Mistymee...aka Kel's story... - Page 15 - ThinnerTimes

mistymee · 08-27-2008, 07:34 AM

Well, I haven't done any updates here since the move to VT.. I don't even remember how much I've said in other threads so I apologize if I repeat myself! lol.

I do know that I posted my numbers with the new A1C being 5.5 and cholesterol at 155/ratio of 3.3 and my blood pressure being 120-something over 60-something.. (should go look it up but I'm being lazy, lol) All good stuff.. wanted to put that in 'my thread'.

Today Geof & I are headed off to mass to pick up his car and I'll get a few things from the house, then on to my Moms.. on saturday, I'll head back (from my Mom's in NH) with a van to finish the whole move out thing.

The house hunt here is NOT, I repeat NOT going well... we can't really buy a house with my not working and the rentals are pitiful.. I mean seriously pitiful. If I end up stuck in this ice cold house this winter I don't know what I'll do.. it might seriously damage our relationship as we're already disagreeable over the temps.. it is so effen cold in this house right now and it's still Aug.. it was in the mid-40's last night and it's up to all of 49 degrees.. and inside is still barely 52 degrees. I can't turn on the heat as it's not been turned on for the season! I refuse to shower in this cold house too.. so. umm.. yeah, I showered Monday night and am debating how much longer I can put that off.

And I don't really feel 'at home' here.. this is clearly his domain and I feel like an interloper... we've both been rather autonomous in our homes.. me for 9 years almost and him 10 years and we both have quirks that are a bit irritating to the other.

I strongly believe we need a new place that is 'ours' instead of 'his' or 'mine'... a place for a fresh start together... but so far, the places we've looked at are tiny and expensive, or so rundown as to be embarrassing.

This whole transition will be hard, I knew that.. but... I'm still a bit frustrated with the whole thing. I don't like feeling like I have no place to call home and that is what I feel right now.

Nyn · 08-27-2008, 10:57 AM

::HUGS:: Kel, I am sorry that things are hard. As you said, transitions like this are ALWAYS hard. What are the statistics on this? It's something like moving is the hardest thing for any family to go through? I really, really hope you can find a new rental soon because you definitely don't sound like you want to be there long. Good luck to you and Geof!!

agodewey · 08-27-2008, 06:59 PM

Kel,

I'm so sorry to hear that things are really tough right now

. I always invisioned VT as being this pristine beautiful place with friendly people. I never stopped to think about the cold being so far north. As far as the quirks, and annoyances, take it from someone who is going to celebrate his 20th anniversary in April, you get used to them, and you learn to work around them. Good luck in finding your new abode.

Godsblessedme · 08-27-2008, 07:53 PM

ahhhh my dear friend, you will find a perfect cottage really soon. i LOVE vermont miss the whole new england suroundings. keep searching and you'll find something have fun this weekend

Vim&Vigour · 08-28-2008, 02:28 AM

Oh Kel!
At least you can define exactly were the shoe is pinching. Know thy enemy and you will have a tool/weapon to work with.
Best wishes in finding an "ours" home - sounds like the right thing to do - also, Geoff needs to "loosen up" a little to welcome you more!
Cheers,
Vim

A Subby's Wife · 08-28-2008, 07:58 PM

Hi Ms. Kel, It has been a while since I have been out here. Have been busy working and going to the gym.

You and Geof will work through things. You are taking a huge step and make a huge change with everything in your life. You have had your surgery, which is a major stress in its self. You left your job, home, and friends and moved to be with your soon to hubby.

You all will work it out, just give it time. I do understand about the whole "his" domain thing. When my Geoff and I got married I pretty much gave everything up and moved in to his house. We had totally different decorating styles, color selections, furniture selections, etc. I will say, my love for my DH outweighed all those things. After a while I eventually put my touch on things in the house. It definitely feels like "our" house now. We have both compromised and many decisions we have made in the house, but we both like them or at least agree on them in the end.

I wish you two all the luck in the world! You all will work through it and learn to compromise. It's not easy, but will get easier.

mistymee · 09-05-2008, 09:09 AM

Moving this from the Exercising Logging post made by deb rather than hijack her thread:

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Originally Posted by mistymee

I didn't do much of anything today...

I kinda feel myself sliding into a bit of a depression. The lack of a job, not feeling at home, not having access to my belongings is really getting to me. I've been teary off and on all day.

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Originally Posted by oregoncora

Mistyme, I am sorry you are feeling blue. I hope it passes soon. Sounds like you need some hugs. Now I need to go back and see what your real name is. I forget. too many names to remember.

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Originally Posted by mistymee

Thanks for the virtual hugs, Cora. This change has been a long time coming, but it's weird.. it should be a really happy time, but instead I'm finding it so stressful.

Being a stay-at-home mom for 16 years while my kids were growing up was also a difficult time and I often suffered from depression then as well. I do better when I'm working and feel useful. Add to that the loss, even though temporary, of my belongings, being in a somewhat unfamiliar area, with only knowing a few people.. and with my kids now hundreds of miles away instead of 50 or so.. it all adds up to a few weepy moments now & then

No worries about the name, I answer to mistymee as well as my real name, Kelly

There were already so many Kelly's in the group actively posting, so I had to choose something else...

My nick is after one of my kitties (shown in my 'kitty' album on my profile page) that had a severe type of cancer and we had to put down last year..

