Your TO FAT, No, Your To THIN - Page 2 - ThinnerTimes

Mavisavis · 10-26-2005, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by LizardQueen

Preach on! My least favorite comment-You weren't ever that big were you? Well, obviously I was! Now, it's your so skinny. Don't get to skinny. Thanks Pat for the advice-to heck with them all!

Mine was the old "you aren't fat enough to get surgery" comment. I started saying that I had a bariatric surgeon, pcp, and insurance company that disagrees! I guess 100 lbs overweight isn't fat enough? lol I think it's really just that people wanted me to know they accepted me as is........that's how I took it anyhow.

Mysticgirl29 · 11-25-2005, 08:58 AM

Yeah I have heard it all. First people would make commets like is the big girl here or you know the heavy one rang me up ( store Manager) Or is that big lady here today? Some days I would get up set and say you know I do have a name!!! Well those same people then after I had WLS would say oh my are you sick...I heard you were ill is it cancer? Then I head I was on drugs from other people. It is just crazy. Now today I am hearing god you are to small you need to stop. What do you weigh now 140 I just say no I dont but thanks. Then there are some that say oh you must still be sick your going to be sorry if you dont put some weight back on. I mean yeah there are a few that really do care and seem so happy for me but it is the ones that just keep at it that get me worked up they can say some really stupid things. I dont hide the fact of what I did. Any one and everyone that asks me how did you lose all that weight? or the other not so nice ways they ask me I tell them nice and proud I had SURGERY!!!! I am doing great and I feel great then I tell them where and my doctors name. I figure hey maybe I can help someone else along the way, Maybe they have a friend or family member they will tell about me and pass on some help to them. I do get some people that after I say I had WLS get this look on there face like oh well no wonder she took the easy way out. Then they say stuff like you better be careful with that. I even had one lady get upset when I told her. She said her daughter had it done that she died on the table that she had heart problems they did not know about. I told her how sorry I was for her loss Then I asked did she go thru all the tests to get eveything checked out BEFORE WLS. SHe told me she did not have any tests ....I was like WHAT!!???? I told her about all the test I took that they checked my heart my lungs, sleep test, blood test I even took and HIV test and a pregancy test I was tested and tested and tested again BEFORE my doc would even touch me for the WLS. After I told her that she smiled and said she was happy for me. So there are just some out there that had a bad experience with WLS. I Felt so bad for her but at the same time was kinda mad that they did not demand the tests I would have gone to a new doc. ANy way I started to RAMBLE sorry. I will stop here

coptergirl · 11-25-2005, 09:33 AM

Great topic, Baron! I think Bll nialed it on the head that people are simply ignorant. hey say things to mean well, not realizing that they are being inslting, rude, and ignorant. When I have my surgery, and lose the weight, I think I wil copy Marie (I hope this is okay, Marie) and carry a picture of myself around. Without saying a word, I'll pop the picture out and leave them gasping for air LOL.

As for the naturally skinny people - I work with one. Whenever surgery is brought up (mind you, she asks me all the time how my ore-op tests are going), she always says, "Yeah, I've got to lose 10 pounds. i weigh 105 and should weigh 95." Let me just shoot her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for letting me rant, too :-)

Heatherused2BAfeather · 11-25-2005, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Mavisavis

Mine was the old "you aren't fat enough to get surgery" comment. I started saying that I had a bariatric surgeon, pcp, and insurance company that disagrees! I guess 100 lbs overweight isn't fat enough? lol I think it's really just that people wanted me to know they accepted me as is........that's how I took it anyhow.

This is the comment I got when I told my boss that I was going to have WLS. I thought I was the only one that got frustrated by that. It made me feel like I was being vain to be going through with this. There are a lot of women at my workplace that would be candidates for the surgery, my boss included, and I guess maybe they do see me as being vain but I want this for my health and they don't have any clue what my health issues are. All they see is the outside and I can't see how they could think I wasn't big enough... I mean, once your over 250 how can anyone dare say such a thing?

nancy · 11-25-2005, 02:01 PM

i had this customer who i see once a yr or so who sat me down and in her most sincere voice told me she hpoed i learned my lesson, and to promise her i,d stick to my diet. whats it to ya??? duhhh

LizardQueen · 11-25-2005, 02:11 PM

You know the more I think about the "you aren't big enough" statement that we have all heard, the more I think that maybe people just say it in an attempt to be nice or polite or something. I mean who would want to say, "my God you are such a whale, I see why you need surgery." I don't know it's just a thought.

