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Mavisavis · 03-08-2006, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Touching on Dara's post, There are so many factors to consider. How tall are you? Are/Is your parents large or small? What is their size? How about your grandparents? Was your goal weight yours or your surgeons suggestion? If I went by my surgeons suggestion I would still b 30 pounds away from my goal at 2 years out myself.... but 141 is unrealistic to me... 165 is, a size 8/10. Thats where I wanted to be and where I am at. I couldnt even imagine how horrid I would like losing an additional 30 pounds..... dammit! It in all aspects, the "numbers" game Im a failure that never made it to goal either. Thats why you have to look at those numbers objectively. Experts suggest that people who have WLS are capable of taking off 70% of their weight.... well thats me! But in my mind Im at 100% because there is no way in heck I would ever attempt to lose more than 10 pounds..... right now Im perfect!
So how are your eating habits.. do you snack, do you craze? Are you drinking with meals? Are you eating more carbs and less protein and veggies? These are all important factors to consider sister girl. Okay time for reality, start answering these questions!

Oh my goodness Bridget....such a task master!

I have had issues for awhile about that percent thing. It is very skewed I believe. I am at 70% right now, but that is based on a reasonable goal agreed upon between myself, my OBGYN, and my PCP. I have not asked what my goal should be according to some chart and I don't really care. I care about real life and health. So, I really do need to lose possibly another 30 lbs (which puts me at 135 and 5'1"). I also think the stats are skewed by folks who are not emotionally prepared and just aren't able or willing (not sure which, and try not to judge..........and pray this won't be me) to go to counseling and get involved in support and such. What I am curious about is whether my going slow now (2 lbs in my 6th month) is normal and ok or if it means I need to do major reshaking. I've never actually hit a plateau. My monthly losses are 24, 20, 7, 8, 9, 2. I don't mean to compare, but just want to know if this is a normal pattern if I want to lose 30 more after the 6 month mark? OK, OK, I admit....the end of the honeymoon has freaked me out a little. You drug it out of me.....are you happy now? SHEESH.

bridgetgirl · 03-08-2006, 02:31 PM

If you are continuing to lose after your 6 month mark, I would say that you will continue to lose 4-5 pounds a month up to the first year.
I had a friend who went ot her 9 month post op with her surgeon once and they asked her if she was okay with her current weight and size. At the time I believe she was a 12/14 and she said absolutely, I feel beter, etc., etc. She said if she would have stopped losing weight at that time she would still be very pleased with her results.... but after she thought about it after her appointment she realized that she could have been doing more to contribute more weightloss. She started working out 6 days a week! Yes 6 and in 5-6 monthswas down to svelte size 2!!!! Can you believe it?

Now Marty I dont know if a 2 is your reality, its not mine. A solid 8 is all I would allow myself to go. Why? When I look in the mirror I have a hard time with the refelction staring back at me, sone days I seriously feel like the crypt keeper, or Maria Shriver or Van Goughs SCREAM.. my face is GAUNT at a size 8/10 already! Right now, I am the smallest any person has ever been in my biological family, so right now I think Im perfect and 100% success! The "prefect" numbers tell the world that I only lost 70% of my extra weight.. which i myeyes and anyone else who knows me eyes is absurd.

Determing your goal is crucial for maintenance, so define what this to you and dont stray from it. By straying i mean, dont say, " okay size 6 or 160 pounds are my golal" If you chose the number, only let it fuctuate by 1=5 pounds. If you grow out of that 6 dont justify it by saying, "well this size 8/10/12 whatever is alot better than wearing a size 26/28!" Everyone knows that it is, but you have to determine your goal to start your maintenance process.
Does that make sense to ya lovley lady? Your goal cant be, if I stopppd today this would be okay. Determine your destiny and make it happen!

(( HUGS ))

Mavisavis · 03-08-2006, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

If you are continuing to lose after your 6 month mark, I would say that you will continue to lose 4-5 pounds a month up to the first year.
I had a friend who went ot her 9 month post op with her surgeon once and they asked her if she was okay with her current weight and size. At the time I believe she was a 12/14 and she said absolutely, I feel beter, etc., etc. She said if she would have stopped losing weight at that time she would still be very pleased with her results.... but after she thought about it after her appointment she realized that she could have been doing more to contribute more weightloss. She started working out 6 days a week! Yes 6 and in 5-6 monthswas down to svelte size 2!!!! Can you believe it?

Now Marty I dont know if a 2 is your reality, its not mine. A solid 8 is all I would allow myself to go. Why? When I look in the mirror I have a hard time with the refelction staring back at me, sone days I seriously feel like the crypt keeper, or Maria Shriver or Van Goughs SCREAM.. my face is GAUNT at a size 8/10 already! Right now, I am the smallest any person has ever been in my biological family, so right now I think Im perfect and 100% success! The "prefect" numbers tell the world that I only lost 70% of my extra weight.. which i myeyes and anyone else who knows me eyes is absurd.

