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    My NSV is air travel related: I flew on three flights today, and the seats were fine. Not too small. No hips squeezed in. No overflowing into the people next to me. No crossing my arms to try to be smaller. Belt nice and roomy. They're airline seats in coach: not comfortable, don't get me wrong, but they weren't torture. This is a huge victory. I usually fly quite a bit, but had totally given it up last year or so due to my hatred of the discomfort. My travel horizons are open again!
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    Taken about an hour ago. Please excuse my exhausted look. 2am bedtime/4:30am wake up time + overcast, rainy day + slight depression because vacation is over and hubs goes back to work tonight = not so thrilled for photos look. LOL Anyway, here ya go:
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    I've got a big one...well it's big to me anyway. I was surprised with this trip so quickly that I didn't have time to order any clothes from my usual online catalog. I was a little stressed about it, because the stuff I fit into right now isn't very dressy...I'd say it's just a step above comfortable, lol. Well, after more than 10 years of buying stuff online, I broke down and went to an honest to goodness clothing store. I'm still wearing larger clothes, but quite a bit smaller than I was. I had NO idea what size to look for, and I was terrified I would leave there in tears, with nothing to wear. I asked the sales clerk what the largest size was that they carried, and she said 24. So I looked for some things I liked in that size. I actually ended up finding a nice dress. IN A STORE AND NOT ONLINE!! It's been so long that I've worn "off the rack" that I've forgotten what it was like! I felt so out of place, it wasn't funny. Even though it was a size 24, it fit, and I bought it. I cried all the way out to the car (happy tears). My husband actually teared up when I came out of the dressing room. I can't wait for the day when I don't have to shop in the plus size section any longer, but it felt pretty damn good to be able to fit into something I didn't have to order online!!! Below, I'm posting a pic of me on the morning of surgery, and one of me in the new dress. You can't see a huge weight difference, but I'd still like to share. And again, please be kind...I'm missing a lot of hair
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    Its been a while, here are a few pics from vacation, I took, my youngest to Italy for two weeks. My dress on the left is a Michael Kors medium and the one on the right I'm not sure about. We had a blast.
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    She asked me to walk her down the aisle. her dad died when she was four and i've been a single parent ever since. i was a very proud mama.
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    I feel bad for everyone I see who is morbidly obese. Even if they seem happy. Because I know the reality. it is a lonely, sad existence. Nobody in their right mind said one day, "I want to be the fattest person in the room."
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    Yesterday I put on a pair of shorts that were tight on me this time last year they were actually big enough they fell back off my hips. Doing a happy dance.
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    Today I did the Peachtree Road Race. We got there at 5:00 a.m. to volunteer before we ran. My Fitbit says 68 flights of stairs and 11.6 miles (race is 6.2) as of 3:30 this afternoon. I'm tired but don't feel like I need to stay in bed for a week to recover like I usually do. It was a hard run but I actually felt fit during the race!!
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    Surgery done! Let the adventure continue! The pain and nausea have been my constant companion and I'm ready to ditch those b**tches! I was in recovery a bit longer while they tried to manage it but am in my room for the night now.
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    Don't get bogged down with the number on the scales. We don't lose weight at a constant rate and stalls are likely.
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    Two nights ago my trainer had me do some new exercises I've never done before to work my abs, glutes, quads and hamstrings. I was sore yesterday so I knew today would be bad. It's bad. So bad I had trouble walking when I first got up. I used to hate to be this sore after working out. But over the last couple of years, I've decided I actually like it. Yes, it is painful but as long as I keep moving it isn't too bad. I know that it means I am pushing myself, getting stronger and building more muscle. This is a big NSV for me!
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    Whoops... here are the pics! (Didn't know you are such a mistrustful person... bet you thought I was really a slightly more than 30 year old woman who is the EVIL TWIN doppelganger of @Smashlee83, haha haha haha.). (Apologies for the inclusion of biking and fishing gear; and no the reverse B is correct, my son put it up on the inside of the entrance. Left it there to confuse any Evil Spirits looking for Burgundy Boys in metro Boston, turns out they are easily confused).
