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sdgrrl · 08-29-2006, 05:28 PM

I too have kicked dead horses until my foot went through their rib cages. Our intimate relationships are so hard to release. Who knows us better than our spouse? Will anyone ever be intimate with us in that way again? Will anyone WANT to? Will I be labeled the "bad guy" and become estranged from the rest of my support system? Am I going to scar my children for the rest of their lives? The list goes on and on, doesn't it?

Peace and a feeling of integrity will come again, but you unfortunately have other emotions to feel first. I went through it, and it was sad and hard and took years rather than months to resolve. I wish you all the best, and don't hesitate to come to the forum for validation and support--I know I'm not the only other person to end a dead relationship when the partner doesn't know that it has gone belly up. Just remember that the only time it is "too late" is when one of you is going in the ground. You can separate as long as you want, and if you both decide to get back together, you can. You get to be captain of your own ship, and the feeling is utterly exhiliarating! It also feels totally crappy some times.

Come to some support groups and get some warm fuzzies from us--it'll do you a world of good.
(((hugs)))
Donna