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  1. 10 points
    Thank you, @CJireh! Your positivity and inclusion is really helpful in all of this. I think you're so right about November being a month that the old us would have balked at. I won't lie, I've thought about how this is a huge decision and I won't be able to smoosh my emotions down with stuffing. I'm also a great cook, so I am trying to figure out how I'm going to cook for my loved ones when I can't eat! Haha! My "little" (we have 4 kids, but aren't going anywhere) family is ordering Whole Foods TG dinner this year. I'll drink broth and pretend it's gravy. LOL. The holidays will be hard for a lot of reasons for us this year, so I'm not sure I'll feel much like eating anyway. That's a good and a bad thing, probably. But I am excited. It's a really weird kind of excited, but I am still very happy I made this decision.
  2. 8 points
    Meisha216

    6 Years Later

    HW: 336 CURRENTLY: 135 STILL IN DISBELIEF
  3. 8 points
    I’m home! Really couldn’t have gone better.
  4. 8 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    @Jen581791 Great thread for the day! Here is what I baked this morning. My son has already inhaled 1/3 of the one on the left... My Tartine-style sourdough bread. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone celebrating it, and let me be amongst the first to say I give thanks every time I gain yet more insight from this forum, and give thanks for the changes I have been blessed with since my surgery.
  5. 7 points
    kristinwitha_k

    Thanks for keeping my seat warm!

    Sorry I didn't get you all updated yesterday - was really drowsy coming out of anesthesia, and then learned that I share the family trait of a very low heart rate when drowsy/sleeping! So. Much. Drama. But I was/am fine, there was just much to do about nothing. This is my first adult surgery, so had never had the opportunity to discover this before. Delightful. Surgery went beautifully, and feel pretty good today. Working on an ounce of water per hour, and making occasional laps of the floor this morning. Thanks for all the well-wishes!
  6. 7 points
    So, just how long is our loser's bench??? I am guessing the ones on the far end just keep losing more weight which makes more room for the newbies? Is that how it works??? Anyway, November members....we have at least 3 new surgeries this week! @kristinwitha_k is Monday @Cardamom77 is Tuesday @sarahjayne29 is Wednesday Am I missing anyone else? So, are you ladies all ready? I know Kristin is just chomping at the bit to get in that surgical suite! And Cardamom, I am so proud of you for doing this so soon after losing your sister, I doubt I would have your strength. Sarah Jayne, have you been back to visit recently? You will have even more success if you stay connected here...this board has to much info and experience. I feel like I know way more than most people that I've met that have or are having this but just doing what their dr says (nothing wrong w/ that, but if he and the NUT are your only resource, you are missing out on a lot of info...even silly little things that you wouldn't want to "bother" your medical team with...this board always seems to have had some experience with it!) Let me just add that I am so proud of the November Newbies gang....in our "'old" days, we'd have never agreed to have this in November (I know I wouldn't have....I could put off any diet for any reason). Thinking like this: "well I can't do the 2 wk liquid diet over Halloween, I gotta have get me some kitkats or is just isn't Halloween! And I can't do it after that, because I don't want to be on my liquid diet or post-surgery after Thanksgiving...I couldn't miss Grandma's homemade stuffing or Mary's cheesy broccoli casserole!!! But then after that, Christmas shopping, decorating etc? Can't do it then, nor do I have the time to do the 2 wk preop either. And Christmas week? Are you kidding me, that is unamerican to not enjoy Christmas dinner with the family!!! You'd want me to pass up prime rib??? No way, Jose! You know what, I can do this after our New Year's Eve party...our traditional fried foods feast followed by chocolate fondue at midnight, couldn't bear to miss that. So, I guess late January it is!" Sound familiar? That is how we all know we ALL HAVE CHANGED!!! I have stopped my "self-reasoning" (which my husband wisely calls "self-treasoning") and just decided, I could put this off until forever, and eat the old way I used to and be heavier and unhealthier OR just do it! So, I decided this is my time to DO IT! I am so happy and proud of all of you November Newbies too because you all had the same thoughts at some point, I am sure, but you all decided to get the surgery in the very month that has the biggest EATING holiday and to MINIMIZE the EATING and MAXIMIZE the THANKING! Kudos to you all!!!!
  7. 7 points
    Jen581791