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    I am home from my second plastic surgery and I can tell already I am going to love having breasts back where they belong. And plump First surgery in March was lower body lift and inner thigh lift. This surgery was upper arm lift and breast lift with implants; he also did lipo in several places and did a revision of inner thighs. I am sore but nothing like the first one. My fiancée took great care of me (surgery was Thursday and we stayed in hotel until my f/u appointment today) both times actually; I'm not sure how I could have done this without him. I was thrilled with my weight loss but I always felt uncomfortable in a swimsuit or in tank tops. I wanted my exterior to reflect how great I feel. So, even though it's a lot of money and I felt mildly guilty spending that much on "vanity" I am so glad I did it. I had a DVT after the first surgery, but no clots this time which is great. Life is good!
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    I had a young man offer to help me fill my tires today. I thanked him warmly and said I was good. 5 months ago, I couldn't have bent over to get the caps off AND I was invisible to most people because of how I carried myself. (Although I don't see how, since I took up 2 chairs everywhere I went.) My Converse fit again! My duck feet are gone, and I have no more pain (the gout, you know) so I can wear heels and tower over people like a good woman should. My wedding ring flew off my hand when I was reaching for something. And I could crawl around to find it. Speaking of crawling, I scrambled under my desk to plug in my phone and righted myself without incident. Previously, I would have been like a turtle on its back, at least for a few moments. I wore a skirt and top to work (first time in 4 years) and I didn't feel like I was in drag. I was confident enough to apply for a scholarship for school and got it! Holy Shikies! My underwear looks like a dirndl skirt and/or comes up over my belly button like Stuart on "Mad TV." Maybe not such a victory, especially for my husband's eyeballs. I believe it's time to go shopping, which I can do without tears now.
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    I not so gently advised one of my best friends to have the surgery. He struggled with daily insulin injections and sleep apnea. He wants a family. He wants to explore the world. But he was 450lbs and was wasting precious time. He drug his feet. He had the money and the time off but just kept stalling. One day I lost it. I told him that he was never going to have the life he wanted if he didn't get off his @*# and do something. I know this seems harsh. But sometimes you have to fight fiercely for those you love, even if you are fighting them. He had the surgery 6 weeks ago and is down 70lbs so far. He bought a plane ticket to go on vacation with me and my family this fall
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    I finally got an answer from my insurance company. They approved my revision surgery. Just waiting on the scheduler to call me back with my date. It feels like a thousand pound weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I am one step closer to hopefully being completely healthy again. Eek just had to share the good news.
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    Been in a long stall but still fit in a 14 pants and a 2x shirt from Maurice's! Stalling is better than gaining.
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    My husband and I took our grandson for a walk yesterday, on a local bike trail. My poor husband...he had Harper in a backpack carrier, and me in my wheelchair. I had the full intention of pushing the chair and walking as much as I could, then when I needed to rest, have hubby push me. Well, much to my surprise, I ended up walking about the length of my driveway, up and back, about 12 times!! The last time I walked the driveway, I was only able to do about 4. I am finding out how weak my muscles are. But hopefully I can slowly change that!
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    One thing that I have found helps me is to have an acceptable range. When I see the numbers start to creep up, there's an endpoint that means I have to go back to the very strict protein/veggies routine that I was on while actively losing. I don't relax that until I am back down in a safe part of the acceptable range. That range for me is 5 pounds...I don't want to let it get very far away from me or before you know it you're 20 pounds up, then 50. Well, you know that saga I'm sure; we've all been there. I had really hoped that my food issues would magically go away after WLS, and during the honeymoon phase it felt like they had. Wrong. Guess what, they operated on our stomachs, not our stupid heads which is where all those issues reside! I've gotten so much better at figuring out what is physical hunger and what is my stupid head yelling at me to EAT ALREADY!!! I deal with that by keeping busy with non-food related stuff. Stressed? Go for a walk. Depressed? Call a friend you haven't talked to in a long time; after all it's rude to talk with your mouth full lol. It is easier for me as an empty nester, I can avoid having trigger foods in the house at all. Oreos and Snickers are banished from my home forever. When my kids are home to visit they complain I have no food in the house. Apparently cheese, greek yogurt, fruits and veggies are not food lol. I have decided that from now on I am in charge of the food, the food is not in charge of me. So there You can do this!
