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  1. 4 points
    Well, I survived Thanksgiving, even without stuffing. It was a large gathering of American expats, so everyone brought something - which meant the food table was full of like 25+ different dishes and the dessert table was about the same. I loaded up on fake vegetarian turkey that I brought for myself, plus some veggies, and had about two bites of mac and cheese and two bites of mashed potatoes. It was the most food I've eaten in one meal since surgery, for sure, and I even had a couple of little nibbles of dessert from my ever-suffering husband's plate (he's not a fan of sharing). It all went down well, no one noticed I was eating tiny portions (well, not that I could see), and I totted everything up at the end of the evening, and I got my protein in and didn't exceed 1000 calories (by guesstimation of course) even though I had a bit of wine. Woo hoo! Success. It was all tasty enough, but I wasn't like *excited* about any of the food enough to eat too much of it. It was good, I was part of the experience, and now it's over. I have no leftovers, so no "well, maybe I'll just have a few bites of this ___ before I go to bed" moments. No continued indulgence tomorrow. Thanksgiving and I came to a peaceable arrangement this year. About time.
  2. 3 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Hmmm. Of course! I'll post a recipe / instructions later today. This particular recipe uses a sourdough yeast mother, so if you don't currently have one, or have access to a friend's mother -> you can use commercial yeast. I know I promised to post a picture of the sliced bread that would show the crumb, but BOTH loaves got inhaled yesterday before I realized what was happening. I put together another batch at 9 pm last night and let it rise overnight, and baked again this morning. lf I have the presence of mind to remember, will do that today. HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!
  3. 3 points
    I’m home! Really couldn’t have gone better.
  4. 2 points
    Our family having Thanksgiving today as one of us had to work yesterday, so we shifted by a day so all of us could be here. We'll eat this afternoon. Plan: Lots of exercise before the meal, go for quality and protein over anything else. This morning/early lunch: pint of oysters poached in a cup of fish broth that had small amount of leeks and onions and garlic reduced in one tablespoon butter/olive oil. It had one dry cooked piece of bacon crumbled into it. Delicious and filling. Scads of protein, ok too much fat but has luxurious mouth feel, warm liquid. Filling and will keep me going all day until midafternoon when we eat. Yes I did bake two more loaves of sourdough bread that I essentially can't or shouldn't eat. Was an oyster stuffing fan. Now I guess I am a Oyster-Cooked-Anyway-Except-In-Stuffing fan.
  5. 2 points
    Lauraw96

    I DID IT !!! :)

    Hi everyone!! Sorry I didn’t post earlier, I’ve been in pain and tired but dr said everything went good and I’m doing beautifully. I am going home today at 6pm
  6. 2 points
    well i hosted thanksgiving so it i was too busy to follow up on this until today!! gretta, how did that cauliflower rice stuffing turn out? i didn't do so great, although my sister in law's stuffing was such a hit, i only got one small serving. : / that didn't stop me from compensating with beans and rice. today is friend's thanksgiving at my bffs house. i still abstain from sweets, but will have stuffing and cheese and leeks casserole (it's just cheese and leeks and it's delicious). my plan is to not weigh myself today and tomorrow, and then saturday i am back on the wagon. i start school on tuesday, and i have a game plan for my meals and thermoses on the way to hold my pre-portioned, pre-packed foods. thanks all for your input. i hope you had an awesome thanksgiving!!
  7. 2 points
    Try warm beverages (tea, broth). They went down more easily for me at first. You're swollen from the tube down your throat & the surgery. It will get easier.
  8. 2 points
    BurgundyBoy

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    @Gretta, you are a verbal sly dog.
  9. 2 points
    tracyringo

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    Finally I have a big NSV !! In the summer of 2016 I went with family to an amusement park near my home I got on Several rides that I had to get off of because I didn't fit !! I was mordified as surely you can imagine. We went back today a lil over a year later and I fit in ALL the rides !! I was nervous each one waiting for the latch ( I love roller coasters !! ) I rode them all !!
  10. 2 points
    Chefman77