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Enjoy your day with family/friends, and enjoy your meal with moderation in all things
  8. 7 points
    tmcgee

    Hang in there folks

    Half my weight, from 360 to 180, coming up on 5 years in the spring.
  9. 7 points
    Here is my unsolicited two cents. It can still be about the food - just plan for it. I know I'm going to have dessert and cocktails on Thanksgiving so the 2 - 3 days leading up to it I'm having cottage cheese for lunch and a small salad for dinner. (I drink protein shakes with decaf during the day so I'm getting in my protein.) I budget my carbs before an event so I can eat and drink what I want. More importantly for me, I care FAR less about food than I did pre-op. I still really enjoy it but I don't spend time thinking/obsessing about it like I used to. Now when I eat something, I really enjoy what I'm eating. Pre-op, I would think about what I was going to eat next while I was eating something else. It was crazy. Another change for me is if I don't like something, I stop at one bite. In the past, if didn't really like something I might keep eating thinking I needed another few bites to really decide if I liked it or not. Or, I've even thought, "this next bite might be better". Totally crazy. I only get so many bites in a meal so I don't want to waste them on stuff I don't love.
  10. 7 points
    tmcgee

    Hang in there folks

    I hope all of you know that I still struggle daily, and it is all a huge part of the process. Today was especially tough, I had one slice of white toast with butter for breakfast and a half can of salty Campbells tomato soup for late lunch. There were a couple of slices of salty cheddar cheese during the day as well, single serve .75 ounce. I'm quite happy with where I am weight-wise, but sometimes the brain needs way more attention than the body, and that's why I still come here, you folks are inspirational and it is absolutely necessary for long term success. The surgery fixes the physical issues but the emotional and psychological issues are equally as important, and prolly more so.
  11. 6 points
    tracyringo

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    Finally I have a big NSV !! In the summer of 2016 I went with family to an amusement park near my home I got on Several rides that I had to get off of because I didn't fit !! I was mordified as surely you can imagine. We went back today a lil over a year later and I fit in ALL the rides !! I was nervous each one waiting for the latch ( I love roller coasters !! ) I rode them all !!
  12. 6 points
    Hi, my name is Jennifer, and I'm a stuffing addict. Stuffing is my jam. I think there are whole weeks over the past 9 months where I was losing nothing but stuffing weight. I think I'll let myself have a spoonful or two this year. It's a powerful substance, though, and probably best not to toy with it, in my case.
  13. 6 points
    On special occasions, I allow myself a small serving of anything I want. Having said that, I always plan ahead and eat fewer calories for a day or two beforehand. And if I feel I've really overindulged, I'll eat light for a meal or two afterwards too.
  14. 5 points
    Well, I survived Thanksgiving, even without stuffing. It was a large gathering of American expats, so everyone brought something - which meant the food table was full of like 25+ different dishes and the dessert table was about the same. I loaded up on fake vegetarian turkey that I brought for myself, plus some veggies, and had about two bites of mac and cheese and two bites of mashed potatoes. It was the most food I've eaten in one meal since surgery, for sure, and I even had a couple of little nibbles of dessert from my ever-suffering husband's plate (he's not a fan of sharing). It all went down well, no one noticed I was eating tiny portions (well, not that I could see), and I totted everything up at the end of the evening, and I got my protein in and didn't exceed 1000 calories (by guesstimation of course) even though I had a bit of wine. Woo hoo! Success. It was all tasty enough, but I wasn't like *excited* about any of the food enough to eat too much of it. It was good, I was part of the experience, and now it's over. I have no leftovers, so no "well, maybe I'll just have a few bites of this ___ before I go to bed" moments. No continued indulgence tomorrow. Thanksgiving and I came to a peaceable arrangement this year. About time.
  15. 5 points
    TammyP

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    You are not the only one dying for this bread hehe! Thankfully, no one will bring yummy bread to our celebration tomorrow at the inlaws. I plan on eating turkey and maybe a bit of potatoes. The mom-in-law doesn't ever do desserts that I would like (chocolate), so I think I will be okay in that regard. I am thankful for each and every one of you. You help and guidance in my life this year has been invaluable. <3 Have a blessed Thanksgiving everyone!
  16. 5 points
    CJireh