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    I felt beautiful on my wedding day. I think I am coming up on 3 years since my surgery in December... strange how I can't remember the exact date anymore.
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    Today marks 4 months. I am down 57lbs and 33 inches. I am over 1/2 way to goal. Things have slowed significantly. I have to fight for every pound, but this has been the greatest experience. Thank you guys for all of your support you've shown me!
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    Dear Lurker, I've been catching up on newbie posts and blogs and I think something needs to be said.... Sweet friends, there are nay-Sayers wherever you look. Any time you unveil your interest in WLS, your friends and family will begin to serve you the most appalling statistics and worse, the most ridiculous anecdotal "evidence" as to why this surgery won't work for you. Let me give you some of the reasons I was given... 1. "It won't be permanent if you take the easy way out." (Brought to you by darling mother) Let me say with unflinching certainty that WLS is the hardest thing I've ever done. The only "easy" part of it is making a consultation appointment. Every single step feels like a desperate last ditch effort to break a food addiction. This is NOT plastic surgery. This is NOT a vanity procedure. This is a surgery that hands people a tool that they can CHOOSE to use to fight back. Fighting back is NEVER easy. Permanent only happens when we choose every day to fight back. Still sound easy?? 2. "I know a man/woman at work that had the surgery and ended up gaining all of his/her weight back and then some." (Brought to you by every human I've ever met) Yes, let's go there... we've heard of them, some of us may even know them, some of us may even be them....but let's look at success/failure in terms of their CHOICES to fight back every day. We are given rules. Strict rules. Stringent rules. Big, bold black lines that we are forewarned not to cross. When we cross them, we are flirting with our addictions. We are lying down and refusing to fight. And, sometimes our gambles pay off....and most times they don't. It is not the surgery that fails, usually. It is our unique ability to put that tool down and reach for a cupcake or onion rings. Instead of making a change, we sometimes make this surgery a complete trust fall....handing all control to the pouch or sleeve. The truth is: without serious change, we are all savvy enough to outsmart WLS. Read the long-term post op posts---immediately you'll see a correlation between breaking rules and regain. Commit to change. Commit to breaking your food addiction, and embrace the rules....they are your training tools, not your enemy. Rarely do people's surgeries fail if they're using their tools WITHIN the frames of our rules. 3. "But your marriage will fail" (brought to you by both sisters) Shockingly, my surgeon never mentioned that while he was inside my stomach, he plans to flip a magical toggle switch that would kill my commitment to my husband.... Guys, committed relationships are challenged with any change. This is a change that can boost confidence and change people's willingness to even go out of doors. It can sometimes make spouses worry that their dear WLS partner will "go and find someone better." So, let's get down to it...IF the only reason you're with your current spouse is because you lack the opportunity/self esteem to find someone "better," WLS will probably lead to a divorce. Or, if you and your partner haven't developed strategies to communicate about threats and feelings and insecurities....develop them now or forever hold your peace. But, if your marriage is healthy with strong communication skills, this process can be FUN for you to experience together. Yes, FUN!! It's an amplifier for the marriage you already have. Finally, my favorite.... 4. "But it will change who you are." (Entire friend circle and sisters) Let's re-read this one as "but it will change the category into which I've placed you." Here was my reality check. My friends thought of me as their "funny fat friend," the one who they could compare themselves to and think "well, at least I'm not as fat as her."