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Godsblessedme · 08-22-2009, 10:03 PM

I have no words for any of you that felt the need to belittle a person and if you dont think that you did, well ya you did! I find it disgusting that people think thier "addiction" is so much better then mine and how i choose to spend my own $ (yes i said MINE not yours kelly) loans you still have to pay back and have nothing to do with tax payers which i didnt realize when your unemployed that your a tax payer hmmmm funny because i still pay taxes too, what the hell am i than!

I find it sickening that people can be that rude and judgemental when your posting regarding something like whats your transfer addiction and then slamming someone for that problem WOW you people have reached and ALL time low!

If you dont like what i'm writing DONT READ IT! I didnt ask you to empathsize with me and i sure as he!! dont empathize with you about ANYTHING anymore hope you never ask for imput about how to spend your $ or on what.

Wow so someone that has worked so hard in life, had an incredible job as an administrator and decided to quit her job to take care of her kids with special needs and return to school as a full time RN student whos husband left her and now lives on foodstamps and school loans is what??? Non deserving of one small pleasure in life WOW! OK thanks for informing me on the rules of life! I understand that the 4-5$ i spend 5 days a week on SB coffee is really stupid and crazy, but i'll take that anyday over some other form of vice or addiction that people are in denial about. (heck i was out in the open about mines)

Oh well i'm on this journey and this is how is was dealt so i'm rolling with it, like these other "foodstamp, divorcee, single mama's say" I"M GONNA DO ME NOW!

ardita · 08-22-2009, 10:15 PM

I missed something. Sorry someone got hurt. Wish it didnt happen here but it does sometimes....

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Originally Posted by Godsblessedme

I have no words for any of you that felt the need to belittle a person and if you dont think that you did, well ya you did! I find it disgusting that people think thier "addiction" is so much better then mine and how i choose to spend my own $ (yes i said MINE not yours kelly) loans you still have to pay back and have nothing to do with tax payers which i didnt realize when your unemployed that your a tax payer hmmmm funny because i still pay taxes too, what the hell am i than!

I find it sickening that people can be that rude and judgemental when your posting regarding something like whats your transfer addiction and then slamming someone for that problem WOW you people have reached and ALL time low!

If you dont like what i'm writing DONT READ IT! I didnt ask you to empathsize with me and i sure as he!! dont empathize with you about ANYTHING anymore hope you never ask for imput about how to spend your $ or on what.

Wow so someone that has worked so hard in life, had an incredible job as an administrator and decided to quit her job to take care of her kids with special needs and return to school as a full time RN student whos husband left her and now lives on foodstamps and school loans is what??? Non deserving of one small pleasure in life WOW! OK thanks for informing me on the rules of life! I understand that the 4-5$ i spend 5 days a week on SB coffee is really stupid and crazy, but i'll take that anyday over some other form of vice or addiction that people are in denial about. (heck i was out in the open about mines)

Oh well i'm on this journey and this is how is was dealt so i'm rolling with it, like these other "foodstamp, divorcee, single mama's say" I"M GONNA DO ME NOW!

Godsblessedme · 08-22-2009, 10:23 PM

Yes sadly it happens here too much. Ardita I posted in socialize forum about transfer addictions asking what everyones is. Apparently I'm not "deserving" of my little habbit because I get child support and student loans!

ardita · 08-22-2009, 10:38 PM

We all are here because we had/have addictions so it doesn't make sense to judge each other for that. We are addicts. Fact. On the other hand, sometimes people read things wrong and think something is being said that maybe wasn't really. I hope you were not being attacked even if it felt it you were.

I appreciate the topic of transfer addictions being raised to remind me to watch for that...

mistymee · 08-23-2009, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Godsblessedme

i didnt realize when your unemployed that your a tax payer hmmmm funny because i still pay taxes too, what the hell am i than!

Yes, I still have to pay taxes on the unemployment I received.

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Originally Posted by Godsblessedme

Yes sadly it happens here too much. Ardita I posted in socialize forum about transfer addictions asking what everyones is. Apparently I'm not "deserving" of my little habbit because I get child support and student loans!

My ire had nothing to do with the fact that you get CS and SL's. And you know that.

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Originally Posted by ardita

We all are here because we had/have addictions so it doesn't make sense to judge each other for that. We are addicts. Fact. On the other hand, sometimes people read things wrong and think something is being said that maybe wasn't reallyy. I hop you were not being attacked even if it felt it you were.