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Yes, happy thanksgiving to all! Thank you all for being here to answer my many questions, fears and anxieties! I'm very thankful for you all!!! And this year, especially, I am thankful for my health and for my surgery going well and for my new life ahead!!! Tomorrow is going to be different for us, but we are struggling to make it fun. We are having a family breakfast with the three teens that live at home, then going to the movies together. Then the 16 and 18 yr olds will go to the BF/GF's family dinner and we will have a dinner with just the 14 yr old and DH and myself. The 14 yr old is autistic and will eat his regular peanut butter and chocolate chip sandwich and I got a turkey breast for my hubby and I (I will have a tiny bit and he will have a small amount and we will have leftovers for a week!!! LOL) Friday we will go for our family tradition to my Inlaws to help get rid of their leftovers! Usually all five of our kids go...but this year our daughter (so far) is chosing not to go because she is still upset with me I'm sad about that, but know she will come around eventually. i just finished up the aprons I made for my grandkids and will deliver them tonight since we won't see any of them on TG. I haven't seen my daughter in 3 wks since she got upset about my surgery, but I'm dropping off stuff for the grandkids anyway and hoping she'll be fine with it. The one set of grandkids are my daughters and she has the three, 2 girls and a boy, which I represented with the Indian/pilgrim ones (painted only their "character") and the other one (turkey) is for our son's daughter. HAPPY THANKSGIVING, TT FRIENDS!! May tomorrow be about the COMPANY and not the FOOD!! (Though, do enjoy some food....unless you're one of the November Newbies that can't have any/much )
  17. 5 points
    You aren't love. At 6 days out just functioning as a normal person is exhausting. I returned to work on day 4 and it took everything in me to walk from the parking garage to my desk and back. But it gets a little better in time. Once you start eating solids you will notice a huge change in your energy levels. Hang in there!
  18. 5 points
    Meisha216

    6 Years Later

    Yes I had the bypass. My only advice is to remember your pouch lol I to this day eat with my head and with meat it's not good for me I have to sometimes bring back up because it's stuck for too long. Yeah it's funny and fun not being recognized. Especially because I'm a nosey person. It was weird tho not having family recognize me. My goal was just to be under 200lbs I met that 13 months after surgery and the rest was slow and gradual. I don't know if I can say this here but Medicinal plants help me with my appetite, my hyperactive mind, and my addiction to sweets and juice. I've picked a gum chewing habit too.
  19. 5 points
    blameitonthegenes

    AHA! Moments 2

    Hi everyone! Hope you are doing exceptionally well today, and if you are not, you definitely need to read this post and start visiting the Thinner Times Forums more often...it helps a lot, believe me. I thought it would be a good idea to start a thread where we all share those aha moments that have impacted our lives and helped us on our weight loss journeys. I hope long-time members will come and share their wisdom. Here's my most significant aha moment pre-op: It's funny how we don't often feel proud of ourselves when we win a battle against obesity but we do ALWAYS feel shame when we lose one. I remember my first visit to the surgeon that would later operate on me. He's really handsome and spoke in a calm soft voice while he looked right into my eyes ignoring whatever my mom was babbling nervously. He said: "This is NOT your fault. This is NOT a character flaw." I honestly don't remember much of what went on during the rest of the visit because my brain had short-circuited after that very simple statement. I was thinking to myself: "What? This is not my fault? What do you mean? Am I not an idiot for not being able to maintain weight loss? Am I not just a lazy slob? Wait, that can't be right. I've been beating myself down since I was 10 for not being able to do what comes so naturally to other people." That moment took 155 pounds off me figuratively... 155 pounds that were crushing my self-esteem and not allowing me to be happy. The pounds later came off for real but I will never forget that AHA! moment. I hope sharing this with you will help you feel proud of yourselves every time you put in the effort to do what "normal" people take for granted. It's not that you are just doing what you are supposed to do. No, you are doing something extraordinary, you are fighting against your genetics and your metabolism and that means you rock! It never ceses to be hard, but fighting the battle with the right frame of mind makes a huge difference.
  20. 5 points
    CJireh