!i was their self-esteem booster on every shopping trip or girl's night out. I was the friend that they could trust being alone with their husbands, because I was so fat I wasn't a threat. My fatness basically stole all applicable gender rules. Their husbands would surely never trade down to be with their chunky pal. My sisters were a bit trickier. I'm the youngest of three daughters. The eldest...so wonderfully beautiful and trim that she's been on commercials for two gyms. The middle sister has always been about 50-60 lbs heavier than me. It took me half a second to realize that MY WLS was about to challenge their definitions of themselves as "the skinny sister" and "the other heavy sister." my middle sister would now look at herself as "the only heavy sister" and my eldest would now fight to be the "skinniest sister." Yes, folks, our circles of influence can be threatened by our boosted confidence and our changing appearance. If you are in the position I was in, I HOPE IT CHANGES WHO YOU ARE. Because one day, you'll wake up and understand that there are people out there that won't stand on your head in order to boost themselves higher. That being said, get ready for an upheaval in your friend/family circle. Just as with romantic relationships, WLS tends to be an amplifier of the relationships you already have. If you are considering WLS, be certain that you're willing to fight back daily, ready to make friends with the rules, and ready to examine and/or shake every single relationship you have to its core. This journey is about YOU. It's about shining a light into all of the darkest recesses in your life and ripping out the cobwebs. It's about change--change with regards to motivation, priorities, self esteem, tolerance, habits, activity level, familial and friendship roles, and yes....weight. So, this so-called "easy way out" ends up to be a complete reconstruction of your world. When you embrace the entire experience, it effectively strips away the bad and strengthens the good. Your life WILL look as different as you will. And, it all starts with your commitment to tune out everyone's voice except yours. Educate yourself, get a consultation, and understand that you DO NOT NEED their approval, ever again. YOU are the only person that you can rely on for WLS success. Figure out what you're honestly willing to examine and fix....if you're ready, you already know it. Just walk through the door with your eyes open, with your own voice being the loudest.
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    It is rude. I don't let people comment on my weight or what I eat. When I was losing, someone I don't like asked me how I lost so much weight so fast. I said, "Meth, but don't tell anyone." and I walked away.
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    Early on my WLS journey, I joined a couple of other online groups including a FB one but couldn't hack the foul language and out-and-out unkindness and spitefulness of a few clicky posters. What use is any platform if a question or comment is going to be met with foul language and out-and-out unkindness or spitefulness! We have clear Guidelines on behaviour which ultimately are nothing more than to show common civility. And after all, how hard is it to hit the "back" button! I'm in my early 60's and one of my earliest memories was going to see Bambi and to this day, I try to live by a quote from the film:
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    My jeans were getting baggy and I went to the store. Picked out a pair in what I thought might be the right size, but when I unfolded them to put them on, I thought, no way. Put them on anyway to see whether I needed to go up a size, but they fit OK! Turned around to check the back view and I kid you not, I said (out loud), WHOSE A$$ IS THAT?? I didn't even recognize my own behind.
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    When I first started dating my husband 8 years ago I was the thinnest I'd ever been in my adult life. I had these little blue shorts that I loved. He hated them as he deemed them too short, but I loved them more for that. I gave them away a long time ago to a family member as there was no way I was getting into them ever again. Guess what I wore on July 4th?!?! She gave them back!
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    The day has come. it is almost 6:00. Need to depart for the Hospital in about 15 min for a 7:45 check in... got to love morning rush hour traffic See you all on the other side! Over the hills and far away... off to find the losers bench!