Determing your goal is crucial for maintenance, so define what this to you and dont stray from it. By straying i mean, dont say, " okay size 6 or 160 pounds are my golal" If you chose the number, only let it fuctuate by 1=5 pounds. If you grow out of that 6 dont justify it by saying, "well this size 8/10/12 whatever is alot better than wearing a size 26/28!" Everyone knows that it is, but you have to determine your goal to start your maintenance process.
Does that make sense to ya lovley lady? Your goal cant be, if I stopppd today this would be okay. Determine your destiny and make it happen!

(( HUGS ))

Well, I just hit the 6 month mark and don't plan to be where I am forever, but may have to wait a few days to officially lose after 6 months. I do say that if I stayed right where I am the surgery was worth it........but it would NOT be ok. I want to be 135, probably a size 6 or 8......but won't know til I get closer. I don't think 2 is my reality either, and I don't want to look creepy or frail. I gotta see how it looks on me as I get there. I know the things I could be doing, although I am doing pretty well, it's more about tweaking things I have already been working on. Those are mostly exercise and snacking. I don't want to restrict anymore than that and get my metabolism set on slow or anything. I eat pretty healthy really, and actually enjoy it. Even my snacks I have made healthier, I just wish I didn't have that munchie urge. I do Curves, but I'm planning to add 2 days of swim aerobics to it. I really don't want to stall out here.....I resolve to not stop here. I want to try and lose 5 lbs by April 1. If our warm weather hits it'd sure make it easier!! Thanks Bridget for the encouragement........now if I don't do it you can give me a kick in the pants........size 12 pants!

twokids · 03-08-2006, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Touching on Dara's post, There are so many factors to consider. How tall are you? Are/Is your parents large or small? What is their size? How about your grandparents? Was your goal weight yours or your surgeons suggestion? If I went by my surgeons suggestion I would still b 30 pounds away from my goal at 2 years out myself.... but 141 is unrealistic to me... 165 is, a size 8/10. Thats where I wanted to be and where I am at. I couldnt even imagine how horrid I would like losing an additional 30 pounds..... dammit! It in all aspects, the "numbers" game Im a failure that never made it to goal either. Thats why you have to look at those numbers objectively. Experts suggest that people who have WLS are capable of taking off 70% of their weight.... well thats me! But in my mind Im at 100% because there is no way in heck I would ever attempt to lose more than 10 pounds..... right now Im perfect!
So how are your eating habits.. do you snack, do you craze? Are you drinking with meals? Are you eating more carbs and less protein and veggies? These are all important factors to consider sister girl. Okay time for reality, start answering these questions!

Wow, lots of questions there, but made me stop and think. I am 5'10. My mother is 5' 1" 120 pounds, my father is 6'2" and 250 (much more before his heart spell) I have a brother 6'4" and is 430. All of my family is quite large (an big framed). My grandparents were also the same. My mother was a twin, and she got the short end of the stick!

My surgeon wanted me to get to 200. I have my own personal goal of 175. I would LOVE to wear single digit clothing, but know that will never happen. I started this wanting to wear a size 14 some day. I'm now stuck in the 18/20 section.

My habits are starting to fall backwards. I have been focusing this week on protein & veggies. I am drinking small amounts with meals again. I feel my pouch has the capabilities that my stomach once had. And honestly, it scares the hell out of me! I am eating more than I did at 1 year out, but not as much as before surgery. Snacks I try to keep to jerky, peanuts, triscuts, cheese, etc. I recently purchased some protien powder to drink. I feel I'm trying to get back on track.

My exercise is minimal. I find it very hard to get to the gym with two small children, a busy stressful job, and a husband who can't seem to stay at home with the kids alone. I'm hoping this summer will change things. I have been very fearful of weight lifting to this point. I didn't feel comfortable in the room with all of the "skinny" people. I have now realized I fit in just as good as they do!

I am feeling good. I can't say I have tons more energy, but I do feel I don't get tired out as quickly. My blood pressure has improved greatly and the cholesterol is coming down. I feel my biggest road block right now is my head! It is now seeing the proper reflection in the mirror! Once my head gets back with the game, hopefully I can become a winner.

bridgetgirl · 03-09-2006, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by twokids

Once my head gets back with the game, hopefully I can become a winner.

Tis kind of thinking is no good..... You said 'once' to me it sounds like it is, it sound like your getting back on track. Then yu say 'hopefully' not hopefully, definitely. Try this, " Now that I am back on track, I will definitely be a winner!" Its more positive... say it, and believe it!

You have to let your slip ups be just that.. goof ups. you are allowed to make mistakes, we arent perfect and we are learning newthings everyday. Like I said in support group last night, dont let your "lapse" turn into a "relapse". If you made poor choices and you acknowledge them ( it sounds like you have), and then you get on the good foot and get back on track, you wont fall into relapse. you wont go back to your old habits..... stay positive!

