So, after reading Stacie's mega post on her new man and that damn book that everyone (Bridget and Jeanette most recently) has been raving about, I've finally decided to come out of my little shell and shout to the mountain tops:
I FOUND A GOOD ONE!
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I've been dating this guy for the past few weeks - he's been my friend for several months and there was never anything sexual or even flirty between us (at least not on my end). We work the same shift at work in different departments, so we've been doing lunches together, going for drinks after work, and hanging out as friends. We became fast friends when I started working here, so he's heard all about my weight loss, the end of my marriage, and the creation of my new, oh so happy life. About a month ago, he and I were laughing about something and he moved close to me and I saw him in a very different light - instead of my guy friend, I noticed gorgeous green eyes, that he's taller than me, solidly built, and I liked what I saw. I've known he's had a crush on me for awhile - he's in the tech department and has "hooked up" my computer, brought me cool new cd's to listen to, etc. - but he's never made me feel uncomfortable or "hit on" in any way.
So, I start to think I might like this guy, then immediately try to pick it apart (Dara's most recent post is ALL about this!) and make a long list of the reasons why it won't work: He's 7 years younger than me
; we work together; he's a surfer who's probably used to young, fresh girl bodies; blah blah blah. Finally, a few weeks ago, we're out with my best friend (the infamous Leland) and Leland gets a little tipsy and lets Matt know that I like him. Matt and I end up talking about the "issues" I have and he tells me: that he's liked me from the first time he met me (70 lbs ago); wanted to be with me before he ever found out my marriage was having problems; has listened to me bitch and complain about the extra skin and still thinks I look amazing; and will wait as long as it takes for me to get over my issues, even if that means that it never happens - either way, he's happy to be my friend. Essentially, he said all the right things.
So, I'm finally dating someone I REALLY like - he makes me laugh so hard I snort (yeah, that's attractive); tells me daily how beautiful and smart and amazing I am; has told his mom all about me
; is an INCREDIBLE kisser (weak in the knees, Stacie... I know, right?!); and has seen me at some pretty low points in the past few months and still thinks that he's the luckiest guy in the world to be with me now. He knows my history and situation - I don't really even want a boyfriend right now, I do want to date and really experience this new life of mine - he's just happy to be with me now, which removes so much pressure.
I think it was Irela and Marie who both posted in other threads that it's best to be with someone who is your friend and that getting to know one another is the way to go about it. I still am uncomfortable with my body, but I asked Matt what he thought and he said I'm crazy for being so insecure and that I'm the "hottest chick" he's ever known. He says I have "the raddest personality in the world" and I remind him that it's because I'm a former fat chick.
I'm so incredibly happy right now... I absolutely cannot believe how much my life has changed in the last year. I just wanted to let you all know that they're out there ladies - just gotta weed through the jerks to find the jewels.
Sigh...
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