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    Guatemala was amazing. It's such an incredible country, full of natural beauty and vibrant indigenous culture, and the people are extremely welcoming. It's very poor, and has a tragic history, but there's a lot of joy there nonetheless. After 15 years (my last trip there), some things have changed quite a lot: more tourism, better tourist infrastructure, not so off-the-beaten-path feeling. NSVs of the trip: Sitting on a plane for hours is a lot less awful at my current weight. I didn't feel like I was overflowing onto anyone else and my hips had room. That was fantastic. Being really active was soooooo much easier - from climbing Mayan pyramids to hiking to kayaking (particularly getting in and out of the kayak!) to just plain old walking a lot, I was able to enjoy the trip to its fullest due to my better physical health. I look pretty good in the trip photos! I have avoided being photographed for a while now due to hating how I look, so this is great. Lots of photos, and I look *fine* in them. No cringing. I was able to eat. Not perfectly on plan, but generally enough food, and not much in the way of junk - a couple of french fries here and there, a few tortilla chips. Bars and shakes were necessary to keep the protein up. I ate a lot of eggs and beans and queso fresco and avocado. I'm feeling kind of normal-sized now - I certainly want to lose more weight, but I feel like an overweight person who doesn't stand out instead of like a fat person who people might stare at. This helped me to just feel more relaxed and happy the whole time. I was gone for 17 days and didn't weigh myself for that whole stretch, which of course completely messes up my beautiful beautiful precious spreadsheet. I was gone on my 5 month surgiversary (the 14th) so I don't have a spot-on five month milestone (sad emoji). So, this morning I weighed in at 201.8, which is down 8 pounds from the day I left - not too shabby for a vacation! That puts me sooooooo close to onederland. I was kind of secretly hoping I'd have passed that threshold by the time I got back, but 10 pounds in two weeks is a big ask. That puts my (a little bit more than) month's loss at 15 pounds. That's about how much I've mostly been losing per month, but now that I'm down almost 90 pounds (what????!!!!) it's a lot more, proportionally speaking, so it's more obvious. I've got about 50 pounds to go until my current goal weight - I'll see as I get closer how I feel about it as a final ending point. A little higher? A little lower? Secretly hoping a little lower. Eating was a bit of a pain in the butt. I got really sick of the bars and shakes. Breakfast was easy - the typical breakfast in Guatemala is black beans, eggs, queso fresco, fried plantains, and tortillas (plus maybe avocado). Get rid of the tortillas (I tried them but sadly they kind of gum up my stomach and make it so I don't eat any more) and I'm good. I even ate some of the fried plantains most days - the oil didn't make me dump, and I was needing the calories, since my food intake was pretty low for most of the trip. Lunch or dinner in restaurants every stinking day was a bit more of a slog. I could eat vegetarian most places, since Guatemala is on the hippie backpacker trail, but vegetarian and low-carb are mostly mutually exclusive there, as with most places. I ate a fair number of salads with a bit of cheese and/or egg, I ate the toppings off a slice of pizza a couple of times, I attempted felafel once (the crispy nature of it just DID NOT SETTLE and I was so lucky as to see it again very soon after dinner), and I ate the tuna out of a couple of tuna sandwiches. I had some shrimp and some fish. It was a bit tedious trying to figure out how to work the menus, though. It did make me realize that I can have fun on vacation without being very excited about what I was eating, which is great. I drank alcohol twice: one glass of white wine for my birthday in Antigua, which knocked me for a loop, but it was OK. I also had a sip of "caldo de frutas" (a brandy sort of drink that is bright pink from hibiscus flowers and has fruit chunks marinating in it) in a small town, accompanied by a bite of the fruit. I kind of had to - it was being served to me by the man who made it, and he really wanted me to like it. The bite of fruit had enough alcohol and sugar in it that I feared a dumping episode was on its way It wasn't, I was OK, but it certainly messed up my Spanish noun/adjective agreements for an hour or so (I was having a long conversation with my guide on church architecture and history - he was laughing and correcting me, fun for all). Exercise was hit or miss. Some days I walked a LOT (25,000 steps on my biggest day). Some days I spent a lot of time in various modes of transport. Looking at my Fitbit data, I got at least 10,000 steps almost every day. Pretty good. Mostly the good thing was that I was able to keep up with my much more physically fit friends, even when it was 95 degrees with 90% humidity! I would have died trying to do this vacation 6 months ago. Actually, I just never would have gone We spent several days walking around Mayan sites in the Peten (on the Yucatan Peninsula). We climbed to the top of Temple IV to watch the sun rise one day - gorgeous. We listened to howler monkeys shrieking in the trees and saw toucans and parrots flying overhead in the jungle. We toured around highland villages, watched locals devote themselves to a Mayan/Catholic hybrid local saint (Maximon) by giving him money and making him smoke cigarettes and drink the local firewater. We explored the many villages of Lake Atitlan by boat, observing the language and cultural differences between them, despite their proximity to each other in their unique location under three volcanoes. We stayed in a tiny isolated village with no cars and listened to the dogs bark, children play, turkeys gobble, roosters crow, and watched a massive lightning storm burst to life above the volcanoes across the lake from us. We entered 500 year old churches and saw the ancient saints dressed in Mayan clothing, just like the worshippers. We visited several markets and ate street food at stalls with local farmers, conversing in Spanish, which was a second language to all of us, as they are mostly Mayan speakers. We watched a volcano erupt. We spent many long hours in good conversation. It was a great vacation! Honestly, the simple fact that I went on this vacation at all is an NSV. I kept thinking that the whole time.
