Dr Callery & Potts kids Please tell us whats up? - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by JenJen

I don't post very often, but I read the posts a few times a week.... all I can say about this is...I guess you know who your true friends are. OUCH!!

Good luck Dale and know that not everyone thinks/feels the way Bridgett does.

I feel a huge ouch right now because NO ONE, I mean NO ONE lives my pain. I live on heavy duty narcotics to live through the day...that is all I can say because I really don't need to defend myself.

Thank you for your understanding.

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Well here's my 2 cents about the whole thing.
Dale I like you alot. I think you are a very sweet person, regarding your surgery you have options. You are not at a dead end. This is not a life saving operation, like you need a lung... hell if you needed a lung or bone marrow I would be there for you.

Heather, I feel having a fundraiser is not the solution to the problem. This is going to open up Pandoras box with regard to lots of other people who have issues that can be resolved by needing money.

In the past there were 2 men that came on line, one wanted to sell CD's he had made to raise some extra cash... he was flamed. Another guy was trying to help a guy from his church and asked for donations and I beleive someine went as far as to repost him to the FBI or something.... and then there was the flaming.

I dont think this fundraiser is in good taste is all, like I said under the circumstances its not a life or death condition.
Dale, you never answered one of my posts... at least I dont think I did where I asked if you even found a surgeon willing to perform the surgery.... and is going under the knife for the 3rd or 4th time to correct this problem that thus far hasnt been corrected, really the best choice? Personally I have some serious concerns about you going through another surgical procedure.... very real concerns. Its not because I dont like you, I liek you very much, but I dont see this as the solution to the problem.

Listing everyone individually, is not cool. PM them or keep it private..... if your grateful, tell them.

Heather for you to say things like, Cant you spare not drinking a cup of coffee for a day, is a bit belitteling. If people cant or just dont want to, they shouldnt have to justify why. Either they chose to participate or they dont.

Okay so whats next? On line babyshowers, birthday parties, house warmings and bridal parties? People asking for donations to their remove their skin fund? Its going to get out of hand, and with the listing of names, people may feel upset if "givers" dont come to anothers persons need. People asking for "stuff"? Now I know Dale you didnt ask.. It was offered, I dont want you to think Im coming down on you. I know you feel desperate, but you have solutions.... you really do. Now if you ned a lung, or marrow or blood.... something that will save your life, and Im a match... YOU CAN HAVE IT! That goes for anybody in that kind of situation.. if your down and out and need a place to stay.. fighting with your spouse, mi casa es su casa.. but as far as monetary donations for elective causes, I wont do it. I dont need people to agree with me here, as this topic has been of big controversy amongst my large circle of friends who feel the same way about this as I do....no one wanted to say it, but because you asked Heather here is my opinion on the whole thing, its just not appropriate.

Dale I hope that you arent upset with me about it, and I hope you get your surgery by doing it the right way, through your insurance and by a doctor who will do it that you will have confidence in. I would hate after all is said and done for you to be in worse shape that you are now in.... with regard to your hernias n stuff. Best wishes, I have love for ya girl!

I answered in a previous post on how no other surgeon is willing to touch the mess that I have going on. I am certain that if you had my pain, you would understand better. I HAVE to get fixed. I am in agony every day and have been referred to quite a few specialists all of which sent me back to the original surgeon who is no longer contracted with my insurance company. I know that we all have financial concerns and all, so I totally understand that we all need money. I am not the kind of person who doesn't recognize this. I do however recognize that I have a serious problem with my health and I can't wait much longer to fix it. With that said, thank you for your support.

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Wildeblnde34

Dale,
Please, please, please, don't feel bad! I was personally more offended by the comments about who is not donating and what's the problem with the Callery/Pott's kids. Me personally I would love to donate, right now, however, I am scraping together my mortgage for the 1st right now. I had intentions of donating in a few weeks, but didn't feel I need to say anything about it. I just think poting things like "I am so happy everyone is pulling together from out of town but come on where are the Dr Callery & Potts kids - dont you all know Dale personally - she needs your help! whats the deal??? Is there a secret we dont know why are you helping her out??? Come on donate a day of coffee, cant you spare $5.00 for your Dr Callery /Potts Kid? PLEASE tell us whats up?" offended me.

I totally understand. I just don't want to feel any worse than I already feel.

Good luck on your first home. Buying a house in this market is rough.

Thank you for the support.

Hugs

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 09:08 PM

This is not an elective surgery and I do not sell anything here on the forum.

bridgetgirl · 04-29-2006, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DaleM

I answered in a previous post on how no other surgeon is willing to touch the mess that I have going on. I am certain that if you had my pain, you would understand better. I HAVE to get fixed. I am in agony every day and have been referred to quite a few specialists all of which sent me back to the original surgeon who is no longer contracted with my insurance company. I know that we all have financial concerns and all, so I totally understand that we all need money. I am not the kind of person who doesn't recognize this. I do however recognize that I have a serious problem with my health and I can't wait much longer to fix it. With that said, thank you for your support.