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I took a selfie and sent it to my mom showing her my No-Shave November beard I'm sporting (I'd post a picture from time to time if I ever take the time to figure out how to adjust the size so it will fit). She replied back and said that her husband didn't even recognize me. I figured it was the beard, but she told me it was because of the weight I've lost. They live in Arizona and I haven't seen them in a few years. Anyway, that made me feel good.
  11. 2 points
    Here is my unsolicited two cents. It can still be about the food - just plan for it. I know I'm going to have dessert and cocktails on Thanksgiving so the 2 - 3 days leading up to it I'm having cottage cheese for lunch and a small salad for dinner. (I drink protein shakes with decaf during the day so I'm getting in my protein.) I budget my carbs before an event so I can eat and drink what I want. More importantly for me, I care FAR less about food than I did pre-op. I still really enjoy it but I don't spend time thinking/obsessing about it like I used to. Now when I eat something, I really enjoy what I'm eating. Pre-op, I would think about what I was going to eat next while I was eating something else. It was crazy. Another change for me is if I don't like something, I stop at one bite. In the past, if didn't really like something I might keep eating thinking I needed another few bites to really decide if I liked it or not. Or, I've even thought, "this next bite might be better". Totally crazy. I only get so many bites in a meal so I don't want to waste them on stuff I don't love.
  12. 2 points
    Hi, my name is Jennifer, and I'm a stuffing addict. Stuffing is my jam. I think there are whole weeks over the past 9 months where I was losing nothing but stuffing weight. I think I'll let myself have a spoonful or two this year. It's a powerful substance, though, and probably best not to toy with it, in my case.
  13. 1 point
    I did pretty good, very proud of myself. I focus on turkey & gravy with some amazing green beans my MIL made. They were made with a ham shank, so there was more fat than I would normally eat, but they were incredible...worth every bite. Then a couple bites of mashed potatoes & stuffing. My kids LOVE Pillsbury crescent rolls, so I made them. I had one bite of one as my daughter begged for mine roll after she woofed hers down. I gave it to her and didn't even miss it - what a HUGE thing for me, as I was/am a carb addict. I also was asked by my brother in law to make my pecan pie, and I did....only ate a couple bites and then I was satisfied. I managed to stay approx 820 calories, 65g protein (which is huge for me), and went over slightly on my carbs. So all and all a good day! Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving! I definitely have a lot to be thankful ..... especially all of you!
  14. 1 point
    @Readytobeme You'll do fine. You're talking about these so it's not like you are hiding them. It's normal to be a basket case when you have siblings or parents in those circumstances. Anyone who is not a basket case is either unfeeling, or exists on an emotional plane that I can only dream of. Sure the shrink will bring them up. Am sure you have thought of the plan for when you are next very stressed and faced with the fast food dilemma. Good luck with this all!
  15. 1 point
    Chefman77

    Stressed!

    @Cynrey so sorry your friend is having so many problems. I will pray for her full recovery. You have been given some great advice and seem to have a good game plan moving forward. Keep us posted.
  16. 1 point
    CJireh

    10 weeks tomorrow!

    Ok, @Kio, we've waited long enough.....post a picture of your cute new 'do already .
  17. 1 point
    Hi @Lauraw96 As @TammyP notes everyone has different experiences and there is no benefit to trying to be superhero. I took my pain meds around the clock even when the discomfort had lightened a bit... only backed off from them around day 3 or 4. Like the others I now find warm drinks easier, but with a swollen stomach right after a sleeve maybe a cold drink will be better tolerated. No reason not to experiment and see what agrees with you best. I still have a (cold) protein shake with a cup of frozen blueberries blended into it most mornings. 2 oz every every 15 minutes = 8 ounces / hour x 12 hours = 96 ounces. If you can manage this you are doing very well indeed.
  18. 1 point
    Res Ipsa