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    I retired like 4 huge bags of clothing today! I'm getting ready to make a big move, so paring down to essentials is necessary - I tried on everything. If it didn't fit, out the door to the Goodwill. I was brutal, but my wardrobe will be better for it. Some highlights/lowlights: My lovely fake-fur-trimmed-hood winter coat that I spent forever shopping for and liked so much My North Face down jacket My favorite grayish purple work sweater My nice work linen trousers A whole bunch of things I never really liked because they "made me look fat" lol Pretty sure it was not the fault of the clothes... I also found some stuff in my storage unit that fits now and hasn't fit in years, including some cute "going out" type clothes and a pretty sundress It's so much less emotionally painful to try on clothes that have become too big than those that have become too small. Out with the old! In with the new.
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    I've seen posts lately where people say..."I've ONLY lost (insert number) pounds this week/month". I think I may have done it myself since my weight loss has slowed down a bit. It's really easy to feel this way when our weight loss is slow or we hit a stall. But the next time you think like that, just look at it this way...and I hope it makes you feel better We've got this, you guys!!
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    Vacay pic with my guys and some weird shadows. Size 6 shorts, floral tshirt, size small.
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    Today I have left all the Bariatric groups from my Facebook account. I can't take the way they are always worried about the loss and separation of food. I mean we learned from the first step this was a new way of living and how we would have to change our ways in life to make this work. If I am 4 days out I can assure you I will not be asking if I can have a drink and pizza. I will be the one that will be looking forward to my journey. These people and all the things they were talking about is a sure way of falling back into bad habits. I had to remove my self I can't be around all that BS any longer. I will turn to this forum for support and encouragement from this moment on. I love this place and look forward to sharing the my before and after with you all and my journey.
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    Oh! I have two other NSVs from last week and they are food related. I went to a trendy Mexican restaurant in my insufferably hipster neighborhood. I must have looked at the menu for 30 minutes, stressing over what to eat. I ordered a mahi mahi taco, with no sauce or salsa (it was some sort of creamy salsa). The taco was small and dressed with cabbage and radish. I took my time and did not eat the tortilla. This is a really big deal. I'm Latina and resisting tortillas is not an easy feat. I spent my time chatting with friends and time flew by! A few days later, I went out for sushi with my husband. Again, I had a mini panic but decided on a few sashimi pieces and a bowl of shrimp udon. It was heavenly and I was not tempted to overeat. Huzzah!