Mavisavis · 11-25-2005, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LizardQueen

You know the more I think about the "you aren't big enough" statement that we have all heard, the more I think that maybe people just say it in an attempt to be nice or polite or something. I mean who would want to say, "my God you are such a whale, I see why you need surgery." I don't know it's just a thought.

LOL......one time a friend of mine who is MO and myself went out to Karaoke. Just to be ornery we were putting people on the spot by asking them, "Am I fat?" It was hilarious to us to see how people reacted. Not one person said, "Yes, maam, you ARE fat!" The best answer was, "Oh, Marty, you're beautiful.

So, yes, I agree.......people do not want to be rude.

Sunshine · 12-03-2005, 03:36 AM

When I went to my quack doctor and told her I wanted WLS, she said there is no way she would ever refer me to a WL surgeon. (she's MO herself) She said I was "Medium".... I weigh 230+ lbs... and I'm 5'4". I wanted to say, "Lady, why the heck do I have to wear these gramma panties in size XXL if I'm "medium"?
My mother was MO as well and she would always put me down about eating or being fat, even though I wasn't until I got older. She made me feel guilty about eating. I still feel guilt and shame when I eat, especially in front of other people. I was anorexic in high school and did the bulimia thing.. which I still do sometimes when the guilt overwhelms, and it was always, you're too skinny, you're going to make yourself sick. The lowest I ever weighted was 108 lbs and 5'4". Thats the lower range of what I should weigh.
My all-time favorite comment was on my wedding anniversary my then-husband (we divorced several years ago) were on a dinner cruiseship. I had to wear a dress that was too tight for me, because there were no stores that had nice clothing in my size. A skinny girl and her boyfriend were closeby, and the girl turned to the guy and said, "Someone should tell that girl she is overweight". I totally heard it, and looked at her... I could only imagine what expression I had on my face, but the guy saw I was looking at them and winced. As ignorant as that girl was and as much as I hated to, I cried for a long time and my evening was ruined.
I really really hope someday I can live a life where mean fat comments are never uttered. I hope someday I can get the surgery

CJ Skinner · 12-07-2005, 01:37 AM

I have been out of surgery for just 4months and have seen miricles happen to my body. I have as of last sunday lost 95 lbs which is over half my goal. man am I so happy. My weight loss is getting to the point I have had people look me square in the face and not realize whom i was. Thats cool. But on the other side of the coin. I have lost some family members because of preconceived notions as to what this is or isnt supposed to do for you. Yes it makes you loose weight but it also improves your self image a big ol bunch. my mom and sister cant stand that I want to talk about the weight loss. I am proud that the lord has seen to me in this glorious way. They also dont understand why i would risk my life and have this surgery. Well if i didnt I will be dead insde of 5 years according to the docter. I think that is an overwhelming reason to have the surgery. But because i went and did this I no longer have contact with my mom or sisters. They have stopped writing and calling after i told them that instead of beating me up because i took the risk, be happy for me because i am saving my life, literally. They dont see it that way. So i concentrate on my weight loss and my excersise and am not worrying about family members that cant just be glad for me(us) and just enjoy the spirit this is done in. It is their loss not mine. well it is my loss but i will LIVE without the agrivation. Didint mean to run on, just reading this thread made me realize that I wasnt the only one with narrow minded relatives. Why cant people open their minds and shut their mouths. I just wish that they had to walk a few days in a MO persons shoes, maybe their minds would change. One a good note. I finaaly got the first weird look from a freind of mine a few days ago. i play santa at the mall and was sitting in the santa chair and he and his son walked by look me square in the face and kept on walking. I went after them and put my arm around them and said at least you could have done was say hi. he turned around and i wished i had a camera in my hands, he looked at me and suddeenly had a look of wonder on his face, he said cj I didnt realize it was you. you look good. Them words made me realize i am doing the right thing and the heck with what other people think, it my life and my body, let them eat their greasy fatty and sugary foods i will eat my jello and pudding (fat free of course) and they can get bigger, i will liveo n. thanks for listening. cj skinner
surgery date aug 9th 2005
(372/277/186)
start/now/goal

bmi start 50 now 40 yahooooooooooooooooo

ThinnerTerri · 01-03-2006, 08:11 AM

Awesome topic. Being one year out I can so relate to all your saying. The people who know you make the comments about oh you werent that big or don't you think you should begin to stop losing. Because they have seen you as you were before. Now people who I meet after and have no clue I lost almost 100 lbs can see the extra pounds I still have to lose. Its so funny I just take it with a grain of salt because it really is not about them. It is about me and the choices I made and Thank God I made them. I will know when I am "skinny" enough! When people tell me I'm too skinny I giggle and think Ya wanna see me naked LOL