    Before and After

    Somehow I missed this post - sorry. Your weight transformation is both amazing and inspirational!!
  19. 1 point
    Res Ipsa

    I DID IT !!! :)

    It is great news that everything seems to have gone well. The pain should get better in a few days. Welcome to the losers bench!
  20. 1 point
    cinwa

    I DID IT !!! :)

    Welcome to the losers bench Laura!
  21. 1 point
    Ditto what Gretta said about warm drinks. I'm over 10 years out and even now, warm drinks go down way better than cold ones. Try Celestial Seasonings - they have a good selection of fruity and herbal teas.
  22. 1 point
    Thanks, everyone. I really don't have any mental health issues except a bit of anxiety (by some absolute miracle) but, when my sister was in the hospital and then moved over to hospice, I had to tell the people in my office because I cancelled my classes during that time. Then, my mom had a stroke 12 days after my sister passed away. I had to not only cancel classes but also my psych eval again. I was a basket case and no way could I have passed any type of psych eval. After my moms stroke, the nurse from my surgeons office called me and recommended putting WLS off. I told her no. I said that I am determined to go through with it especially after having family members with recent health issues. So, I know that the shrink is already aware of these things. Plus, I lived at the hospital/hospice for 3 weeks with my sister and still frequently going to the nursing home my mom is in for rehab. So, I managed to put 7 pounds on in the past 2 months just from having no choice but to grab and eat fast food though all of this. I did manage to get the minimum required classes in during all of this. I told the RN and the CNA not to ask me any questions when I came to class because it was all that I could do to maintain composure at that point. They obliged and didn't even say a word when they saw that I had not met my goals and had gained weight. I quietly slipped in and out of the classes. There is no doubt in my mind that the shrink will bring these things up at my eval. Hopefully it will still go well though. Thanks again for the input everyone.
  23. 1 point
    Jen581791

    I DID IT !!! :)

    Congrats and welcome to the bench!
  24. 1 point
    Gretta

    I DID IT !!! :)

    You did it! Happy healing! So glad you updated us! Gentle hugs.
  25. 1 point
    TammyP

    I DID IT !!! :)

    Happy to hear everything went great!!! Hopefully the meds help with the pain. Get as much rest as possible. Glad you checked in!
  26. 1 point
    Gretta

    25% off online at GNC today

    With code GOBBLE25 Good place to get Celebrate Calcium Citrate Chews.
  27. 1 point
    Jen581791

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Enjoy your day with family/friends, and enjoy your meal with moderation in all things
  28. 1 point
    Kio

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Uh-oh - according to that plate, I think I overate! Index fingernail included for reference. Happy Thanksgiving, everybody!
  29. 1 point
    Dragonfly111

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! Today I'm thankful for having the courage to admit that I couldn't do it on my own and needed the surgery AND to put myself first as I learn to use my new tool to the best of its ability; I'm also thankful for all of the advice I've received from so many of you on this site and your enduring kindness and generosity. You are invaluable. I hope I can reciprocate in due course. @BurgundyBoy, those loaves are GORGEOUS!
  30. 1 point
    Trish1967

    Happy turkey day!

    Just wanted to wish you all a very happy thanksgiving. I’m very thankful for all of your help, support and friendship over the past year, and to let you all know I’d never have been able to get this far without you guys! Enjoy your day tomorrow, everyone!
  31. 1 point
    cinwa

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    It does look good .... wonder if we could persuade BurgundyBoy to post the recipe.
  32. 1 point
    Gin820

    Almost there....

    Hi all, It's been a minute since I've been on here. I am approved for surgery and started my 2 week pre-op semi-liquid diet (one solid meal a day with 2 protein shakes and clears throughout the day). I see the surgeon to schedule my date on 11/28. Surgery will be a few days after. Decided on VSG. Very excited and I do not care about the holiday eating extravaganza I will be "missing." It is fine with me.
  33. 1 point
    AustinJ

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    I'm thankful for everyone here at Thinner Times and all the help a guidance I have received here.
  34. 1 point
    Gretta

    Happy turkey day!