Okay hearing this, WHO is going to do it? The guy who didnt do it right the first time? Im concerned Dale, that you need a specialist of sorts, not the guy who didnt get it right the first time. I can understand that you are in pain, but I also understand that your insurance should be covering this. What happens if yo go back to the guy who couldnt get it right the first time, and he encounters a SERIOUS problem? Then will your insurance step in or will you be thousands of dollars in debt attempting to try and correct the problem on a cash basis? It appears as though you are putting the horse in front of the cart. Why would you want to go BACK to the surgeon who didnt get it right the first time? Also if this is the case, there are special circumstances that your insurance carrier cab pay that original physician for his servcices considering your prior history and relationship with him.... alsoi WHY is he no longer contrcted? Is he a good surgeon? My wish for you is that the next surgery you have is your last... that was my wish for you 2 surgeries ago...... I just want you to do the right thing, not the desperate thing. The reason the speialists wont do it, is because your situation is a delicate one and that there is a high risk involved..... I know i worked for a surgeon. Many a time we saw patients that were unfortunately "botched up" and there was nothing that the surgeon could do, deapite his skill , to fix the problem..... just make the right choice... when all is said and done and you are scheduled for surgery and the day before you a short $10.. I will drive it to you. Its not the $$$$$ its the situation that concerns me and others. We arent mean, or stingy with cash... we're concerned... and you are going to notice that those of us who are concerned are ones that work in the medical field, regardless if we/they know you or not. Im worried for you Dale, thats all.

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Okay hearing this, WHO is going to do it? The guy who didnt do it right the first time? Im concerned Dale, that you need a specialist of sorts, not the guy who didnt get it right the first time. I can understand that you are in pain, but I also understand that your insurance should be covering this. What happens if yo go back to the guy who couldnt get it right the first time, and he encounters a SERIOUS problem? Then will your insurance step in or will you be thousands of dollars in debt attempting to try and correct the problem on a cash basis? It appears as though you are putting the horse in front of the cart. Why would you want to go BACK to the surgeon who didnt get it right the first time? Also if this is the case, there are special circumstances that your insurance carrier cab pay that original physician for his servcices considering your prior history and relationship with him.... alsoi WHY is he no longer contrcted? Is he a good surgeon? My wish for you is that the next surgery you have is your last... that was my wish for you 2 surgeries ago...... I just want you to do the right thing, not the desperate thing. The reason the speialists wont do it, is because your situation is a delicate one and that there is a high risk involved..... I know i worked for a surgeon. Many a time we saw patients that were unfortunately "botched up" and there was nothing that the surgeon could do, deapite his skill , to fix the problem..... just make the right choice... when all is said and done and you are scheduled for surgery and the day before you a short $10.. I will drive it to you. Its not the $$$$$ its the situation that concerns me and others. We arent mean, or stingy with cash... we're concerned... and you are going to notice that those of us who are concerned are ones that work in the medical field, regardless if we/they know you or not. Im worried for you Dale, thats all.

Thank you for worrying. I am worried, too. I am so worried about not being able to work every day. I am worried that I will lose my home from being disabled. The problem that I am having will be fixed this time. I will have to explain it. The second surgery I had, the mesh popped up and I think it was because I couldn't stop vomiting in the hospital. the next surgery was a revision of the upper part of the mesh where the surgeon trimmed the top down. It feels great up there now. Problem is the lower quadrant and the specialists tell me that since I have lost so much weight, I don't have any cushion there to prevent the mesh from diving into my pelvis. I also believe that as I started working again, the movement from walking has caused the mesh to settle into a lower postition thus causing the rubbing. There isn't any flexiblity in that area and I believe gravity and the fact that we wls patients are constanly shiftin weight and skin causes this to happen. Each specialist that I have been too have given me their opinions and all of them have agreed with this. My sister sees hernia repairs on a daily basis and she feels that since I had wls...it made it a bit more difficult since I lost more weight since the repair and things have shifted. I have faith in this surgeon and he did not lose his contract with Pacificare. I asked the medical director and he told me the surgeon chose not to renew the contract. He said they just didn't pay as well as the other companies. I am ok with everything and comfortable going with him. I am going to try to see if my employer will help me since they are going to help me with the grievance. I have not been the first to be denied a service at my employment. When it comes time to renew, maybe they will switch the carrier. Anyway, I am ok with everything and everyone's opinions here. It is quite all right with me. Most of you don't even know me and care so much about me. I am so beside myself right now....I just can not thank you all enough for caring.

I will try not to keep you all posted as I do not want to upset anyone further.

lealphachienne · 04-29-2006, 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by 100tolose

i am wondering if there is something we should know as to why there isnt more support - I DO totally understand scrapping but I know $1.00 will make a differnece - so i was questioning it... didnt mean to offend just was trying to get some info...

If I were to donate, I would do i anoymously. I would not want to show favoritism by giving money to one person, but not another. There are several people who are denied WLS that really need it. Yet, there are not fundraisers for them.

lealphachienne · 04-29-2006, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JenJen

I don't post very often, but I read the posts a few times a week.... all I can say about this is...I guess you know who your true friends are. OUCH!!

Good luck Dale and know that not everyone thinks/feels the way Bridgett does.

I hardly give money to even my own family, much less people I really don't know. I gift things when it's unexpected and in private. I know of Dale, but I'm not in her cirlce of friends. Will giving her money make me a friend? Is that what it takes to be considered a friend?

melanie hirschorn · 04-29-2006, 10:24 PM

Dale,
I agree with everything Bridgett said from a medical stand point. She's absolutely correct. Now from a legal stand point. I have been in the legal field as a court reporter for 26 years. With all your medical complications you've had how can you think of paying cash? What happens if you were to have another complication? Your insurance company would not pick anything up after that. That's the first thing. Second, I highly recommend you go see a medical malpractice attorney for a consultation. If they feel you have a case, they will take it on a contingency and get you what you are entitled to for your pain and suffering and also the repairs you need. I'm concerned about you and I think medically and legally you have to handle it that route rather than just jumping into a repair that could leave you in a worst case. Good luck,
Melanie
I can give you the names of some good attorneys.

Blueyz · 04-29-2006, 10:34 PM

First off, I am so glad to see you. I was thinking about you and Dara the other day and wondering how you both have been.

I talked to a malpractice attorney who told me he could not represent me. If you know of any who have time for me, please PM me. I appreciate it and your concern.

Thanks for the advice. I really just want to be well again.