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soon2bthin · 09-07-2008, 12:00 PM

Thanks for posting your lists Mike. It helps remind me, that I, you,and all of us here are only human and will battle these for the rest of our lives. You documented a lot of the same things I feel I struggle with right now and 13 months out. I am to try to buckle down and do better as well. Thanks again. Just so you know you are an inspiration to me. Congrats on the weight loss too. I predict under 200 in the near future.

Gwen · 09-07-2008, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by fisher1000

It's hard to believe that I'm under 220 again. (219...spot on.)

Today is going to be a good day. (If I can get the emotions under control!)

-Mike

WELL DONE MIKE!!! Belatedly, but oh so proud of you

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Originally Posted by fisher1000

Honesty Check ahead...mainly for me, but thought I'd share for those who think I'm "Perfect Pete!"

I just had to get this out.

I deal in truth now.

-Mike

I could have written that post myself and spoke about it in the last couple of days with people around me - thanks again for putting it down in black and white

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Originally Posted by fisher1000

It's not about the guilt, really, or the need or want to "treat" myself. I think it's about the excess. My brain, my stomach, and my heart still do not work in tandem with each other. I'm very aware, thoughtful, and analytical about my journey because I want to OWN my success. The pouch is my tool, but I am the agent.

I still enjoy eating. I eat savory things. I just don't want to slip back into excessive traits. Food can still be fun, I'm just worried that my habits could indicate a regression that I know I don't want.

Your points are valid. I just want you to know that I'm analyzing my habits, not necessarily wallowing in depravity. (The almost empty jar of peanut butter is testament to that!)

-Mike

Couldn't have said it better

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Originally Posted by Corrine

Hi podmate! Almost a year for us - can you believe it!

I always enjoy your posts too - you seem to have the ability of putting into writing, things that I still haven't got my head around - and I thank you deeply for that.

I realised a long time ago that I was drawn to food either from habit or boredom or stress. Hunger rarely entered into the equation and inevitably, the "my teeth are bored" syndrome hit and I'd start looking in the fridge and cupboards.

The only way for me to break that was to view food as nothing more than fuel and to prepare my intake for the day beforehand - print it out and stick it to the fridge door.

That's not to say that I don't enjoy what I eat - I go to great lengths to make it visually appealing and tasty.

It maybe a drastic measure but breaking a 30+ year habit warranted it.

You'll achieve your ultimate goal my friend. You have a handle on what's going on.

Thinking in tandem here - well said Corrine!!

Love you guys (my SPMs!)

XXX

sdgrrl · 09-08-2008, 05:39 PM

I love the way you chronicle your thought process, Mike. The more we share of our 'inner squishy stuff', the more similar we see we are.

Here's a point to ponder....bought and paid a psychiatrist for it close to 30 years ago--- There's been a lot of talk about feeling guilty about certain eating habits, desires, etc. In fact 'guilty' is not an actual emotion; the actual manifestation making us squirm in our slippers when we eat a jar of peanut butter, etc, is SHAME. Shame is at our doorstep when we feel unworthy, incompetent, or inadequate. What this shrink suggested I do whenever those emotions crept over me was to ask myself, "Do I feel incompetent? Do I feel unworthy? Do I feel inadequate?" If any of those questions make you squirm or bring up an old situation, or just remind you of....... maybe you are feeling some shame. I can tell you, and this is pretty darn cool, if you listen to yourself when any of those memories show themselves, and you have a conversation with yourself about it, it really helps make the feelings that made you want a bowl of calories retreat. Of course we don't all or always eat from emotions, I'm just saying that when there is no physiological reason for hunger, maybe there is something else making our stomachs growl.....

I think they call this 'food for thought...'

fisher1000 · 09-08-2008, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by sdgrrl

I love the way you chronicle your thought process, Mike. The more we share of our 'inner squishy stuff', the more similar we see we are.

Here's a point to ponder....bought and paid a psychiatrist for it close to 30 years ago--- There's been a lot of talk about feeling guilty about certain eating habits, desires, etc. In fact 'guilty' is not an actual emotion; the actual manifestation making us squirm in our slippers when we eat a jar of peanut butter, etc, is SHAME. Shame is at our doorstep when we feel unworthy, incompetent, or inadequate. What this shrink suggested I do whenever those emotions crept over me was to ask myself, "Do I feel incompetent? Do I feel unworthy? Do I feel inadequate?" If any of those questions make you squirm or bring up an old situation, or just remind you of....... maybe you are feeling some shame. I can tell you, and this is pretty darn cool, if you listen to yourself when any of those memories show themselves, and you have a conversation with yourself about it, it really helps make the feelings that made you want a bowl of calories retreat. Of course we don't all or always eat from emotions, I'm just saying that when there is no physiological reason for hunger, maybe there is something else making our stomachs growl.....

I think they call this 'food for thought...'

Shame, Guilt, Remorse...
I think they're all the same horse.
No matter how you phrase it
They all have the same source.
Donna calls it "food for thought,"
And I agree of course.
Shame, Guilt, Remorse...
Such a powerful force.

Sorry Donna...I got a little waxy...

Love ya!

-Mike

Claire-in-Texas · 09-08-2008, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sdgrrl

I love the way you chronicle your thought process, Mike. The more we share of our 'inner squishy stuff', the more similar we see we are.

Here's a point to ponder....bought and paid a psychiatrist for it close to 30 years ago--- There's been a lot of talk about feeling guilty about certain eating habits, desires, etc. In fact 'guilty' is not an actual emotion; the actual manifestation making us squirm in our slippers when we eat a jar of peanut butter, etc, is SHAME. Shame is at our doorstep when we feel unworthy, incompetent, or inadequate. What this shrink suggested I do whenever those emotions crept over me was to ask myself, "Do I feel incompetent? Do I feel unworthy? Do I feel inadequate?" If any of those questions make you squirm or bring up an old situation, or just remind you of....... maybe you are feeling some shame. I can tell you, and this is pretty darn cool, if you listen to yourself when any of those memories show themselves, and you have a conversation with yourself about it, it really helps make the feelings that made you want a bowl of calories retreat. Of course we don't all or always eat from emotions, I'm just saying that when there is no physiological reason for hunger, maybe there is something else making our stomachs growl.....

I think they call this 'food for thought...'

Truly food for thought and some thing I am definitely going to ponder. Thank you, Donna!

fisher1000 · 09-08-2008, 08:10 PM

What I'm doing right now!

-Mike

Godsblessedme · 09-08-2008, 08:15 PM

OMG Mike you look like a kid in high school for cryin out loud! wow dude your looking really good and look at that scale on the move again geesh

fisher1000 · 09-08-2008, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Godsblessedme

OMG Mike you look like a kid in high school for cryin out loud! wow dude your looking really good and look at that scale on the move again geesh

Do I look like a kid because of the plaid shorts, or because of the messy computer area? I got in trouble for both!

Except for the varicose veins, pannus flap, and turkey neck...I look a lot like I did in high school...though then I had hair and a muscular chest and arms. I think I was more pimply and not nearly as confident, but I appreciate your compliment!

-Mike

Hamburgler · 09-08-2008, 08:34 PM

Its a great picture! Love the shorts and the mess, felt like home!

Nyn · 09-08-2008, 11:35 PM

Wow, Mike, you look HOT!

Hee hee...