is HARDCORE. Haha!

If you are worried about your legs, do a tankini top and bottom or a one-piece with a slightly high cut leg and get a pretty sarong to wear when you aren't in the water. It's a sexy slimming look and when you feel comfortable enough with yourself, girl, DROP that sarong and just enjoy being you. Have fun!

sandyg · 05-21-2006, 07:15 PM

thanks Michelle xoxoxo that is very uplifting and makes me feel soooooo much better already. And your absolutely right, bathing suits is very hardcore lol

Mavisavis · 05-21-2006, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sandyg

I am almost 5 weeks post op (as of Wedneday 5/24/06) I have lost 44lbs so far however... today I decided I wanted a new swimsuite as I am going away for a 3 day weekend. I must explain... I have VERY HEAVY legs and when I stepped in the dressing room, although I could get smaller sizes with ease, the lighting showed every nook and cranny and I felt sick to my stomach looking at myself. I was happy and feeling good, but I guess its too soon and I am expecting too much. Has this ever happened to anybody? I have honestly never seen anybody with legs like mine and I often wonder even if I reach my goal, will my legs stay like hippo legs.
I am trying not to be a downer and remain positive but I almost felt like the 44lbs did nearly nothing.

I guess I need my butt kicked for whining or for somebody to bring out the cheese for my wine.

just feeling bummed today.

I just wanted to say that I go back and forth between how I feel trying on clothes. Some days I look and think, "Wow, that's actually YOU in a size 10 or 8 or whatever!" Then I have moments where all I see is the flab or love handles, and I think I am still HUGE! This surgery has so much mental work to it and everyone reacts or catches up differently. A good friend had the surgery a week before me and always sees her own accomplishments and smaller body no matter what size she currently is....and she is still in plus sizes.....so it's personal. I tend to be so hard on myself. If you put somoene else's face on a pic of my body I am sure I would tell them, in honesty, how great they look and how far they've come.

sandyg · 05-22-2006, 11:24 AM

Thank yo so much for the encouragement Marty