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Mavisavis · 07-19-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Loser2be

It's been a year since my amazing, life-changing surgery. So, what's new in a year? Everything. My body, my hair, my face, my attitude. I've only lost 83 lbs, but that's more than I've ever managed to lose, much less keep off. I've gained new friends and people who get me in ways no one else in my life ever has. May this next year consolidate my gains and losses!

Awwww, a big Happy Re-Birthday! You have been so much help and encouragment to me along the way. I'm so glad you are part of our little family.

Now daggone it.....stop saying ONLY!!!!! You have done awesome......I am very proud of you.

Gladitsme · 07-19-2006, 01:13 PM

Thanks Marty, I count you as one of my gains!

Gladitsme · 07-31-2006, 06:12 PM

I saw Kelly today at Dr. Callery's office. She told me she had hopes for me to keep losing weight, and wants me to get down another 30 lbs. So do I!

She asked about my relationship with John and how that's going. I was happy to say it's going well. She gave me a sheet with the labs I need to get checked every 6 months, and released me from her/Dr. Callery's care.

It feels kind of weird to be "normal" again.

I've set my goal to hit century club before I go to Hawaii in October. That's 17 lbs. Woo hoo, I know I can do it!

LisaBoston · 07-31-2006, 08:00 PM

Nancy, congrats girl, you are doing so great. I think thats a very realistic goal for yourself. I too hope that the WL doesn't end at the one year mark!

Mavisavis · 07-31-2006, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Loser2be

I've set my goal to hit century club before I go to Hawaii in October. That's 17 lbs. Woo hoo, I know I can do it!

That's great Nancy! But have you noticed how those last 20-25 pounds to the century mark seem to just creep?

Gladitsme · 08-15-2006, 03:01 PM

My dad is 83 years old, and is married to a woman who is nuts, to put it kindly. She has diabetes, and apparently also has developed Parkinson's disease. She lives in a huge 3 story house in MO. The university across the street has exercised eminent domain and wants her out of the house. She's not budging. She has filled this entire house with junk that she's bought at thrift stores. She has stacks of magazines and books, etc. Dad said she actually sleeps on a stack of magazines and books because all the furniture in the house is buried in junk.

Anyway, I've offered to help go through the stuff in the house with them so that they don't end up getting rid of anything of value in the mess. But she hates my dad's kids -- me included. Ok fine, the feeling used to be mutual, but I've gotten over it.

My work offers a program called Evercare that would send out a social worker to help them relocate, and help them go thru the stuff. Also they have "care advocates" who would help Dad with her regarding her refusal to take any of the meds for Parkinsons. Dad said last night that she's on 3 different kinds of insulin. Anyway, the thing from work wouldn't cost Dad or me a penny. It's a benefit offered to employees. Seems like a good deal to me. But. . .

About 15 years ago, I called CPS on her because I was worried about my half-sister. I told my siblings I had done it, and I told my dad. She hasn't forgotten that this happened, but Dad never told her it was me.

Dad hasn't forgotten it either -- even though I had. When I talked to him about it, he basically said, "Thanks but no thanks. I remember the last time you interfered and it was a nightmare." He didn't use those words, but that was the message.

So, because I made a choice 15 freaking years ago, he won't accept help from me now?

I hung up feeling like crap. Frustrated, angry, and depressed. I've forgotten what it was like to be in my family. I don't operate by the same rules, and it isn't acceptable. I guess I'll just take his no for an answer. But it doesn't mean that I like it.

Mavisavis · 08-15-2006, 09:15 PM

Awww Nancy, I hate crap like that.

As hard as it is, you might be best to just leave them to their own devices. My life has sucked these past 2 weeks too. I hate to say, I finally gave in today and ate my emotions. Ugh......I sure hope things get better soon for you. Just keep the focus on your own health......we loveya.

Gladitsme · 08-16-2006, 09:48 AM

I ate my emotions too. It still bothers me. I prefer to go through life wearing rose colored glasses, not acknowledging problems like this. I guess I will have to leave them be, but it's difficult. Not suprising I went into the mental health field is it? My younger sister is an actuarial for an insurance company -- not the one I work for though. LOL She went the other way -- as little emotion as possible for her.

Gladitsme · 08-18-2006, 03:15 PM

Ok, so I did the math -- my half-sister is going to be 37 this year -- I called CPS when she was in high school -- I think we're talking more like 22-23 years ago! Talk about holding a grudge!!!

Sheesh. Funny thing happened though -- I got a bad inner ear infection. I'm on antibiotics.

I saw my therapist last night, and we talked about how what I heard from my dad literally made me sick.

It's happened before, but I hope it won't happen again.

Mavisavis · 08-18-2006, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Loser2be

Ok, so I did the math -- my half-sister is going to be 37 this year -- I called CPS when she was in high school -- I think we're talking more like 22-23 years ago! Talk about holding a grudge!!!

Sheesh. Funny thing happened though -- I got a bad inner ear infection. I'm on antibiotics.

I saw my therapist last night, and we talked about how what I heard from my dad literally made me sick.

It's happened before, but I hope it won't happen again.

Sometimes we just have to make good choices for ourselves.....and leave others to make their own. I'm glad you are working through all the garbage. I do understand......I have had my share of dysfunction in my family.