Who else doesn't see themselves as small? - Page 6 - ThinnerTimes

fitbefore40 · 12-05-2007, 02:43 PM

I so happy to see so many people continue to post here. I'm still dealing with the issues. I still know I WEAR the small size - but for the life of me, I can't compare myself with anyone I see without feeling "bigger" than them. I know 2s are on the far skinny end of the size range - but I don't feel skinny when I wear them - if that makes any sense. My brain goes up and down with this - and you guys are always there to pull me up when I'm down.

I had a guy today ask me if I had a single sister b/c I was so funny and cute . . . it didn't even dawn on me until hours later that he could have been actually hitting on ME! I just told him that I had 2 sisters, but both were married - but I did have a great administrative assistant that is single . . .

Sarah0525 · 12-05-2007, 04:08 PM

I can't even tell you how relieved I was to see this thread. I had my surgery almost a year ago (12/21/06) and I have lost a total of 98lbs. I am a size 6/8 now and I know that is a small size. But when I look in the mirror I still see someone who is 235lbs. I want to start seeing someone because I have had eating disorders/body image issues in the past and I don't want to let it go that far. The only time I ever really feel thin is when I am shopping and I don't automatically go to the back of the rack to find the biggest size. I just wanted to say thank you for letting me know that I am not alone/crazy for feeling this way. I have been debating whether or not to talk to my friends about it. None of them have had WLS and I am afraid they will think I am just asking for compliments or being vain. I really want to tell my best friend, he is a tall/thin guy who has watched me go through most of my food issues including this surgery. He has been supportive but I am a little apprehensive. Do you have any advice about how to bring it up or even whether or not to talk to them?

mhall35 · 12-05-2007, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by fitbefore40

I so happy to see so many people continue to post here. I'm still dealing with the issues. I still know I WEAR the small size - but for the life of me, I can't compare myself with anyone I see without feeling "bigger" than them. I know 2s are on the far skinny end of the size range - but I don't feel skinny when I wear them - if that makes any sense. My brain goes up and down with this - and you guys are always there to pull me up when I'm down.

I had a guy today ask me if I had a single sister b/c I was so funny and cute . . . it didn't even dawn on me until hours later that he could have been actually hitting on ME! I just told him that I had 2 sisters, but both were married - but I did have a great administrative assistant that is single . . .

Hi Laurie,

My name is michelle and I had gastric Bypass in august 6th 2007. How long did it take for you to loose all that weight. At the begining I was weighing 274lbs and now I am 215lbs I know it has only been 4 month but how much weight should I loose within a month. and also what did you eat after 4 month I just need some othe peoples advice on what they did and ate. Hope to hear from you soon.

GOD BLESS

Michelle Hall

trumpet_197 · 12-09-2007, 12:40 PM

I had taken some time away from the forum because I decided to go back to school and life has been very hectic and depressing at times. I know what everyone is saying when they write that they look in the mirror and don't see what everyone else sees. I started my journey at about 240 pounds (i gained 20 pounds because I had to quit smoking) I had been 220 pound for as long as I can remember (as I am tying this letter I am having to remind myself to type in the past tense and not present, I WAS not AM) I was always the girl that was told you have such a beautiful face. To this very day I look in the mirror and see the size 22 girl that has been there for as long as I can remember. I still go into the "plus" size stores to find clothes to wear even though nothing fits me in there anymore. More than anything I want to realize that I have come a long way. My life has dramatically changed. I am a slave to the scale and think I will be throwing it out as it does nothing good for me but make me crazy. I am obsessed with numbers aswell like many of you have stated. I think I will be making an appointment to see a specialist about this but I live in such a remote area that there really isnt anyone that can help me unless I go to Edmonton. The reason I had this surgery was so that I would feel better about myself. I am healthy and have so much more energy now then before but I need more than anything to learn to love myself. Like my little motto says nothing greater than self love....I really need to work on that. Thanks so much everyone for letting me know that I am not alone. You are all wonderful people

lward76 · 12-09-2007, 08:26 PM

It really just depends on the day and mood for me? kinda confusing I know physically im wearing 3-4 but it really hasnt sunk in that far yet!! I am 8 months out and still having a hard time dealing with this! I too still go to the big girl section even though I know nothing there will fit me "strange enough huh" but theres days that i Look in the mirror and tell myself "you" did this so feel proud of yourself and move on to the next etc....

jerakrys · 01-04-2008, 07:51 AM

People keep telling me i have lost alot and it shows. At highest point I wore size 48 pants and the other day my wife bought me a pair of 36 pants. I looked at them and laughed. They look like kids pants to me. She twisted my arm to try them on anyways. so I did. They were loose fitting. I was totally surprised cause I dont feel like ive lost anything really. I still see the bigger me.

reginagomez · 01-21-2008, 12:00 PM

Ok.... so I suffer from the Im still fat syndrome.... My friends are all telling me Im "to thin" or "stop losing weight" but I still feel fat!!!! I think I will never be happy.... Maybe after thousands of dollars of plastic surgery?!? Who knows... I think Ill just call my shrink!

Claire-in-Texas · 01-21-2008, 12:24 PM

Regina, you will adjust, and you will see yourself as others see you. It takes a while, and it happens gradually to many of us. I was just like you. I didn't see it for a long time, but I see it now. Take heart - it isn't you! It's all part of the adjustment!

You are doing an amazing job!! When people tell you to stop losing, smile pleasantly, and do exactly what you think is right for you!!! Many people say that because they have their own agendas, or because they think they are being nice, etc. But it's all a compliment - just do what you think is best for you.

You go, girl!

Starlitabyss · 01-21-2008, 02:02 PM

i dure dont think of myself as small when is started this journey i was in 28s and about to bust out of them im now a size 12 but being 6 feet thats a fairly small size for my frame. I was watching biggest lose the other night with my family and my the lady weighed in at 199 and my aunt said i wish i was down to that and my first reaction was me too! It took a minute for her to point out that i was less than that. It's shocking and still hard to accept. I dont think i ever want to think of myself as "small" but I have to remember i'm not "big" anymore either. I'm just right (even though I want to get these last 20 lbs OFF!)

SueRN · 01-22-2008, 05:52 AM

It takes a while to get used to the new you. I had wls 5-11-05, TT/thigh lift 12-16-06, tt revision 3-9-07, thigh revision 12-21-07, and planning to get the arms done later this year. I was more critical of my body after WLS than before. I'm getting better at accepting my body and just starting to see myself as normal. I've been my weight for almost 2 years now. It takes time. If I hadn't started to get better, I was going to get counseling. It's so weird to have body image problems now at age 41 and size 4 when I never had body image problems at a size 26-28! I was fat, had a fat ass body and just accepted it. Now its like, look at this roll, my ass has loose skin. Actually, it I did something about that, I would never be able to sit on a hard seat ever again. As it is, my butt hurts on a non-cushioned chair. If I remove what's left of my ass, I'm in trouble. Just like it takes time to lose the weight, it takes time to get used to your new body. Sue