mistymee

just joined facebook.. good grief, what I am getting in to? LOL

let me know if you want the nick.. it is not my actual name.. I kinda fibbed a bit. lol.

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KyMama56

Hey Kel,
I too am on Facebook. I joined at the urging of my 2 step-daughters (they Farmtown). I joined in April and I must say I am hooked and Farmtown ALL the time. Love it. Facebook is so user friendly and uncluttered. Mine is under brenda johnson clements. Feel free to add me, I will try to add you, and maybe we can be "farmtown neighbors".

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Brenda
Lap RNY April 11, 2008
SW/CW/GW
248/145/127
Loss of 121 lbs.

mistymee

Hey Brenda.. I just saw this so I just sent you a note. Sorry.. I guess I should look at my own thread more often, LOL. That FB is addicting! That said.. I'm staying FAR away from Farm town right now.. still learning the ropes, you know? And I spend ENOUGH time online as it is, LOL.

Anyway. I came here to post something I am feeling ashamed of but need to get off my chest.

My sister has invited us to a FD picnic/bbq at her house... it is going to be all her in-laws and as an afterthought she decided to invite my parents and a few of us from this side of the fam...(read: after my mom laid the major guilt trip on everyone because none of us jumped at the chance to drive 3.5+ hours to a bbq at her house for my dad.. I had told her I had to wait till this week to see if DD was moving this weekend or not, which was totally true)

My thing is.. my reason for not giving an affirmative answer two weeks ago was legitimate as DD is using friends for the move and she has to take them when they are available. Now that we know she isn't moving this week, we were all set to go when I got a pissy email from my mom which, in the end, cooerced my sister to add this side of the family to her little get together (follow that?) but with the week that my hubby has had, I just want to stay home and REST. He's exhausted.. been working 12+ hours a day all week and not getting enough sleep. He's not exactly a young man anymore and I'm worried about him.

BUT.. my parents aren't going to be around forever, either. Dad has beat the odds so many times, it isn't even funny... then there is the fact that dad is often so uncomfortable around groups of people that I'm sure he's only going to make mom happy. (I love her, but she can be uhh 'whiny' at times... )

Anyway.. my issue is I feel guilty for not wanting to go AT ALL. I am not a fan of this sister's family.. not her husband, nor his mother nor the rest of his family... that adds to my not wanting to go. But truthfully, if it weren't for how just exhausted DH has been I would just suck it up for the day, drive the 3.5 hours down and back and deal.

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mistymee

UGH... I just found out it is motorcycle weekend in NH, and there is a HUGE 'thing' going on really close to where my sis lives..

Add to that, my throat and left ear are both starting to hurt. Psychosomatic maybe? I don't normally get that way but I'm already dreading the long ride down & back.

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suebry05

Kelly,

health comes first!! rest up girl...if you really are not feeling up to it- then dont go- maybe u could plan a get together at your house for your parents and whomever later this summer. that way you are on your own ground and can have your own good food and be comfy

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katzz87

This is all about YOUR HUBBY...it's his Father's Day, right? And to drive a full 6+ hours (there and back) that just isn't my idea of a fun and relaxing time!

So YOU get my vote...stay home, relax and enjoy...and throw the guilt out the window!!!

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TT Gym rat club member #132

mistymee

Hubby & I discussed it and we've decided that we're not going to go tomorrow.. I'm feeling okay so I don't have that as an excuse but I just don't want to be doing that whole drive and back in one day, particularly on "motorcycle weekend". No offense to the bikers here but the idea of fighting traffic with the expected 350,000 bikers on the road..

Now, I just have to tell the fam. lol.

We're going to MA for the fourth of July so we'll just go stay with my parents that friday.. only two weeks away so we should be okay. (she says in an attempt to allay her guilt.)

Sue, I'd love to have my family come up for a visit but my dad would never do that.. He didn't even come to the wedding last Oct. He'll go to my sister's since it isn't too far from home (about 40 minutes) but that's about it..mostly cuz he can get home quickly if need be. He is blind, hard of hearing and has had a larengectomy so he has issues with people seeing the hole in his neck which is why I am sure it's my mom pushing for them to go tomorrow.

The final deciding factor was that the weather is supposed to be kind of rainy and wet down south so it'll most likely be an indoors shingdig and neither of us want to be around the smokers who'll huddle on the porch, as if that will keep the smoke from coming indoors. No thanks to that!

So.. we'll stay home- DH says he has some work he needs to do and I'll just do some knitting/sewing or whatnot. Maybe explore FB some more, LOL.

Thanks for letting me work this out with y'all! It's much appreciated, seriously.. it just helps to be able to talk this out sometimes, you know?

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ardita

hey kel--
good decision on your part. it is okay to stay home. i'm come from a quirky dysfunctional family long distance and can relate to sometimes frustrating dynamics. Your mother needs to stop trying to guilt you at this point in your life. She wont, she's not interested in changing, but you can change the situation by how you let it make you feel. Move on, enjoy your day, and let them own any repercussions. Don't give away the power. If you don't give it, she can't take it. Find a time that works for you to go for a visit or to try to coordinate a different family gathering.

from the peanut gallery....

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mistymee

Thanks Ardita! We did have an incredibly enjoyable day Sunday.. and I called my parents, wished dad happy happy and it was fine.

We'll be going to visit around the 4th so we're okay.

This is unrelated to anything you said but.........dayummmmmmmm.. ugh, and ARGHHHHH.. all rolled into one.. And a big massive eye roll to boot.


And I wish my foot felt better.. there's stuff I would like to get done today! If I could teleport to MA to get that cortisone shot, I would right about now... *sigh*.. but even if I could, I don't have the damn referral and etc, etc.. wish things weren't so GD difficult!

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mistymee

Well, I figure anyone who cares will look for me here so.... Though it may appear I've left due to the stuff yesterday... it appears I'll have to be away till July5th or 6th unless we can figure something else out.

My daughter is moving this weekend, and the original plans were she was coming up with a truck & trailer and some friends... but the owner of the truck bailed around 10:30 last night. *SO*. DH is having to rent a truck.. add to that, there won't be any guys to help us.. so IF we can find a truck at this late date, the girls will be driving up today.. we will spend today & tomorrow AM packing the truck and then tomorrow afternoon we will drive to my moms for Sunday night. Monday AM we will have to drive to MA and unpack the truck and then daughter will have to drive me to my moms to stay till Friday.

Hubby will meet me friday and Saturday, we'll go do our thing on the holiday weekend and come back on Monday.

My mom only has dial up and I don't think I have much patience to deal with it so I probably won't be online.

Its probably good timing, given how bruised I'm feeling. I've cried buckets the last two days. I finally stopped around, oh.. 7 last night. Hubby and I talked some.. it helped. Some.

He's none too happy about the whole situation above but that is another story altogether.

I was craving ben & jerry's yesterday so bad. I'm glad there wasn't any in the house.. we've only had it in the house once since my surgery.. it was not a good idea. I don't dump (or so it seems) and though it was only one teaspoon/tablespoon at a time, I still ate most of the pint. Sure, much different than in the past where I'd drown my pain in the whole thing in one sitting but still calories I don't need. That was probably about 7 months ago.

Lastly, I have to say I'm laughing at the idea that someone will point out the number of posts someone makes even going to the trouble of looking up and posting their post counts of a thread and calling us time wasters. Why does this bother him so much? What does he care? Does he not see the irony of his comments and how outright silly it makes him? That is really quite laughable.

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