Robin's Story - Page 3 - ThinnerTimes

Barbarajo · 07-26-2005, 04:12 AM

Robin,
I am so sorry to hear about your sister. I have a friend who said she will never have childeren because she could never handle being pregnant and getting big. She is terrified of getting big. I just think there is so much bondage that is involved in this type of behavior. I am another friend who weight maybe 98lbs and thinks she is big as a house. She swims 2/1/2 hours every morning and if she eat a normal meal she feels fat. Now the demons have gotten a hold of her and she has started cutting herself. (by the way you can tell your psycologiest she never had WLS so she can't add her to her statistics.) lol....... Anyway, i think we should pray for freedom from your sister. She is so obviously rape up the appearances of this world.

Let me know Robin if you need to talk more about this. Iwould love to meet with your sister and you and talk about stuff like that. If you are comfortable with that.

By the way I went to the doctor today and He said I have a upper respitory infection which has caused no breath sounds in my lower lungs. I am on inhalers and antibiotics which is probalby why I am up at 2:30 am now 4:15. Say la vee. This too shall pass. Thank god I don't have to go to work until 12 or 1pm tomorrow.

Love ya my sister. Let me know if I can help you in any way.

watergirl · 07-26-2005, 06:21 AM

First of all, your sister is very lucky to have a sister as compationate as you!

My suggestion is to lead by example. You be the role model and see if she broches the subject with you. By all means talk about your childhood, because from my experience, my sister (older) and I had totally different perspectives on our growing up.

I wish you all the best in helping her.

bridgetgirl · 07-26-2005, 08:27 AM

I agree with Kim in the regard that I think we do have different perspectives about growing up. Me when I was bummed, depressed and feeling hopeless, i went to therapy. My sister when she feels the same way, shut down, diplaces her anger, goes into denial, blames and runs away.... but yet we brought up in the same household. She says my mother was mean to her, granite I remember my mom punishing her more because she was rowdy and out of control. Isnt it funny how 2 peas from the same pod grow so differently?
I think you should bring it up, she may not want to talk about it but heck, nothing ventured nothing gained.

When I found out I was preganant at about 240-245 pounds, I cried. I said I was going to a beachball but the end of my 9 months. I took great care of my body, watched what i ate (even though I had mashed potatoes and green beans with extra butter and salt just about everyday) and I walked about 2 miles evrtyday and drank TONS of water..... I didnt gain a single pound pregnant. Can you believe it? I think being pregnant regardless if you gain 10 pounds or 60 pounds is the most beautiful thing in the whole world. Preganat women are absolutely stunning!
Best wishes approaching your sister! Love ya!

gramamarc · 08-02-2005, 10:51 PM

Robin,
The replies to your story just prove how special you are and how much you mean to so many people. I can't wait til your surgery is scheduled and you come over to this side. In the mean time while I am off work we need to work on getting together more. email me maybe we can plan something.
Love you,
M

JohnsWife4Life · 08-02-2005, 11:03 PM

My sister was so tiny, not as tiny as my mom, but still very tiny, about 89 pounds soaking wet. She was always jealous of my breasts, if she could see them now, or not is a better word. We also felt different, even though we came from the same. She felt my mom loved me more, and I always felt my dad loved her more. She got her way more with my dad, and I got my way more with my mom. When my parents split up a few times, mama always took me. To hear my sister tell it, her childhood was awful because of my mom. I remember my sister lying all the time, and sneaking around, where as I was just honest, yes I want to go here, and yes there will be boys, but her, no she always said no and always got caught.

This probably wont make any sense, but when I was in nursing school, the last baby I saw being born was a complete different experience for me than it was for the mommy. To me it was a horrible experience, being a student, I knew very little, but I knew this woman was in trouble, and I knew that the baby was in trouble. But to hear the mom tell it, it was the most wonderful experience. She didn't realize her baby boy was flaccid and near death at his birth, her husband knew, but she had no clue, so I see how we all might have a different perspective.

Barbarajo · 08-03-2005, 07:05 AM

When I was growing up I had the same thing you did. I was the little one in the family. My mom, dad and brother were all over 300lbs. I was under 100 until high school when I became a women and weight a wapping 118. I didn't get fat until 20 somthng when I had my son.

Anyway, I heard all the worrible stuff my dad said to may brother. He would call him pig, tell him sqeal like a pig like on diliverance, he would tease and torture him all the time. No just my brother but everyone in my family was on a proptetual diet. My mom bless her beautiful heart lost 130 on weight watchers when we were on as a family for over a year. she gained all that back and then some. But this is 20 years later.

