Stacie's Journal (stakeda) - Page 12 - ThinnerTimes

Christina · 01-19-2005, 08:54 AM

awwwwwww shucks Stacie that totally stinks!! My Mom had that surgery as well and did fine with it. It was only I think a 15 minute proceedure and she went home after it. I hope that you have as good of an outcome. Of course she had a stroke afterwards (not because of the surgery) and she can't see out of that eye again..

But you are young and healthy and you will do fine. That is really odd that you have that condition at your age, but you are tough.. I know you can do it. Let us know if you need a ride to have the surgery done ok!!

Jeanie · 01-19-2005, 09:16 AM

If you need help with anything let me know, and I will help you. My friends Dad had it done, and he wasn't able to drive for a couple of days, because he couldn't see, but I think he had both done. Really though if you need help please let me know, and I will help you.

Bigbaldbuddie · 01-20-2005, 02:21 PM

I don't post or view any posts for a few months and you guys are venting out a lot of stuff...wow.

I can't leave you ladies alone, can I?

Stacie I'm ssorry I forgot to call you on your B-day..Angela too.

And I missed a night out again...darn!

Ok, I'm going up to Poway tonight..hope to see you all there and I will bring my "Can't we all get along" slogan with me.

Hehehe

stakeda · 01-22-2005, 08:37 AM

Hey Gerry,

Thanks for the birthday wishes. We had a good time that night.

Sorry I missed you Thursday. I was traveling for work.

Hope to see you soon!

stakeda · 01-24-2005, 08:30 PM

It is January 24th, correct? I'm working so much that I don't even know the date anymore.

I'm feeling overwhelmed today. Work is taking it out of me for sure. They love me and want me to take on more work.

The good news is: That they will let me work from home and hire more employees to help me. The bad news is: When I'm working this much, I'm not focusing on my personal growth and issues. I really wanted to concentrate on personal growth this year. I'm unable to do this with this new position.

Bummer.

watergirl · 01-25-2005, 08:08 AM

Maybe this is only temporary until you get help. Don't forget to take care of number 1...YOU!

I'll pray that you get the help you need and quickly!

stakeda · 01-30-2005, 07:50 PM

Dear Paul,

After a lot of thought, I have come to a decision. I am glad that you are headed down a better path. I didn't look at it that way before, but now I realize that I have to. You are headed down a new path. Not me. It's you. Just like it has been over ten years. The same ten years that we have spent divorced. I have often worried about you and whether you were able to recover and become a better role model for our children, but as the years wore on, I realized that you are going to have to decide for yourself. The high road, or the low road. Meanwhile, I trudged forward, often short on cash and down on hope, but somehow I succeeded in providing what was needed to supply for the three of us. And thank God for the fact that he enabled me to become more successful and provide even more than I thought I would ever become capable of.

Now, over ten years later, I find that you are at a point in your life, finally, where you decide to make a change. And even though my first thought was to do everything to assist you in succeeding yourself, I have to rethink that decision.

Paul, I have struggled through some times that were so hard for the three of us, that you would never know. Times where you were no where in sight. Times where you were too busy living for you, that your children were the farthest thing from your mind. Those times you can never take back. And now, after all of those years that you spent the children's child support on yourself, I find a letter in my mailbox that says that you are now going to finally contribute to your childen's future. What do I do? I have compassion for you, a type of responsibility inside that compels me to put you ahead of my family. Why? Is that really fair?

After much thought, I realize that yes, it is fair. But only fair for you. Not to our children. If I were to send that money back to you, I would only be assisting you in stealing, spending, once again, our children's money. Money that they could use to enrich and support thier future.

So, I have decided to say no to you. No to the temptation to fold. I will instead say yes to my children. The very ones who really deserve it. I will deposit the money directly into their savings accounts, no matter how small or large the amount. It belongs to them, our children. Our beautiful chilren.

They deserve it!

Dara · 01-30-2005, 08:19 PM

Stacie:

A wonderful letter...written like the dedicated mother and caring woman you are. You should be very proud of yourself.

You ROCK, Stacie!

Blueyz · 01-30-2005, 09:34 PM

Stacie,

That was such an awesome letter!! I agree with you 100%. That money is for your children's future. I am so happy you are such a strong lady!!

watergirl · 01-31-2005, 08:49 AM

You amaze me with your strength! What a beautifully written letter!

Your children are so lucky to have a mom that cares enough about them and their future to go against your initial decision! That's growth Girl! I really admire you!