    Let's Talk Turkey

    I fixed the whole don't bring containers thing...I make sure I have plenty of zip lock bags on hand....and as I am clearing the table, I am filling bags!!! I use the quart size ones (the freezer ones if they have heavy stuff or like gravy, but mostly the every day ones are fine...they can put them in their containers at home if they want to, but the bags are actually fine to keep them in) . I used to laugh bc my kids or guests would bring back my cool whip containers I sent stuff home in but never my tupperware or rubbermaid! So, one year I got clever and started using bags!
  21. 4 points
    Kio

    10 weeks tomorrow!

    Just a quick update, since I haven't done one in a while. Things are going pretty well! My energy is high, my weight loss is on track, all good there. My only complaint is that I've had some trouble with eating dense protein - I know I'm still very early out, but my nutritionist wants me getting most of my protein from real food right now, and that just... does not happen. I get by with some protein shakes and bars, and a lot of cheese, basically. Had about a week where I kept trying to eat more dense foods and failing.... so I dunno, maybe the time just isn't right for me yet. The problem came in when I tried to eat something, sat with it irritating my pouch for an hour, threw up, then couldn't eat for another couple of hours until I felt better. Those days I definitely didn't hit my protein goals, and my calories were super, super low. (I also couldn't figure out how to calculate the goal - did EVERYTHING come back up? What stayed down? How many grams? I decided in the end to throw up my hands and surrender - on days when I can't keep dense protein down, I'm not meeting my goals, and that's all I need to know. Now I've stopped trying to eat stuff like eggs and meat for a while, and life is a bit easier, goals are getting met... all good. I did find some shrimp, peeled and de-veined but not cooked! I made three pieces and was able to keep THOSE down for about an hour... then not so much. I've got some salmon to try, which is not dense but still protein and real food, but I haven't been brave enough yet. I also cut all my hair off! I'd show you guys a picture but my camera's in the other room. I started to see more hair in the shower drain, and figured I'd just get it over with. I have the pixiest of pixies right now, and since my face is starting to have an actual shape, it's not bad. The last time it was this short, I didn't feel cute at all. This time, I almost kind of do! At this point I'm sooooo close to 100 lbs down I can feel it. I'm 259, which is the lowest weight I've been in about ten years. I lost 57 lb before surgery, and I've lost almost forty since surgery - hard to wrap my head around. I'm now smaller than my next-largest friend! Leah makes jokes about how she's going to kick my @*# now, while I still have one . It's true - the weight is coming off my butt like crazy. It's also coming off my face, my chin, my neck, my upper arms, my thighs... everywhere but my belly, really. I'm going to end up reeeeeally funny looking if that doesn't change soon! Tonight I went for a long walk with Leah and the dog, and didn't hurt, and didn't have to stop halfway up any hills! After the walk, I felt a little tired, but not so tired I couldn't stand up and do dishes, wander the house, etc. No noodle legs! One thing I've found interesting about exercise is how hard it is for me to say yes to it. Every time Leah walks the dog, she asks if I want to come. I try to say yes most of the time, but it's difficult. I still FEEL like I can't do it. I feel like I'm going to get too tired, that I'm going to fall over, that I'm going to hurt too much. But then when I do say yes and go along... it's really quite easy. My brain and my heart just haven't caught up yet to the physical reality of what I can do now. Now I'm off to bed, but I wanted to check in and let everybody know I'm okay and still on track.
  22. 4 points
    Trish1967

    Happy turkey day!

