Vim is SO Happy!!! - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Vim&Vigour · 04-06-2008, 04:23 AM

Dianne,
I agree with you about not having bicuits etc in the house. BUT, and this is a big BUT!

I have a husband, children, friends, workmen around. Just because I am on a "diet", my eating plans should not have to impact on them! Take it that if you go to Harrods, you may be tempted by all the lovely things you see, but you can't have them - for whatever reason.
Just because you want something does not mean that you have to shun it. I can still enjoy a Picasso without being able to afford it or have it. I may look at it every day and still not have it. The same thing applies to food. Win that and you have conquered a lot!

Cheers,
Vim

coptergirl · 04-06-2008, 07:22 AM

VV - You are a true inspiration. I always enjoy reading your posts and updates as you are so wise, tender, and sweet.

Are you close to Harrods? Maybe a trip to the UK is in order

Claire-in-Texas · 04-06-2008, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Vim&Vigour

5th April 2008
Exactly 4 months out today.
I have lost 42% of my wls journey so far.
I am SO very happy at the improved me, at being FREE, feeling younger, lighter and just grateful to be ALIVE...

You know that feeling you get at times, such as "falling in love", finding the "dream" house, that "great" job...? You just know it when you see it. But know what exactly? Well, you "know" that the glove fits, that everything falls into place...

I am done with feeling blue... I am done with being MO... I am done with being old... I just "know" that the corner I have turned is a real right angle corner, not a pretend, temporary corner... A major moment in my Life. A feeling that has been in the formation these last 5 days...

Several of my Forum Friends have been immensely helpful in giving me the unexpected "final push", the break from the past. Be it from suggesting ideas, reading your threads, blogging, sense of humour, practical tips, goals, experience, walking a similar path to mine, or just being visible across the boards… My immense Thank You to you all – you have made my world go round!

I have been given the rare chance of being set free from myself. I still am great friends with myself, but through the regeneration I have left the frayed bits of my old soul behind! (The “old skin” might undergo a body lift, but only if really necessary – time will tell!). The knowledge I have gained along the way is one thing – now I am acquiring the wisdom in using it properly.

I am so happy. It is my responsibility to BE happy in all sincerity. I have lived so much sadness and torment that I have cried myself dry. I have weaned myself from a sad past.

Now it is onto a “5 day pouch test”! Use my tool with skill and discipline!

Thank you so very very much my Forum Pals for just “being there”, 24/7!

Warmest wishes to you all,
Vim

Vim, you mirror my own emotions in many ways. It is so very liberating. I'm so proud of you! You are finding your AUTHENTIC YOU!!! How exciting!

Dawn Crippen · 04-06-2008, 08:01 AM

Vim, You have such a way with words, do you write for a living? Very nice! You mentioned a 5 day pouch test..what is that?

Dawn 6 weeks 5 days out post op

Persephone · 04-06-2008, 12:16 PM

I"M happy that YOURE happy.

I bet you have one of those laughs that is infectious.
Your happiness is certainly spreading

waterbottle · 04-06-2008, 01:10 PM

I wish I could do that but for me it is impossible to control this urge....

I will never master that so I have failed on the diet and restrain side of the band,

I must live by my life style or I will fail.

Im glad you will find the path to pass this and live a normal life with food, Maybe with my partners support I will be able to change my thoughts on food being the enemy.

take care Dianne

Vim&Vigour · 04-06-2008, 01:27 PM

Whitney, when you live in London, or the UK for that matter, Harrods is close to anything!

Claire, the "Authentic Self" - 2 precious words and quite a concept - you know it when you see it! I see you name on all the bill boards as I walk along my road towards a new life! I must be doing something right! Thanks for your support and inspiration!

Dawn, thank you - no, I don't write for a living but lately it feels that I have started to Live through writing! www.fivedaypouchtest.com is worth a visit if you feel you are "failing" or "stalling" with your weight loss. Have a look, useful tips and tricks in there, but hopefully you'll won't need them quite yet! Happy losing! Starting to feel great?? I bet you are!

Persephone, I have PM'd you and alas, my laugh is not infectious, nor elegant! (still time to improve I hope!).

Dianne, you have managed the hardest parts: to have your surgery AND find love! Where there is a will (love) you will find a way. We all use the same equipment but have different user manuals - end results are the same and they are what matters! When you have settled more into your married life and become acquainted with the banded you and have less stressful (though happy) situations around you, then I am sure your eating and desires will fall into place.

My warmest thanks to you all!
Vim

splendifor · 04-06-2008, 05:53 PM

VV

I like what you said about living around food and being able to *abstain* (to interpret what you're saying)

One of the problems I had with doing OA in the past was that sobriety was so difficult for me to clearly define.. one of the BIG long term plusses to having this surgery is that sobriety is clear as a bell and the work that comes after beginning to abstain is clearer because yes or no I am following the plan that I have...

Alcoholics have to live in a society with alcohol everywhere... I'm sure to an extent so do other addicts (ie: nicotine etc) and no matter what there is the tendency of people with addictions to replace it (as discussed elsewhere) so we have to do the work of addressing what led to our addiction in order to overcome.. which has less to do with the food in the house than with the white and grey matter in our skulls..

thanks for writing - keep it up!

Godsblessedme · 04-06-2008, 06:25 PM

God love me, i cant believe i didnt reply to this earlier! I thought i did. anyway How happy I am that you are so joyous. You need to come to the US and spread that postitivity around here some

Sounds like you really are on your way to a real healthy you. Ok girl time to break out the camera now

Vim&Vigour · 04-07-2008, 02:18 PM

Thank you Deborah!
Yes, what a joy to wake up and see SNOW for the first time in 2 years! What a joy to come home dead beat after work - but to come HOME! I am immensely grateful for what I HAVE rather than complaining about what I am missing out on (and believe you me, I have seen VERY lean days for 20 years!). Yes, I would so dearly love to go on THE Cruise and would be "happy" to do a little spreading then -BUT, alas BUT, I will only know September/October whether or not I can participate...

Jacki,
Your reply gives me another "clarity", another perspective I had not thought about. It also ties in with something that Fisher1000 responded a few weeks back in one of my threads. Basically, (here is my "new" interpretation!) learning to reapply our mental frustration from not "being able" to junk eat is something we all agree on. But wherein the struggle lies, I believe is akin to starting retirement. When you have worked your butt off your whole life and "suddenly" you are retired, with 24/7 time for yourself and are no longer "needed" at work, what on earth do you do? For many individuals who have been "workaholics" or passionate about their career, too much time on their hands comes as a shock to their system, quite literally. Some put on a lot of weight, become depressed, start smoking, become moody, have affairs or age rapidly. They are at a loss at what to do with all their “new” time on their hands! But for those who have had a hobby, other occupations other than “only” their work, other mental stimulus, they embrace retirement with a new zest for life and youthfulness. At long last they are “free” to undertake what they have been longing to do but could not afford, timewise or financially. Be it travelling, renovating old properties, indulging in gardening, collecting stamps, taking up martial arts, you name it, they are a whole lot happier than most and often are the ones who are “slimmer” and more positive, with a “can do” attitude.

So, if we are intelligent enough to find a replacement occupation – that is safe and that we enjoy, I recon we are better equipped to “succeed” with our weight loss journey thanks to our surgery. What do you think?

I have acquired a pug puppy, born 5 days after my surgery. Pugsy is very much a “lapdog” and as a puppy loves being cuddled and picked up as well as being independent and running and loving long walks. In a sense, I have “transferred” my overeating to caring for my new puppy…

I would be interested in your views!

Cheers,
Vim