    30 pounds, @Res Ipsa?! Wow!!!! Happy Thanksgiving! You all are the best, and I'm so grateful for you!
  35. 1 point
    Gretta

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    You all are the secret to my success, so of course I am so very thankful for you! Happy Thanksgiving!
  36. 1 point
    Res Ipsa

    Song of the day Post -

    RIP David Cassidy. So the song is: I Think I Love You - by the Partridge Family (with David Cassidy on lead vocals). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJYSu2OVCGM&feature=youtu.be
  37. 1 point
    Res Ipsa

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    I also want to wish everyone a wonderful Thanksgiving full of special times with family and/or friends. We all have a lot to be thankful for. By the way, my Thanksgiving dinner plate will look a lot more full than the one posted by @Jen581791
  38. 1 point
    BurgundyBoy

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

    @Jen581791 Great thread for the day! Here is what I baked this morning. My son has already inhaled 1/3 of the one on the left... My Tartine-style sourdough bread. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone celebrating it, and let me be amongst the first to say I give thanks every time I gain yet more insight from this forum, and give thanks for the changes I have been blessed with since my surgery.
  39. 1 point
    Woohoo, not a stuffing fan! I win! ... uh, except I'm a mashed potatoes and gravy fan, and definitely a dinner roll fan.... *gulp* My big plan is: 1) have three bites of turkey 2) have one bite of everything else 2) regret my life choices
  40. 1 point
    Oh boy, I wish I had words of wisdom... Since this is my first thanksgiving post WLS, I personally don't think I can try any of the carb-y stuff. Not to say that it's a bad thing, by any means, to have a small portion. But I'm not strong enough yet to take one bite and walk away. I love carbs too much. Much like @Jen581791 saying she was losing stuffing weight, for me it was pizza, potatoes and couscous, lol. My personal strategy is to figure out what I'm having ahead of time, which I already have, and not put anything else on my plate. I absolutely love turnip...and even though it's carb-ier than other veggies (veggie? Root? Idk, lol) I'm going to have some of that. I love it, but I can control my intake of it. That and turkey Now I can't say for sure that I won't "over butter" that turnip however...we all have our weaknesses!
  41. 1 point
    Congrats to all the November bench members! I absolutely identify with all the "seasonal" excuses for not eating healthy - I think we all had those! My surgery was on Valentine's Day, and it seriously crossed my mind that I wouldn't be able to eat chocolates so maybe it wasn't a great day to schedule it... I'm not even sure if my husband has ever given me chocolates for Valentine's Day! But an excuse is an excuse, and doesn't need to be rational in any way, shape, or form. WLS during November, rather than waiting for January, or whatever month doesn't mean "food related holiday" for you just means you'll get to enjoy your new thinner, healthier life starting two months earlier
  42. 1 point
    Thanks, girlfriends! I love how everyone has always made me feel welcomed (like you two, @Trish1967 and @cinwa as well as others) and I just want everyone to feel that way and feel the positive side of what they are going through....as obese people, we have had enough negativity about our weight, so for once, let's have fun and be excited about doing something that WILL WORK !!! oh and here is me as a cheerleader...cheering despite looking down and seeing a bigger than I want belly showing!! haha! (As a disclaimer, it isn't really me, if it were me at that age...it would be in black and white....lol!) but I looked up fat cheerleader and this was one of the pics and I thought she was so darned cute looking down at her belly!)
  43. 1 point
    Stephtay

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I realized today I am more excited about going for a hike in the morning and later playing games (board, card and bocce ball) on Thanksgiving than I am about the food. We are spending a couple of days with three other couples and when the spreadsheet with the menu and what to bring went out to the group I was a little bummed. I want the focus to be on the activities and not the food!
  44. 1 point
    bellamoma