Perhaps you should log onto the ever loved website www.fitday.com and record your dail intake. Everytime you eat, you record it and be truthful. The you will get to a point where you wont want to admit eating the bad stuff so you wont eat it... but if you get to a point where you doeat the bad stuff, and you dont own up to it, youhave relapsed and you must get to a nutritionist or support group or therapist ASAP! Promise me you will? I want you to be 100% successful. I wouldnt pick a weight for your goal, your a big girl like me.. large bone frame and quite tall. Pick a size that you want ot obtain and go for it I too said I wanted to wear a 10, then when I hit 10 I said I wanted to wear single digit clothes... personally it doenst make too much difference, I feel and look as good whether its an 8 or 10 Im sporting.. and with vanity sizing I'm both, and so will you!! Get on the good foot honey.
(( HUGS )) coming your way sugar pea! We are here when you need us!

bridgetgirl · 03-09-2006, 10:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by twokids

Once my head gets back with the game, hopefully I can become a winner.

Tis kind of thinking is no good..... You said 'once' to me it sounds like it is, it sound like your getting back on track. Then yu say 'hopefully' not hopefully, definitely. Try this, " Now that I am back on track, I will definitely be a winner!" Its more positive... say it, and believe it!

You have to let your slip ups be just that.. goof ups. you are allowed to make mistakes, we arent perfect and we are learning newthings everyday. Like I said in support group last night, dont let your "lapse" turn into a "relapse". If you made poor choices and you acknowledge them ( it sounds like you have), and then you get on the good foot and get back on track, you wont fall into relapse. you wont go back to your old habits..... stay positive!

Perhaps you should log onto the ever loved website www.fitday.com and record your dail intake. Everytime you eat, you record it and be truthful. The you will get to a point where you wont want to admit eating the bad stuff so you wont eat it... but if you get to a point where you doeat the bad stuff, and you dont own up to it, youhave relapsed and you must get to a nutritionist or support group or therapist ASAP! Promise me you will? I want you to be 100% successful. I wouldnt pick a weight for your goal, your a big girl like me.. large bone frame and quite tall. Pick a size that you want ot obtain and go for it I too said I wanted to wear a 10, then when I hit 10 I said I wanted to wear single digit clothes... personally it doenst make too much difference, I feel and look as good whether its an 8 or 10 Im sporting.. and with vanity sizing I'm both, and so will you!! Get on the good foot honey.
(( HUGS )) coming your way sugar pea! We are here when you need us!

SondraG · 03-27-2006, 01:46 PM

Brenda,
I am just about 10 lbs. from goal and what has kept me on track has been Weight Watchers. I go every week and get the ideas as well as the support. I have lost about 35 lbs. in this past year but it is stll coming off. Think I am starting to stable out. Surgery was 3/23/04. It has helped me keep my mind on my new lifestyle.
Sondra

HeatherT · 03-27-2006, 06:16 PM

like Bridget said - I set a goal and when i reach that goal I set another goal - like Marty if my weightloss stopped here i would say the surgery was worth it but i would ahve also said taht 15 lbs ago when i was a size 14 so like i said i keep lowering my goal and reaching that because i have not gotten toa point where i think i am to small yet - i do think i need to work on toning my loose skin and muscles but i am now at 158 and wearing a size 12 in anything but often need a size 10

I am about 5'4" by the way did anyone else shrink after surgery? I lost a half an inch... & about a shoe size and i no longer need WIDE shoes

Mavisavis · 03-27-2006, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by 100tolose

like Bridget said - I set a goal and when i reach that goal I set another goal - like Marty if my weightloss stopped here i would say the surgery was worth it but i would ahve also said taht 15 lbs ago when i was a size 14 so like i said i keep lowering my goal and reaching that because i have not gotten toa point where i think i am to small yet - i do think i need to work on toning my loose skin and muscles but i am now at 158 and wearing a size 12 in anything but often need a size 10

I am about 5'4" by the way did anyone else shrink after surgery? I lost a half an inch... & about a shoe size and i no longer need WIDE shoes

The problem I have with weight goals is that now that I am further out it comes off slow and I really feel frustrated if it creeps off and I don't meet my imagined deadlines. I think it's easier for me to set goals about habits and such that help with the weght loss.

tinkermel · 03-31-2006, 06:25 PM

I too feel the same way - I am 18 months out - have lost 185 pounds, but it still is not good enough.. I get to the point where I dont think the scale even has a 1 on it! My original goal was 175 - the I upped it to 180 - but now I will be happy to get under 200.. Ok - dont get me wrong - I am happy with the weight loss.. and sooo happy that I can wear a 12/14 now.. but I want more.. and I do everything by the book - and nothing happens.. THEN this past week I got soo sick, went to 5 different docs to find out what was wrong with me, and in 4 days lost 9 pounds.. so now that I am feeling better, it really has me going ok - I didnt eat really - had no liquid, or protein and lost weight.. hmmm maybe I should just keep that up....

anyway - i just wanted you to know you are not alone!!