(rather than continue this thread drift here, I should move this to my 'story' thread, I think.. I'll repost these couple of posts there.)

mistymee · 09-05-2008, 10:10 AM

One of the things that really upset me yesterday was that I went shopping at a local store, spent about an hour looking over things in the store, learning where things are and picking out a few things that were on sale and when I got to the cash register, and tried to check out, nothing rang up at the sale price.. she tells me that I can't get that price without a store card.. Not one of their sale signs mention a need for the card and I don't have one.. so they would not honor their sale prices for me.. I explain that I just moved here and I haven't got one and they wouldn't even do it as a courtesy for a new customer! (I also believe this to be illegal unless the signs state a need for a card)..

I was so frustrated.. I'd wasted all that time and ended up leaving without the things I wanted.

Geof informed me that this particular store is not very customer friendly and then took me to a different one later in the evening and showed me how much more friendly they were there, the manager even personally welcomed me to the area.. then offered to try to stock some items I tend to buy but they don't currently stock..

But the episode earlier in the day was just one of several frustrations and was probably why I was so weepy..

As for the part above about being away from my kids... it's not like they're really 'kids'.. they're both young adults... my son is 22 and my daughter is 20 and they're both doing GREAT... but for me, it's just so hard to know they can't pop home for a night when they need/want Mom.

My daughter is teaching a guard this year, after performing in guard at a world class level for a few years, and I realize I won't be able to just pop over and catch a performance whenever the mood might strike.. I won't get to be in the stands and feel the pride when I hear her name announced that first time. And my son will be performing in a symphony and I won't be able to go see his performances, either as they're all usually during the week.

None of this has a thing to do with WLS, so I've put these here... but I'm just feeling really sad again today. I try to keep these feelings out of my other posts in other threads and I'm really sorry to Deb that I crapped on her other thread yesterday.

Godsblessedme · 09-05-2008, 01:39 PM

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I'm really sorry to Deb that I crapped on her other thread yesterday

girl hush yo mouth! do you see my bunny! i poop on everyone's things so who cares crap away. (ewwwwww right)

i'm so sorry your feeling blue. perhaps a trip to look at the fall folliage soon will be a distractor for you. The right job, house, everything will come for you. Its wedding time focus right now thats exciting maybe thats the reason is cause you have to focus on that time right now. I'm so sure that Geoff is fine will your searching. And i'm sure you know that not only moving is stressful, but the fact you moved to another state has got to be almost over the top. Now get your chin up and walk around VT like you own the Pico Mountain ( i sure miss vermont's skiing) and just be your bubbly self. It'll get better my friend and if it doesnt you and Geoff would love Arizona

hhhaaa

mistymee · 09-18-2008, 09:21 PM

Wow.. it's been a while (for me anyway,LOL) since I did an update... A few things:

Weight loss: I cheated today and got on the scale. 203.4.. Onederland Countdown is in full force.

Depressed feelings: Still feeling down.. I know most, if not all stem from all this upheaval and the 'unknown' and living in limboland.

Health: Hotflash city. I'm sure this is NOT helping my moods or anything else. I'm seriously pissed that they started so close to the wedding. I barely ate today due to feeling sick to my stomach most of the day. Barely any fluids either. Hopefully, this doesn't continue. My mom says my sick to my stomach and general ill feeling is stress related.

Aside from the 'general malaise' mentioned above, I'm doing okay. Still not getting in enough exercise to make me happy. I felt sooo much better when I was exercising daily. My foot, on the other hand is happy I'm not walking, so..catch 22.

Wedding: No cake, No flowers yet. Dress is in, I'll pick it up next week when I'm in NH for my niece's heart surgery.. (please send prayers for her!) I'll have a seamstress here in town work on it, if need be. Today, I tried on my Spanx-wanna be's (sold at Target (by the same woman who does spanx but more affordable..) Works well.

Decorations will be 'fall' style, since the ceremony is outdoors.. cornstalks, pumpkins, mums... all that jazz... my daughter's maid of honor dress sooo does not go with that theme, but oh well.. her dress was picked out before we decided to go with what Mother Nature started.... she doesn't care.. she looks cute in her dress and that's all that matters... plus she coordinates more with Geof's shirt & tie colors. I still don't have a clue what son will be wearing.

Response cards are trickling in... argh.

Job Search: Don't even wanna talk about it. I had my one day of training at a local school to be a school secretary substitute... wow, what a day. I can't talk about the whole thing as it's all confidential stuff but it was a doozy.. Now it's just a matter of working when the secretary calls out..(at least until I find a permanent job)

I'm interested in becoming a VA (Virtual Assistant)... not sure I can afford the $$$ for the 'official' training so I can advertise as a certified VA though. Looking in to it.. If anyone has a few thousand bucks laying around.. feel free to send them my way, lol.. my address is with Toony

House/apartment/condo search: slow at best.. this area is tough.. the rental market is such that the nice places tend to be more for the seasonals, as the $$$ the landlords get from them is way more than the long termers.. so we're sort of priced out of the decent rentals. Looks like we'll need to settle for something a little less to our liking as far as condition of the place.

We kinda sorta found a place we could make a home together.. the landlord loved us.. said she liked our 'spirit'... that she'd had others that expressed interest in the place but we could have it if we wanted. Geof's concern is heating it.. it's a big ol' NE farmhouse style house.. and we're not sure how well insulated it is at the moment. Cute backyard, which interests me though.. As my daughter said.. we've lived in the big fancy house, in the big fancy neighborhood and we were miserable..now we have a chance to make a real home.. who cares if it's not so fancy? Have I mentioned how much I love my girlie-que?

We are looking at a smaller ranch tomorrow evening, which looks kinda cute from the outside.. hopefully after that we'll make our decision. And here, too.. if you have a few thousand laying around just looking for something to spend it on.. lol... send it my way, I can think of a few things to do with it.. lol...

Guess this was more than just a few things. Oh well.. lol..