    Muscle Mass

    jen gives perfect advice. i agree 100%!
  45. 1 point
    Jen581791

    Muscle Mass

    Hi @Beegoe. First of all, let me say: good for you for prioritizing exercise! That's apparently a really important help in long term maintenance. The received wisdom, I believe, tells us that while losing, it's pretty hard to gain muscle. Gaining muscle requires higher calorie intake that we're capable of in the beginning, and when our bodies are having a hard time just functioning, they don't prioritize muscle growth. From what I read, it looks like maintaining muscle mass while losing the fat that's surrounding it is the best place to start. Definitely upping your protein intake should help with that, as well as the weightlifting you are planning on. Actually, we all have quite a bit more muscle under there than we'd normally think, just because we had to move our heavier bodies around all the time! So maintaining that is a great goal. I'm pretty sure someone with deeper knowledge will step in here and give you some more specifics. I know I definitely lost some muscle mass in the first few months. I had a crazy post freaking out about it after a hiking trip where I thought I was going to die after just climbing over some logs a few times - it exhausted me, like I nearly fell flat on my face, and I was really sore the next day. It got better once my lighter weight matched my decreased muscle mass. People here were very reassuring. Now, I think I'm maintaining muscle mass by doing the exercise I am currently doing. My calories are still pretty low, so I'm not expecting muscle gains until I up my calories (when I reach goal, I suppose).
  46. 1 point
    Jen581791

    Fitness Trackers

    Hi, @AustinJ. I've got a Fitbit Alta HR, which is great for me, but a bit dainty looking for a guy. My husband has the Charge 2, which he likes a lot. It's just large enough to look fine on a man (my husband is 6'4"). They're sophisticated enough for me, but not overly complicated, and also not huge - I don't like how a big watch looks on my wrist, and my personal style does not extend to the Sports Watch category. I have a metal band I got from Amazon for 10 bucks that makes it look like a normal watch, not too sportsy. Appropriate for work. It tracks steps, tracks my heart rate, and tracks my sleep (via movement and heart rate). It shows me the date and time. It lets me set up alarms. It syncs with my My Fitness Pal. It has a food tracking area in the app, but I really like MFP, so I just keep using that. I have to charge a couple of times per week. Actually, I generally charge it every day while I'm in the shower, and that's enough to keep the battery pretty full. I charge it fully every now and then. The app lets you track your exercise on a map. You can track several types of exercises. You can let it figure out what you're doing itself (not always successful, but pretty good record) or you can tell it what you're doing on the app. Or you can add your workout later manually. It was not very expensive. $130. The Charge 2 is about $150, I think, and in addition to what the Alta does, it tracks stairs climbed and also lets you do some stuff with a button on its side (not super sure what, since it's my husband's, not mine, so I don't use it). The higher range Fitbits do music (to clarify, higher range than Alta and Charge 2 - the big ones). They also are waterproof for tracking swimming, I think. I just wanted small, so I was not tempted by them. I think if I wanted big, I might get an Apple Watch. It's very weird, I find my Fitbit to be very motivating. I'm constantly checking to see if I got my 10,000 steps for the day - there's a little firework show with a rocket blasting off when you hit your goal - and I find ways to work extra walks into my day just to make it happy. It buzzes me every hour if I haven't gotten X steps, so I remember to get up and move around a bit. I got just over 18,000 steps yesterday, and I actually felt like I had made my Fitbit happy or proud of me or something. I promise I am not an idiot: I understand that, as an inanimate object, it does not have feelings. But I still try to make it happy.
  47. 1 point
    BurgundyBoy

    Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    As @Stephtay said, "The general sense around here seems to be if you have a strong marriage going into WLS, it will only get stronger after surgery." and the converse, if your partner belittles you - then having WLS will probably be a threat to him/her (and so maybe that marriage was not for the long term). The good gets better, the bad falls apart. A great little tidbit too from @Stephtay - "...so we decided every night at a specific time we'd set aside a few minutes to talk about my surgery, weight loss, how I was changing, how it was impacting him, etc. It was a safe space where we both could say whatever we needed to say." Your spouse can be supportive but not ENDLESSLY supportive. Putting a limit on how much you talk about yourself and your needs is an important tool. My wife and I have been together > 40 years (35 married) and on a routine night, when we ask each other how the day was, I limit myself to 3 or 4 sentences, then am sure to ask her about her day. Almost no one, unless they are bucking for Saint Status, really really really wants a blow by blow of your every thought or decision during the day. What they really want is for YOU to listen to THEM!
  48. 1 point
    Smashlee83

    Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    Love all of the posts here. This was a big scary thing for me. My husband and I have been together for close to 8 years. We have had a rocky start, but grow a little stronger each year. We're both extremely loud mouthed and hard headed. When I decided to have the surgery I read a lot of statistics in the marriage failure rate. I went home and talked to my husband and told him I was scared about the stability and what this could do to us. I wanted to get it all out on the table. We are currently better than ever. I think if there are big problems on the foundation of your relationship, this is why it fails. My husband has been amazing, supportive and honestly can't keep his hands off of me. For the first time ever, I weigh less than him. He likes to carry me around which is amusing to us both. Just keep talking and expressing concerns and feelings. Work through it and grow (shrink) together.
  49. 1 point
    Res Ipsa

    Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    Weight loss surgery only made my already strong marriage stronger. My spouse respected that it showed that I wanted to be healthy (and thus able to do more things with her) and I loved the way that she supported me and my new diet. If your marriage is based on mutual trust, respect, thoughtfulness and friendship, weight loss surgery should not result in any great strains on your marriage.
  50. 1 point
    Stephtay

    Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    Congratulations on your decision to have WLS! And, congrats on having a strong marriage! The general sense around here seems to be if you have a strong marriage going into WLS, it will only get stronger after surgery. My husband and I had been together 11 years before I had surgery. He had a front row seat to my battles with my weight and the emotional roller coaster I rode as I would gain or lose weight. For me, I had to admit to myself that I was a food addict before I had surgery and started to deal with those demons. It was very hard for me to break my carb addiction. I was an emotional eater - happy, sad, mad, glad - all reasons to eat. When I stopped eating like that I was quicker to anger, quicker to cry and generally far less pleasant to be around. I was in therapy and talked to my therapist extensively about how my surgery and my changes would impact me. We also talked about how it would impact my marriage. One of the things my husband and I would do together was go out and eat a few times a week. This was going to change. I knew he would miss that. And, I would miss it too. At first, all I wanted to talk about was my WLS. I didn't tell many people so I wanted to tell him about every little thing. Plus, we had a couple of fights about it. I think it was the 3rd night after I came home from the hospital - I woke to the smell of cinnamon toast. I hobbled into the kitchen and nearly threatened his life. What smells better than toast with melted butter, sugar and cinnamon?! I exploded and the poor guy had no idea that cinnamon toast would bother me. Once I calmed down I realized this wasn't a good path to be on so we decided every night at a specific time we'd set aside a few minutes to talk about my surgery, weight loss, how I was changing, how it was impacting him, etc. It was a safe space where we both could say whatever we needed to say. If we wanted to talk for more than 5 - 10 minutes we both had to agree to continue the conversation. One of the best parts of this nightly check-in was if I had something I wanted to share or say, I could hold it until that night. Rather than peppering him with a barrage of WLS stuff through out the day. We both had fears. I had all the standards fears about WLS. Would it work? How could I live without Doritos? How would I cope with my crazy mother without ice cream, etc. He had fears too. After a few weeks we stopped having this nightly check-in because we didn't need it anymore. We had a strong relationship before my WLS and it is even better now. In general, I am happier, more laid back, fun-loving and easier going. My body no longer holds me back from the things I want to do. I looked at WLS as hitting the reset button on my life. I want to be out and about doing things I couldn't do when I was big - like riding roller coasters. He loves all the changes. Because you have a strong relationship and you are asking these questions now, I expect you both will do just fine!