    Just wanted to wish you all a very happy thanksgiving. I’m very thankful for all of your help, support and friendship over the past year, and to let you all know I’d never have been able to get this far without you guys! Enjoy your day tomorrow, everyone!
  23. 4 points
    Chefman77

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I took a selfie and sent it to my mom showing her my No-Shave November beard I'm sporting (I'd post a picture from time to time if I ever take the time to figure out how to adjust the size so it will fit). She replied back and said that her husband didn't even recognize me. I figured it was the beard, but she told me it was because of the weight I've lost. They live in Arizona and I haven't seen them in a few years. Anyway, that made me feel good.
  24. 4 points
    AustinJ

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    I'm thankful for everyone here at Thinner Times and all the help a guidance I have received here.
  25. 4 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Stephtay, they are. I keep the dough overnight in the fridge to let it develop extra complexity and sourness before I proof the dough and bake it the next morning. It took me over a year to get this down so it is consistent. (I am sure this did NOT help my weight loss attempts in the couple of years before I had surgery). In preparation for my surgery in March of this year, in February I preserved the sourdough mother I use and baked my last loaves about a month before my surgery. My wife insisted I revive the mother and bake for Thanksgiving, so well I did and I have. I can't eat but one piece but everyone else just gobbles it up! Here's the trivia for the day: The bottoms of these loaves are NEARLY burned but not quite. Hundreds of years ago rich people sliced off the well done or burnt bottom crust of their sourdough bread and only ate the top crust - e.g. the "Upper Crust." This is why rich folks are called the Upper Crust. Personally I love the Lower Crust more as it is super crunchy and flavorful. Later today I'll amend the post to include a photo of a cut slice - you can see the difference in the two crusts very easily.
  26. 4 points
    Stephtay

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    This is awesome! Did you do this? This post should be pinned so people can see that you really can taste everything on Thanksgiving! So clever!
  27. 4 points
    Trish1967

    6 month surgiversary!

    Yesterday was my 6 month surgiversary I can't believe the time has passed so quickly! I have lost 97.8 pounds since surgery, and 132 pounds overall so far I thought I was starting a stall earlier in the week, but it turns out that I'm not...yet, anyway. I saw my new primary care doctor for the first time yesterday, and I think she is going to be a great fit. She was thrilled with the progress/results I've had so far with the bariatric process. She was extremely thorough, has a great bedside manner, and seemed overall to be the type of doctor I'm looking for. I know I've only seen her once, so it still remains to be seen. But I asked her if I was still morbidly obese, or just obese, even though I knew the answer. She said obese, and I asked her to mark that in my chart, lol. Nothing like a new patient being that excited about being obese! HA! Hopefully I'll have some time to spend here today, now that my hubby is finished with his mini remodel (thank GOD) and the clean up is finished. I've gotta get caught up on everything I've been missing during the week! Lol
  28. 4 points
    Oh boy, I wish I had words of wisdom... Since this is my first thanksgiving post WLS, I personally don't think I can try any of the carb-y stuff. Not to say that it's a bad thing, by any means, to have a small portion. But I'm not strong enough yet to take one bite and walk away. I love carbs too much. Much like @Jen581791 saying she was losing stuffing weight, for me it was pizza, potatoes and couscous, lol. My personal strategy is to figure out what I'm having ahead of time, which I already have, and not put anything else on my plate. I absolutely love turnip...and even though it's carb-ier than other veggies (veggie? Root? Idk, lol) I'm going to have some of that. I love it, but I can control my intake of it. That and turkey Now I can't say for sure that I won't "over butter" that turnip however...we all have our weaknesses!
  29. 4 points
    Michael_A

    Stressed!

    Agreed, some of the things @Cynrey listed sound very much like issues caused by the band, especially the esophageal perforation. @Cynrey: If you've not done good research on the hospital and your surgeon, start doing so, now. I think anyone would have hesitation after witnessing what you have. Cases like this certainly are the minority though. In the end, look at the list of reasons why you need and want this procedure. There's nothing wrong with reevaluating your decision and see where it lands you.
  30. 4 points
    Aussie H

    Stressed!