I appreciate the topic of transfer addictions being raised to remind me to watch for that...

Yeah, we're addicts. I would say mine is reading TT. Good thing I'm going to my moms this week so I can get that much needed break (again!)

Godsblessedme · 08-23-2009, 08:38 AM

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My ire had nothing to do with the fact that you get CS and SL's. And you know that.

DANG DID I SAY YOUR NAME! NO but it WAS SAID IN THAT THREAD by someone else

this personal story thread is not for anyone to come and debate my thoughts or opinions or anything. You have your own thread to do that,
this little slice of TT world is for OUR journeys i could give a rats a$$ anymore how your journey goes seriously FINISHED!

This is where i post my struggles and what not so people saying i'm in a pity me mode are full of crap and you know it! I post it right HERE under my OWN name's thread and i'll write whatever i want to

mistymee · 08-23-2009, 08:40 AM

just so I have this straight. you don't accept the apology. okay.

Godsblessedme · 08-23-2009, 08:44 AM

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just so I have this straight. you don't accept the apology. okay.

of course i accept apology i just think it was real shady and dirty of how my "girls" completely derailed my trust, threw me under the damn bus, and then kept backing over me with that bus! For voicing my own vice / or new addiction the fact was NOT can we friggin afford the new addictions but rather what is ours! WTH did you few bring up my financial portfolio for i have NO idea! None of you take care of my kids nor do you live in my house or know what i go without ! and i never asked for that i asked for others to COME OUT OF DENIAL and say what thier addictions were since food aint one of them!
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izanmanyzanz · 08-24-2009, 09:48 AM

Wwwwooooo hhhhhoooo, my deb has grown a set of balls and is standing up for herself. I love you girl, and you do what ever you want with what you have. Its your life and no one elses. Screw them all.

izanmanyzanz · 08-24-2009, 10:56 AM

I really have so much to say on this subject and I was not even going to use the energy to do so, but damn it you people need to look at all sides of every story.

Deb you will be out of school soon and back to working and paying taxes just like before until God took you on a detour. I look at it like this, you paid your taxes before, fell on hard times, now those taxes are helping you out till you are back on your feet, and then you will be making more money than ever, and they will be back to taxing your ass off. You paid for those stamps you get each month, and believe me, making that little bit last for 4 people takes lots of smarts and strategies every single month. Yes there are people who abuse the system. I can give you 10 names right now, but what is that going to accomplish, there will be 10 more to take their place, because that is the way some people are. Loans are to be used for all your school classes, books, materials, parking passes, gas to go to school,clothing, lunches and anything else you see needed to make you more successful. You are paying it back, get a life people. Being a single mom of 3 is hard enough, much less ones with special needs too. Child support goes to your kids and for the things they need clothes, shoes, school supplies, food, shelter, lights, heat and occassional entertainment. Personal trainer, yes this is a luxury many of us dont have, but your parents pay half of this, and why, they see your need for it. You need this to get yourself to a point where you feel good about yourself and your body doesnt hurt anymore just to walk. Ok now it is no longer a luxury because when you finish your school, and have that RN degree, you will have the energy and stamina to run back and forth and save lives. Let's just hope that irony doesn't come back and smack some of these people on the ass and you are the one taking care of them then. Dont let any of this bring you down. What comes around goes around. Take care of yourself, your kids, your mind, and your life. To hell with what anyone else thinks.

Me---my addictions straight out of surgery was coffee, never really like it, never owned a coffee pot, but boom all of a sudden I was drinking 2 or 3 cups a day. At least you are getting some protein in yours, mine doesnt. I have slowed down on the coffee to 1 every morning when I help the kids do 3 paper routes. I had also went to sweet tea, first it was 1 a day, then I was up to three a day. I am doing better and now only have about 2 or 3 a week. I am trying to slow down even more on those.
Then was the percocets, 150 of them in a month, now cold turkey none. Just the other pills the dr gave me RYZOLT for pain and some occassional Tylenol. Never been a drinker, so no problem there. I am basically doing nothing good for myself right now except drowning in my own self pity, but I hope to have this tube out of my side on the 9th and get myself going again. Then I can go back to my anti depressants too, and try to get a grasp back on life. I can do it, it will just take me a little longer.

I love you Deb, and again I am glad you are standing up for yourself and taking care of you for once.