Why Am I Doing This To Me - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Americanwoman397 · 08-26-2005, 02:14 PM

Robin

You guys are great thanks for all the kind words I just need to relax and not worry about it. I know they are going to love me I mean come on there soon loves me to death. He gave up everything to move 2000 miles away from them to be with me.

Mr AOR · 08-26-2005, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Americanwoman397

Ok guys this doesn't really have anything to do with surgery but I thought who else can I turn to for support. I'm going to meet my soon to be in laws and his best friend all starting 9/3. I'm so afraid that they are not going to like me or something. He told me a few weeks ago that I'm the smallest girl he has ever dated which makes me happy because he is not the type of guy that goes for girls for there looks he gets to know the inside out. He is a great guy and tells me that they are going to love me but I keep stressing this no matter what.

Why am I doing this to myself? I mean I've went to the extreme more than normal with this. I've got a list of things to do before we leave. I mean I'm even having my hair done. I've talked to his mom on the phone and she loves me but I'm so afraid I'm going to do or say something to make that change. I have never been like this with any ones parents but then again I normally don't wait almost 5 years before I meet them...LOL

I'm hoping I can have the net while we are there so I don't go crazy missing the forum. I'm really getting back into it again.

I think the anxiety you're feeling is normal (whatever THAT means!). I don't think it's tied to your weight, I just think it's fear of the unknown and wanting them to love you as much as you love your man. Maybe the weight is something that's on your mind because it impacts your overall sense of confidence.

Just be yourself and try to relax. Don't feel like you're putting on a performance. It's not a job interview, y'know? It's life!

I bet they'll all adore you and you'll be posting about how great the whole thing went. We'll look forward to that post!

Americanwoman397 · 08-27-2005, 11:55 AM

I think you are right Mike. Thanks for putting a guys look into it because I think I'm drving him crazy with it. Every time I bring it up now he grabs me in his arms, looks into my eyes and says they'll love you just as much as I do honey then he gives me a kiss...LOL I can't wait to post what a good time I had.

Blueyz · 08-27-2005, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Americanwoman397

Ok guys this doesn't really have anything to do with surgery but I thought who else can I turn to for support. I'm going to meet my soon to be in laws and his best friend all starting 9/3. I'm so afraid that they are not going to like me or something. He told me a few weeks ago that I'm the smallest girl he has ever dated which makes me happy because he is not the type of guy that goes for girls for there looks he gets to know the inside out. He is a great guy and tells me that they are going to love me but I keep stressing this no matter what.

Why am I doing this to myself? I mean I've went to the extreme more than normal with this. I've got a list of things to do before we leave. I mean I'm even having my hair done. I've talked to his mom on the phone and she loves me but I'm so afraid I'm going to do or say something to make that change. I have never been like this with any ones parents but then again I normally don't wait almost 5 years before I meet them...LOL

I'm hoping I can have the net while we are there so I don't go crazy missing the forum. I'm really getting back into it again.

Tonya,

What is not to love about you??? You won't say anything wrong and if they are supportive parents of their son, they will take you into their family with open arms. My in-laws love me because I make their son happy. There is so much to love about you girlfriend. ...you will be just fine. Take some deep breaths and remember that you are a great person inside and out!!!

LizardQueen · 08-27-2005, 01:35 PM

You are a wonderful lady and I'm sure they will see it that. Be yourself, relax, and just try to have a good time. I know how nerve racking this has to be for you, but it sounds like you have a great guy that is going to love regardless of what others think. I wish I could say that I have a good relationship with my in-laws but I don't. We got along for many years and then my mother in law did something outrageous and I just made it worse by letting her drive me to do what I did (she hit me and I beat the hell out of her, she was drunk and barged in my home and refused to leave etc). My hubby has stood by my side through the whole mess and has very little to do with his mom anymore which makes me feel guilty. Just go and be the great gal we all know you are and things will work out fine. Oh, and no fist fights, okay?

pambragg · 08-29-2005, 09:22 AM

Baby girl,
Who could help but love you??!! Everything will be fine. Just breath deep, take your meds and hold your head high. Big hugs

Americanwoman397 · 08-29-2005, 12:27 PM

LOL Thanks everyone for the kind words. It does mean the world to me. You know as far as my meds I just ordered my refill to make sure I have them for the trip...My Dr said that they want to get me off of them in the next 6 months. I'm so happy to hear that. I'm actually maybe some what normal WHATEVER THAT IS...LOL

I'm counting down the days now and I talked to him last night about it all and he put me to sleep by telling me he loved me, giving me a kiss and playing with my hair until I relaxed and went to sleep....God I love this man.

JohnsWife4Life · 08-31-2005, 10:06 AM

Hey lil girl, I haven't been on for awhile, but enjoy the relationship you have with her. The one you have on the phone is the one you will continue with in person.

I am with Amber and Rbin, in a different way. My mother in law never did like me because I have a black child, and I did have to make my husband choose between her and me, and she knew she died that he would love me forever. She never tried to see our son but one time when he was 3 days old, and never touched him. I made my husband go to her death bed, and it was sad, because she wasted all those years!

You will be fine. Some people just love to hate, but it doesn't sound like she is one of those. You are beautiful, and everything your man wants, what else could a mother want for her son? I want that for my son. I tell them often, my prayer for them is that they will find a mate that loves them as much as John loves me. It is a great time ahead of you, one day at a time, and soon it will be the granddaughter or grandson they will be cooing over. You will see!

Love ya.

Barbarajo · 09-04-2005, 07:12 AM

Ok today is 9-4,

We will be waiting here for the update on how things went with the new inlaws.

Keep us posted

stakeda · 09-05-2005, 04:22 AM

Tonya,

How did it go?

I'm so sorry that you have to face the demons of insecurity. I know it sucks! We all constantly face them.

But, on a brighter side...........how did it go?

I'm sure this "love of your life, whom moved 2000 miles away from his family to be with you" was very proud of you. Right?

I mean, what's not to be proud of?