    If this surgery is something you still believe you want to go ahead with, I'd be taking the time to have a very frank discussion with your surgeon. Ask about his complication rates and tell him about your friend. He might have an explanation as to how the kind of issues your friend is giving might have occurred, along with what he does to prevent them happening to his patients. Unfortunately different surgeon's have varying levels of experience and skill when it comes to bariatric surgery and this can show in their complication rates. For what it is worth, my surgeon told me that revisional surgery carries 20x the risk of post surgical leaks. It was by far his biggest concern heading into mine. Existing scar tissue is problematic for sealing well after stapling. Anatomically you are different to your friend, your surgeons likely have different skill levels, and the hospitals you're using may also have differing levels of aftercare. Only you can decide what's best for you right now. Even if you choose not to go ahead with the surgery right now, you can still have it a later time should you feel more confident then. All too often we really don't see the potential complications of surgery until we watch someone we know suffer them. I hope everything turns around for your friend quickly.
  31. 4 points
    Sorry it was a bummer. When you go to eat leftovers of any kind (but eggs especially), don't be surprised if they're too tough or dry to eat. Moisture is our friend after surgery, so I try to only make small batches of things that will dry out. Or, at the very least, cover everything in the microwave.
  32. 4 points
    Boho Rosy

    Kristin (_withak)'s Surgery Date!

    I felt very much the same way. Totally zen. On the day of, every time I felt myself starting to get nervous, I would close my eyes, take a deep breath, and go back to the zen place. I also kept reminding myself that this was a choice that I made and I might as well go into it with positivity and optimism. I’m doing great! I was only in the hospital for one night. Got home on Thursday evening, slept a ton on Friday and took a short walk, and then yesterday I went to Target and today to a casino! I’m not saying that I was 100%. I’m feeling pretty weak and not moving so fast, but it’s amazing how much better I feel each day. I’m so excited for what’s ahead for you. Stay in the zen place and do everything your doctor tells you to. Best of luck tomorrow!!!!
  33. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    AHA! Moments 2

    I've known all my life that I was overweight, but dieting just never got it off. Then I was on medications that made losing weight impossible. (My first known diet was when I was 4). I decided on wls while on vacation in May 2012. I had a new granddaughter on the way and wanted to live to see her grow up. I checked into when we got home and the rest is history. Picture is July 2012; I'd just started the wls program, next picture picture is October 2017..also October 2017 scuba gear isn't flattering but it's something I couldn't do before and last picture is August 2010. Hoping these aren't huge when I post..
  34. 4 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Let's Talk Turkey

    A very thought out post, Chefman77! Exactly to your point, @Jen581791 @Dtrain84 and @Trish1967 have had excellent loss trajectories, and they don't compromise much if at all, when it comes to indiscretions. Your own trajectory is right up there with them. I suppose I am laying out these indiscretions as a way of being intellectually honest - I enjoy a glass of Fermented Grape Liquids but know it is both carbos, and calories, and there is no way to put lipstick on that pig and make it appear otherwise. I just may be less resolute that some of you!
  35. 4 points
    Chefman77

    Let's Talk Turkey

    Thanks @BurgundyBoy! I'm sure you're right about others not really caring about how much we eat or don't eat. I'm sure things will get a lot more natural and second nature the more I do them and figure out what works for me. We're going to my in-laws for Thanksgiving and they have been very supportive of me in all I do including my weight loss journey. If I really focus on taking small bites and eating slowly I'll do fine. I think as far as the drinking fluids goes that it's a case by case basis. I know that people who had a bypass have less issues drinking liquids than people with the sleeve. I have no problem drinking liquids and I don't really have to take tiny sips between meals like I was told I would. My liquid intake post-op doesn't look much different than it did before with the exception of during meals and waiting after a meal. I have been able to take tiny sips during a meal on occasion when I feel I have to, but I typically don't mess with it. It seems that if I eat too fast and don't chew food enough that my pouch doesn't empty in a timely manner and I think it's been plenty of time that I can take a drink and it's no good. If my pouch hasn't emptied and I take a full blown drink misery ensues. We have all decided on one type of wls or another to quit being a slave to food and be healthier among other reasons. I know we are told about what we will never be able to eat or drink again, etc... However, I'm fairly certain that we all came to terms internally as to our willingness to sacrifice certain foods/drinks for the rest of our lives if it meant achieving our goals of losing weight, keeping it off, and being healthier. For me personally I figured I had eaten for pleasure and gluttony long enough and my high weight of 371 pounds is where it got me. I decided to start looking at my body as an engine and just giving it the fuel it needs to run most efficient and leave out all the additives that will clog it up and make it start running sluggish. As I sit here almost 6 months after my surgery I still have the same attitude for the most part. I want to continue to do everything I can to achieve my own personal goals and be as healthy as I can be. I do believe that it is possible to indulge in some of the foods and drinks that have been labeled as off limits either by the experts or by ourselves. I think it's a personal decision and one that we shouldn't be judged by. I think it should be well thought out and not a knee-jerk reaction possibly to prevent any guilt or remorse. I have had a tiny piece of birthday cake and I have sipped some alcohol with friends and I had no remorse. It didn't send me into an eating frenzy or cause me to become a lush. I don't take it lightly. I have too much at stake to be so naive so it will be a special occasion thing as I believe it can be a dangerous place for me to go. We know ourselves better than anyone else does and what we can and can't do or are willing to live with. So, to each their own. I just pray that we all have success and happiness above all.
  36. 4 points
    Gretta

