Heather's journey - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Heatherused2BAfeather · 11-27-2005, 09:31 PM

My husband and I had a fight last night and he told me he is tired of hearing about WLS. I am sorry but thats such a big thing in my life right now. Its what I think about at least half the time, even if its just in the back of my mind. He is supportive in that he doesn't not want me to get the surgery but he doens't want to hear about it. Its not fair because he is embarrassed by my weight but I he doesn't really support me in doing something about it either. He believes I should just go on another diet. I did that. Lost a ton of weight and was miserable. To keep it off I couldn't eat. You can't live that way. I can't live that way. I'm sorry to wine, I just have no other place to turn. I am truely alone in this WLS journey. No one in my real life supports me. But you know what? I know its what I have to do for myself and thats what I am going to do, even if I have to travel this path alone.

Gladitsme · 11-29-2005, 01:50 PM

Heather,
Your husband might be anxious about your surgery because he may be afraid of losing you. Feel free to talk here all you want. Boy do we understand!

Heatherused2BAfeather · 11-30-2005, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Loser2be

Heather,
Your husband might be anxious about your surgery because he may be afraid of losing you. Feel free to talk here all you want. Boy do we understand!

Awww thanks Nancy. I need you guys....

Heatherused2BAfeather · 11-30-2005, 04:04 PM

I found out today that my psychiatrist wont be writing the letter to my surgeon. He doesn't feel like its his area. So I have to go see a different psychiatrist for the psych consult. Now I am nervous. Hopefully I am sane enough. The good thing is that I got an appointment for the 8th of December with the different shrink and I asked them to put me on the cancellation list. Although I don't think it will help a lot because its a 3 hour appointment and I doubt they have tons of those cancel... but anyway, just another bump in the road I have to travel. Sigh...

Heatherused2BAfeather · 12-01-2005, 05:45 PM

I had my consult AAAAAANNNND my psych eval today!! I am so excited I have a tentative surgery date of December 13th! I go for my nutrition consult on Monday now instead of the 14th and then its off to the insurance! The consult went well. I can't believe it but I am on my way, and I already know I passed my psych eval! Thank you so much everyone for the support!!! I'll keep you updated.

Heatherused2BAfeather · 12-05-2005, 07:20 PM

Had my nutrition consult today and my case was submitted to insurance. I am nervous now. I hope I don't have any problems and insurance approval comes soon and without a hitch. I always love reading others reasons to have the surgery so I think I will do my own list.

Reasons I want Gastric Bypass Surgery

I want to be around for my grandkids
I want to be healthy and live a quality life
I want to be able to put my shoes on without a struggle
I want to be able to cross my legs
I want to be able to run after my kids
I want my kids to be proud of me
I am tired of the rash I get on my thighs from rubbing
I want to be able to perform regular hygiene without trouble
I want to be able to shave my legs without holding my breath
I want to clean my house for more then 5 minutes at a time without taking a break
I want to be able to have sex without huffing and puffing
I want the bed to be comfortable again
I want to not have to look for a chair wherever I go
I want my ankles to stop swelling
I want just one chin
I want to be able to exercise again
I want to wear tanktops without feeling self conscious
I want to button my winter jacket
I want to wear smaller clothes then my husband
I want to shop in a normal store
I want to wear cute clothes with some style

bstars42 · 12-05-2005, 07:48 PM

Heather, I wouldn't take what your husband said to heart. I remember my mom saying the same thing. She said she didnt want to talk about it because she was so nervouse for me. She was afraid of all the complications that could possibbly happen. It's because they love us so much and they dont want anything to happen to us. Just look at it from his point of view. Hope this helps a little.

Heatherused2BAfeather · 12-07-2005, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by bstars42

Heather, I wouldn't take what your husband said to heart. I remember my mom saying the same thing. She said she didnt want to talk about it because she was so nervouse for me. She was afraid of all the complications that could possibbly happen. It's because they love us so much and they dont want anything to happen to us. Just look at it from his point of view. Hope this helps a little.

You are right Ashley. I know that it is scary for him. More so then it is for me since I have been doing so much research and I am a nurse as well so I understand a little better about the risks then he does. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

Heatherused2BAfeather · 12-07-2005, 12:42 PM

I got insurance approval today!! I can't believe it but this is really going to happen. I had a few moments of facing my mortality today... I was driving after finishing my Christmas shopping (Yay!) and I realized I was imagining my kids having Christmas without me and thinking about all the joy and love I have put into the holiday season for them... It was a terrible thought. Terrible in that it was such a sad picture I painted in my mind and terrible to be thinking that way right now. I know that not everyone survives this surgery but I also know that the vast majority do and come out of it with flying colors. I think this type of thinking is normal before such a surgery but I also have to make a point of reminding myself of why I decided to go through with this.