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Mavisavis · 11-03-2006, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by MiladyB

LOL...Yeah...well I'm just patterning myself after you!

You know Beth, truly, the only way to pattern yourself after me is to take on one of my kids and one of my dogs........

MiladyB · 11-03-2006, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Mavisavis

You know Beth, truly, the only way to pattern yourself after me is to take on one of my kids and one of my dogs........

I have kids and I have dogs. Does that count???.

Mavisavis · 11-03-2006, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by MiladyB

I have kids and I have dogs. Does that count???.

Ummmm, no.....I said MY dogs and kids! lol......nice try.

Zenomia · 11-03-2006, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Mavisavis

Ummmm, no.....I said MY dogs and kids! lol......nice try.

If I had a penny for every time I tried to give mine away...without success!! HUH!

MiladyB · 11-03-2006, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Zenomia

If I had a penny for every time I tried to give mine away...without success!! HUH!

No takers for them kids of yours, Laura??? *LOL* So would you be rich if you got a penny every time?? How many times have you tried to give them away???

MiladyB · 11-03-2006, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Mavisavis

Ummmm, no.....I said MY dogs and kids! lol......nice try.

hmmph!! So the only way this is gonna work is if I take YOUR kids and DOGS???

I may have to re-think my desire to pattern you.

*L*

RNY4me · 11-03-2006, 11:59 PM

Beth, Since I've discovered all of you fine people here, I've spent time looking around this forum and have been catching up on many posts. This one captured me and I read every word. I've always heard that phrase, "It's not what you're eating, it's what's eating you." But now I'm taking another look at it. I know I've buried some emotional issues. Now I'm thinking I'll be dealing with them as my journey with WLS begins. Your poetry is eloquent and brave. It speaks to the heart and soul. Thank you so much for sharing, it has touched me and helped me to see that I need to address much more than the number on the scale. I suspected I would need to go there at some time. Now I believe it will be essential. And it feels comforting in a way to know someone else has gone before, in fact many have gone before me, I have a path and a light to follow. Thank you Beth and thank you all, my new forum family.

Love to all,
Missy - (Now you all have my name and not just my username. A big step forward for me).

Mavisavis · 11-04-2006, 10:56 AM

Missy,
You are definitely not alone. I did a lot of emotional work prior to surgery, but it's inevitable that some of it wait til after. We use food to cope in so many ways, and the thing is....it works! The problem is we can't do it and be healthy. So, it seems we find out after surgery, exactly what needs we still have that food can or should no longer try to meet......then we have to try and fill them a healthier way. I realized I overate a lot for comfort and stress relief......and definitely social......and to lift depression. So, after some months and a few instances where I filled my pouch to overflowing (wasn't that a nice way to say it

) I went to counseling. That was several months ago, and with the accountability I have done much better......but just about 10 min ago I was heaving, but nothing produced and I am starting to feel better. So, you are in good company, and we all have issues, and we all struggle.....and it will never be something I can forget about and stop being vigilant. We are here for each other, and that's the beauty of the board.

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Originally Posted by RNY4me

Beth, Since I've discovered all of you fine people here, I've spent time looking around this forum and have been catching up on many posts. This one captured me and I read every word. I've always heard that phrase, "It's not what you're eating, it's what's eating you." But now I'm taking another look at it. I know I've buried some emotional issues. Now I'm thinking I'll be dealing with them as my journey with WLS begins. Your poetry is eloquent and brave. It speaks to the heart and soul. Thank you so much for sharing, it has touched me and helped me to see that I need to address much more than the number on the scale. I suspected I would need to go there at some time. Now I believe it will be essential. And it feels comforting in a way to know someone else has gone before, in fact many have gone before me, I have a path and a light to follow. Thank you Beth and thank you all, my new forum family.

Love to all,
Missy - (Now you all have my name and not just my username. A big step forward for me).

RNY4me · 11-04-2006, 02:21 PM

Oh, so sorry about the heaving. A friend who is 2 1/2 yrs out calls it her 'chicken dance'. Guess that describes it!
Your comments on the emotional work are wonderfully expressed. Interesting you mention the counseling, I began going about a year ago when I was feeling desparate to control my spiraling weight. I could always tell when we were zeroing in on something essential, I would cancel appointments and just start wolfing the food down again. Eventually, I made enough progress to change some damaging habits. But I had to look some monsters in the eye. I've still got much work to do. But I've found some new 'friends' - not donut holes anymore. I took a meditation class called 'Awakening Your Light Body'. And several subsequent classes. I've found enormous growth and enlightenment. Along with journaling, this is the best I've found for dealing with my inner struggles. I see the journey will coninue with and after my weight loss. There will be no magic wand to make it all better. With pearls of wisdom from all of you out there, I can move forward, slow but sure. Thank you Marty and all my board buddies.

Mavisavis · 11-04-2006, 05:44 PM

You are exactly on track.....and I would lay odds you will do very well.

The ability to honestly evaluate yourself (and be honest with others about you), to work on the underlying issues, and to find alternatives.....and to seek support, to me are so crucial. You totally get that this is no magic wand....but yet, it is my "way out". I never expected it would do all my work...just give me that extra bit of help. This journey is so complex that it's hard to express, but it has been wonderful in spite of the work and the staring down of the demons. It is worth the work.....and I feel more authentic and more myself than ever. But I think this journey has wonderful milestones, but for me, no final destination really. Boy am I serious this evening.......

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Originally Posted by RNY4me

Oh, so sorry about the heaving. A friend who is 2 1/2 yrs out calls it her 'chicken dance'. Guess that describes it!
Your comments on the emotional work are wonderfully expressed. Interesting you mention the counseling, I began going about a year ago when I was feeling desparate to control my spiraling weight. I could always tell when we were zeroing in on something essential, I would cancel appointments and just start wolfing the food down again. Eventually, I made enough progress to change some damaging habits. But I had to look some monsters in the eye. I've still got much work to do. But I've found some new 'friends' - not donut holes anymore. I took a meditation class called 'Awakening Your Light Body'. And several subsequent classes. I've found enormous growth and enlightenment. Along with journaling, this is the best I've found for dealing with my inner struggles. I see the journey will coninue with and after my weight loss. There will be no magic wand to make it all better. With pearls of wisdom from all of you out there, I can move forward, slow but sure. Thank you Marty and all my board buddies.