    6 month surgiversary!

    Trish, those stats are simply awesome! Fantastic work! You are rocking this WLS thing! I'm so happy you like your new doctor. She sounds great! You really bring heart to this message board. I'm so grateful for all your kindness, wisdom, positivity, warmth, and for being such a good example! Congratulations on all your success! You've earned it!
  37. 4 points
    Cardamom77

    The worst week of my life

    Something that is holding me together a little is that I have not screwed up on my pre-op diet. I have not smoked (I haven't in years, but all of this kind of made me want to bum a cigarette), I have not drank, I have quit drinking caffeine entirely - all while coping with the death of my sister. If that isn't a testament that I can do this, then I don't know what is.
  38. 4 points
    Stephtay

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I realized today I am more excited about going for a hike in the morning and later playing games (board, card and bocce ball) on Thanksgiving than I am about the food. We are spending a couple of days with three other couples and when the spreadsheet with the menu and what to bring went out to the group I was a little bummed. I want the focus to be on the activities and not the food!
  39. 3 points
    @Readytobeme You'll do fine. You're talking about these so it's not like you are hiding them. It's normal to be a basket case when you have siblings or parents in those circumstances. Anyone who is not a basket case is either unfeeling, or exists on an emotional plane that I can only dream of. Sure the shrink will bring them up. Am sure you have thought of the plan for when you are next very stressed and faced with the fast food dilemma. Good luck with this all!
  40. 3 points
    cinwa

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    It does look good .... wonder if we could persuade BurgundyBoy to post the recipe.
  41. 3 points
    Gin820

    Almost there....

    Hi all, It's been a minute since I've been on here. I am approved for surgery and started my 2 week pre-op semi-liquid diet (one solid meal a day with 2 protein shakes and clears throughout the day). I see the surgeon to schedule my date on 11/28. Surgery will be a few days after. Decided on VSG. Very excited and I do not care about the holiday eating extravaganza I will be "missing." It is fine with me.
  42. 3 points
    Gretta

    Happy turkey day!

    30 pounds, @Res Ipsa?! Wow!!!! Happy Thanksgiving! You all are the best, and I'm so grateful for you!
  43. 3 points
    Res Ipsa

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    I also want to wish everyone a wonderful Thanksgiving full of special times with family and/or friends. We all have a lot to be thankful for. By the way, my Thanksgiving dinner plate will look a lot more full than the one posted by @Jen581791
  44. 3 points
    TK Hops

    Hi! New Here!

    Thanks everybody! I started my weight loss journey 2 years ago. I lost over 40 lbs that year (fantastic for me, 20 lbs was the max I could ever lose). 1 year ago, I went in for my yearly check-up fully expecting all of my numbers to be improved(none were ever more than a couple of points high). The next day the doctor herself called me. My fasting blood sugar was 368. I immediately went to buy a meter. After I figured out how to use it, I saw my blood sugar was 539. I panicked. My A1C was 13.7 and I was immediately put on insulin & metformin. After a while, I was beginning to regain the weight I'd lost & then found out weight gain was a side effect of insulin, grrrrr. While researching diabetes, I came across an article that said gastric bypass was an effective means for long term diabetes control because the surgery reroutes around the duodendron. So I started researching it & went to a seminar. I started the long process of approval a month later. I have been off insulin now for over 2 months through diet & exercise and have relost all but 5 lbs of what I gaines back. I know the cycle of diabetes is to become more & more insulin resistant. Currently, I am at 40 carbs per day for control. I know without the surgery, I'll have to keep decreasing the carbs even more until I am forced back on insulin. I should add my brother died in his sleep from diabetes complications at just 7 years older than I am now, so I am fearful of going to sleep. Also, my brother in law, who is 10 years older than me is struggling to save his foot & leg. I also had my own diabetic ulcer on my foot that was difficult to treat. The weight loss will be great, but diabetes is my motivator.
  45. 3 points
    Cardamom77

    Tomorrow.....