Thank you for talking about all this with us Robin. I really need to connect with my brother and talk to him about that kind of stuff. I know that he doesn't talk to any one about it. Maybe it would help him now to talk about it. He had the bypass surgery about 10 or 13 years ago. He lost over 100 lbs gain some back and now is taking some off again. He is a great guy in there. But he like so many hides behind his macho side and says everything is ok.

eyesthatkissu · 08-03-2005, 09:12 AM

When I was talking to the doctor during my psych eval, I said again what I keep saying to everyone. We HAVE to have support in order to be successful. SO many people, have the surgery and are not successful. Because they don't deal with the reasons they got fat in the first place. It's one of the things that makes Dr. Callery so unique. Just being able to come here, and vent, and know it's "out there", and people are listening, and understanding, and sharing similar experiences, is such a blessing.

Barbara my little dollface, I know it's difficult to talk to your brother. It was hard enough for me to talk to my sister. I have a brother I never mention not because I don't love him, but because we aren't close at all. I know I need to connect with him. I'm going to make a deal with you. By the end of the next week, I will somehow connect with him. Even if it's just writing him an email. Life is just too short, and regardless of how different he and I are, he is still my brother, and although we came from the same place.... we came from different places too.

Marcia, you such a sweetheart! I can't wait to see you again, and marvel at how well you are doing! Maybe I'll force Bridget to come do another MK class, one where she doesn't forget all her product at home *snicker*. Just an excuse to get everyone up to my house! Plus there is also my birthday party my friends are throwing for me! I'll have to make a post about that. Either way, I have to see you soon and give you a big hug, my dwindling little friend!

Traci I know what you mean exactly. It's like witnesses to a car accident. You will never get the same exact story. I don't know why that is, but it allows for us to situations from different perspectives. As long as we talk about it, and don't live in a tiny little bubble of self awareness. Something I need to learn.... the world does not revolve around me.

eyesthatkissu · 08-22-2005, 08:33 AM

It's amazing to me, that I am loved. Now don't get me wrong. I know my family loves me, and my husband and children. And I know my friends do too. But it's amazing, I'm worthy of it. It's kind of hard to wrap your brain around it. I'm sure it goes all the way back to my mother leaving. If your mother doesn't love you, no one else will. You know, for being such a self confident woman, I sure am insecure. This weekend, my friends threw a surprise birthday party for me. It took so much effort and planning. I still can't even believe it. Even some of you came! All that way, just for me. It still makes me cry. I hadn't had a birthday party since I was 8. And never ever a surprise one. I have thrown several for other friends of mine. Or who I thought were friends. I am so blessed to finally at this time in my life, just before my surgery, to finally know what true friendship is, and to find it all around me. For those of you that couldn't make it, don't feel badly! I know you wanted to be there, and were with us in spirit!

Bridget, I love you so much. I think way more then you know. You are not just an inspiration to me. You aren't just a muse, you are like... an extention of me. Of the me I hope to become. You love and accept me for who I am. And you make me feel like I can do anything. I want you to know how much I appreciate you. Thank you so much for comming, for my presents, and for all you do for me. And yes... at least 50 more birthdays together!

Marcia, you have a smile that lights up the entire room. And my entire world. You look so fabulous and are just glowing! Thank you for always making me feel loved. Thank you so much for my goal t-shirt! I hung it up in my room, and I see it everyday! I can't wait to post an after picture wearing it!

Marie, you beautiful tiny little person. I'm so happy I finally got to meet you, and hug your tiny little self. You make me laugh so much, and you are so knowledgeable! I love that you came to my party. Thank you so much! I look forward to spending more time with you sweetheart!

Linda, my little pumpkin... (please don't call me Monkey Tongue ) I'm so happy you came too. I can't believe how alike we are, in so many ways. We are traveling this road together, and by this time next year we will have gone to the otherside together as well. Thank you so much for my candles. How on earth did you know purple was my signature color???

Thank you all for making me feel loved, and worthy of being loved. I hope I return the favor on a daily basis!

Realtor Linda · 08-22-2005, 09:05 AM

Robin, I had such a great time at your party and your friends are just fabulous! Bridg, Marcia, Marie and I had fun taking a road trip to see you! No matter what goes down with your surgery, recovery, frustrations and success I hope you know that we ALL are here for you, day or night.
It was a treat to finally meet you. What sparkle you have! You light up a room. And va va va voooooooooom! What a hot babe you are! I can't wait to see the
"tiny hottie" inside you! Marie is gonna have competition!
I am just tickled I met you and I look forward to a long, healthy, happy lifetime of getting to know you better! Happy Birthday AGAIN!
Linda

lealphachienne · 08-22-2005, 09:32 AM

we finally get to meet! The crazy thing about this forum is that we're so intimate already. When we meet in person, it's like we've been friends for years. What better outlet and extensions of ourselves. Birds of a feather flock together. I can't wait to see how your journey will pan out. It's quite the awesome adventure.