Who else doesn't see themselves as small? - Page 5 - ThinnerTimes

marine · 10-09-2007, 05:20 PM

What at great BMI Bluez, thanks so much for making me laugh with your expression of "gargantua bones". I had not laughed since some time.

Laurie as every else said, enjoy enjoy enjoy whatever size YOU feel OK with and comfortable. Only listen to yourself and your physician. Skip the others, if you feel great, they will also start seeing you great so nicely slim.

Cheers,
Marine
Lap RYGBP / Sep 21 2007 - Lost22lbs, preop 238, actual 216, goal <=154 max or less (actually the more the time passes, the smaller becomes by goal........)

Lovetoday · 11-19-2007, 05:35 AM

Hi there, I hope your body issues have been resolved or you feel a bit better about them. I had been a confirmed "fattie" for about 14 years. Didn't give a hoot ( or so I told myself) . I am barely 3 weeks out and I want the acknowledgement from the mirror that I am actually thinner( I need a tape measure because the mirror is telling me that I have actually gained weight!

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That is why the before and after photo's are so amazing. I can see in my befores and my recently taken ones that there is a difference in my shape already! Which is fantastic.

BUT a scary thing is that although I had "accepted" my fatty body, when I had to make a pre-op list of the 50 things I'd like to accomplish in the next 10 years... no 45 was : " At one stage be too thin". Yes I know but it says a lot about what is inside me. Scary things.

I think we have picked up the weight slowly but surely( for most of us- my average has been 5kg ( 10lb) per year. And with WLS- the weight comes off far quicker, so our minds have not had time to do catch up.

Then again, even stickthin people ( Calista Flockhart, Keira Knightly) have obsessions about certain parts of their bodies, which at 310lb I never could understand.

Peace out.

fitbefore40 · 11-19-2007, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Lovetoday

Hi there, I hope your body issues have been resolved or you feel a bit better about them.

Thanks for the bump on the post . . . and asking about my mental progress. Yes, I used to check my progression by weight lost, but now, it's by mental stability. I'm maintaining my loss very well. My weight only goes up a couple of pounds when I'm on my period, but then it comes off. I still have issues with seeing myself as small. The tummy tuck helped an awful lot - not having the skin makes me feel less fat, but I do still feel like I'm average or above average weight compared to the rest of the population. I NEVER understood how those skinny girls could think that way until now. I teach kickboxing and usually wear spandex top and pants, and I look at everyone else in class and think I'm the same size or bigger. My sister and I wear the same size, she's a personal trainer and I still think she's much smaller than me. It makes no sense.

When I see a photo of me with other people, I do feel small. I just wish I could see it in the 3 dimentional world. I'm still a work in progress.

LQQkn · 11-19-2007, 04:46 PM

AMEN! I don't think you can change your head any faster than it happens. I know for myself I didn't see the thin me until I was about a year post op.. and then it was game on for the weight to stay on.. but I have to say that I understand this issue with you... and when you walk by a mirror stop for a minute and tell your head look at that thin body. It will come eventually. Janie

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Originally Posted by Bella

Honey chile ... if you are wearing a size 4 ... you are thin. Let's me reiterate .. you are thin!

GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!

(not trying to make light of your concern ... I'm just sooooo wanting to be small..)

Claire-in-Texas · 11-23-2007, 05:19 PM

Such a great thread! Thank you to all participants!

I can't say I feel fat (some days I look slimmer to myself than other days), but here is how I guage my size: I ask my husband to pick out people who are my size and point them out to me. He does that. My DH is not the complimentary type, generally speaking, so it would never occur to him to purposely pick out people who are thinner than I am, just to make me feel good.

This exercise has helped me to see what I look like to others, a good exercise for me. Very enlightening.

Rachel · 11-23-2007, 09:30 PM

Oh my goodness!! Thank you to everyone who has shared in this thread thus far! What an amazing read. I am not alone

I recently was able to fit into a size 8 pants. Never in my life do I ever recall being smaller than a 13, so to actually melt into a single digit is beyond me.

I look in the mirror and I too still see the "fat" areas. Mostly my stomach where I have the most excess skin. I see my thighs and think that they are a little chunky too (but I actually like the way they look in jeans). I can't get dressed and just think I look good. I always am picking out an area or two where I don't look as good as I would like to. Why do I do this?? I have no idea.

I was shopping with my mom a couple of weeks ago and she had been telling me for days how thin I was (she lives far away and it was the first time she had seen me since surgery). I would just laugh at her and say no not really. I would be looking at her and thinking, when am I going to be that small? So anyway we were in the dressing room and I was helping her with a zipper or something and she told me to look in the mirror. I looked over and there we were standing sideways together looking in the mirror. I nearly passed out. I was smaller than my mother!!

I am seeing a therapist and so far she has told me that I am fine, nothing to worry about that I seem to be healthy, just with a little mind to body catching up to do.

My husband gets mad at me when I "play" with the excess skin. It seems to be my coping mechanism for the embarrassment I feel because of it. He is wonderful and helping me to see that he loves me no matter what, i wonder when I am going to feel that way about myself.

One last thing, kinda funny thought I would share. I have spent all my life trying to dress "thin". So yesterday for Thanksgiving I was getting ready to go over to my in-laws. I haven't told them about my surgery, but they know thanks to a friend of my sister-in-laws who works at the hospital where I had the surgery done, she violated my rights and told them about it. I haven't confirmed it so they can't talk to me about it because they would get her in trouble (that is an entirely different story and thread all together

) Sooo here I am getting ready and due to the fact that I am tired of hearing them tell me that I am getting to small, I need to stop losing weight, I am beginning to look unhealthy, you know all the stuff that isn't their business to begin with, I was actually looking for an outfit that made me look bigger

For the first time ever I dressed "fat", now if that isn't just enough to make someone think I have gone crazy I don't know what is.

Starla · 11-30-2007, 09:33 AM

I know what you are saying. I am down to a Size 1---OMG!!!!! I am staying steady with my weight, between 109 and 111. All my friends and family are saying things like "you are to thin now" " You look terrible" Wow, thanks alot. I think I look good and most important I FELL GOOD!!!! All my health issues are gone. I dont see myself as a size 1, I still see myself a BIG. I know its because we have been BIG our entire lifes and thats all we know. Cant they all just be happy for us!!!
Starla

mhall35 · 11-30-2007, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Starla

I know what you are saying. I am down to a Size 1---OMG!!!!! I am staying steady with my weight, between 109 and 111. All my friends and family are saying things like "you are to thin now" " You look terrible" Wow, thanks alot. I think I look good and most important I FELL GOOD!!!! All my health issues are gone. I dont see myself as a size 1, I still see myself a BIG. I know its because we have been BIG our entire lifes and thats all we know. Cant they all just be happy for us!!!
Starla

Hi Starla My name is Michelle and I had my RNY gastric bypass on August 6, 2007and my biggiest was 278lbs that when I went in to do the consult at the initial visit. The day of the surgery I was down 15lbs and now I am down to 210lbs. How did you do it what was your menu after four month what kind of food did you eat I know it has been a yaer or almost a year for you I just want to know what did you do to loose the weight did you stay on food that you suppose to ate or did you eat normal and regular food let me know what you did. you can also e-mail me at michellehall20052005@yahoo.com

Thank you and GOD BLESS YOU and congrats in you weight loss to date

Michelle Hall