    Well, I've done just fine on clear liquids and magnesium citrate today, though the bathroom is sure seeing a lot of me. Ha! I'm missing my sister a lot right now. I would be calling her up and joking around with her, asking her for advice. She was my dear friend. She would have come with me to the hospital. I have been talking to her anyway, even though she can't answer. I think she would be proud of me. I'm nervous, but excited to start this journey. I'm thinking about joining the gym my husband goes to so we can go together. I haven't decided yet. I haven't been all that successful at trying to work out at home, though - and he goes pretty regularly - so I'm thinking it might be wise to go with him. We'll see. It will be a little while before I can go anyway. I'll let you all know how it goes tomorrow.
  46. 3 points
    @Boho Rosy We all start at different places and the WLS hits us all differently... Just set your expectations based on who YOU are and your pre-surgery level of exercise. If you have high expectations but weren't exercising much before surgery you will definitely have to work your way up. You can do it but wouldn't press so hard you feel defeated or become reluctant to exercise because of soreness. You can get to your goal without exercise but you're better with it if you can. @Dtrain84 isn't allowed to exercise heavily for medical reasons and is doing splendidly; @athenarose who exercises a huge amount didn't start exercising hard until she got to her goal; and like @Gretta I exercised a lot early on but have gone through periods of sluggishness.
  47. 3 points
    Cardamom77

    Cardamom77's Surgery Date

    I head in first thing tomorrow morning. Right now it's mostly things coming out, since I drank the magnesium citrate I was told to drink. Haha! I'm doing well so far.
  48. 3 points
    It sounds like it will be a good way to work around a bad situation. Though, it is still an awful thing what happened to your sister and your family left behind, she would want you guys to still celebrate Thanksgiving and be thankful for the times you did have with her. You won't have to cook (which is great, it makes it easier so you don't feel overwhelmed with food and next year you can probably handle it again), and maybe not many people will feel like eating much, but sitting around the table, you can reminisce about your sister and funny stories from holidays past...keep the tissues nearby but hug each family member tightly as you have seen no one ever knows how much time we have and showing love is so much better than just filling our faces! It will probably be a totally different holiday for your family this year, but I imagine it will have it's very special moments too. {{{HUGS}}} side note: put your broth in a china bowl just like the family (have your place set up just the same only a bowl on top of the plate) and make it as pretty and normal as possible and just sip, sip, sip away with your silver spoon so it still feels like a holiday meal and not just swigging from a mis-matched mug that you warmed your broth in! Somehow your mind might feel less "deprived" if it feels special/fancy. Just a thought.
  49. 3 points
    Trish1967

    6 month surgiversary!

    Awww, Jen!!! You are such a sweetheart!! You always lift me up...always!! Thank you for that ❤️ You are so right...the smaller body, clothes, etc, are fantastic! But the way I feel, like you said, the amount of life I've gained, is definitely the most important measure! I never thought I could feel like this again! If I'm a positive voice here, it's because wonderful people like you give me a positive lead to follow. You have done such great things through your WLS journey, and when you post about it, it gives me inspiration to keep going!! Thank YOU for everything you give us through your experiences post WLS, and it certainly would not be the same without you here!!
  50. 3 points
    Jen581791

    6 month surgiversary!

    Congrats on this big surgiversary! You are an amazing, shining example of how positive a change WLS can be. I know it's easiest to measure progress in pounds lost, or inches lost, or clothing sizes lost, but I think particularly in your case, the amount of life you've gained is truly the most important measurement! I love watching your successes accumulate, week after week after month. Thanks for being such a positive voice here on TTF. It wouldn't be the same without you