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    I eat out all the time without problems. My general advice is simple and means a totally different approach than what most of us did when we ate out prior to surgery. 1. I usually ignore the main dish or entree portion of the menu. The servings are too big, too full of carbs, and will just get you into trouble. Instead, order 1-2 items from the starter and/or the side dish portions of the menu. Thus, at an Italian restaurant I might order a cup of soup to start, followed by a side order of meatballs as my "main dish." At a seafood restaurant I might order a cup of "chowda" (I am from Boston after all ) or another type of soup, followed by the shrimp cocktail as my main dish. By the way, do not worry about not ordering a main dish, in today's world where so many people are fussy eaters, it is far more common than you think. 2. Do not eat bread, rice, or pasta as they will just fill you up. For example, recently I went out to a sandwich place and ordered a pulled pork sandwich. I ate the pulled pork with a fork, and did not touch the bread. 3. Pick the restaurant with some care as some are a lot easier to order at. Check the on line menus and plan what you are going to eat. Be prepared not to finish your food. For example, at many places (including Panera) I will order a Caesar salad with grilled chicken on it. I then eat the chicken first, followed by the little of the salad until I feel full. I love to eat at tapas or other restaurants that specialize in small plates of food. 4. You should accept that may not lose weight during a vacation. You may even gain a pound or too. That is fine. Just order what you can eat and if you gain weight, you can lose it the following week. I find that restaurants put too much salt in their food, so I gain water weight when I eat out on vacation. This water weight falls off quickly if I drink a lot of liquids in the days right after I return home. 5. Do not order desert (it is OK to sneak one (and only one) bite from someone else's desert if you have room.) 6. Be prepared to throw up in the restaurant's bathroom if you eat too much or something that does not agree with you. I have learned the hard way what foods are likely to give me trouble when I go out (and many of them were my favorites before my surgery) and I now avoid them: steak, roast beef, lamb chops, pork chops, hamburgers (but hot dogs, meat loaf and meatballs are great), pasta, pizza, sandwiches, cheap Chinese food (too much fat), French fries, and other deep fried foods. But everyone's list is a bit different. Spicy food does not bother me. 7. Be sure to relax and talk with everyone at the table and just enjoy yourself. Eating out is now mostly about being with people and not about food. 8. Most places (at least in the US) will serve you a glass of iced water with your meal. That should be all the liquids that you need (since you should not be drinking liquids with meals anyway). Do not order another liquid. (I often have a glass of wine with a dinner, but that is not recommended until you have reached your goal weight - of course, never drink and drive and always stay away from sweet drinks like a margarita or a pina colada.) 9. Be prepared to leave food on your plate. When you are full immediately STOP EATING. If you are going to listen to only one thing on this posting, this is the most important advice. 10. Buffets are great if you can exercise self control and pick out small amounts of the right foods for you. Do not use buffets as a way to overeat or.... (see note 6 above). I look forward to eating out, but I focus on my companions at the table and on not eating too much.
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    Immediate post-op period...clear liquids suck but you have to get through it to get to the other side. Sleep in a recliner or (in my case) an adjustable bed. 1/4 cup really will seem like a LOT of food lol. During active weight loss: Protein and water, limit carbs, stay focused on the end result not the day to day struggles. Use the "honeymoon" period when weight loss is relatively easy and hunger is at it's lowest to really maximize your weight loss. This period is the best but is likely not permanent. Also use this time to develop better habits (food and movement) and different coping skills (no more eating our feelings!) That will set you up for success after the honeymoon is over. Long-term...enjoy your new fabulous life
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    I've lost enough weight now that my first thought at the prospect of leaving the house isn't "Must I?" It's "Sounds good." This is HUGE for me.
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    Jen581791

    Flying

    Know what I hate? I freaking hate flying. Everything about it sucks, but it's so much worse if you're fat. I spend a lot of time before each flight worrying about how small the seat will be, about whether the person next to me will be annoyed that I sort of overflow into their space, about whether my hips will be so scrunched into the seat (man, airline seats have gotten smaller in the last couple decades!) that they will be a bit bruised feeling when I get off the flight. I worry about people giving me the side eye when I get into my seat. I stress about how uncomfortable it is to spend 15 hours with my arms crossed so I don't impinge on my neighbors' space. I remember overheard conversations or internet comment sections about fat people flying and how horrible the awful rude fat people are to subject all the other passengers to their horrible awful fatness. I hate flying as a fat person so much that I have not done it in almost two years. Me, a person who usually travels a LOT! Know what I'm doing at the end of this week? Flying. On purpose. To go on vacation. I'm still fat, but I'm a lot less fat, so I know that I will have a less bad time. Flying is horrible, but I will be so happy to fit better in the seat. Not so happy that I will enjoy flying (blerk) but happy enough to do it again. I've done a little shopping to get ready for this trip, and it's been... a mixed bag. On one hand, I can go into the straight sizes part of the store and not worry that nothing will fit me (well, I worry, but stuff fits, even if it looks like it'll be too small). On the other hand, when I get it on, I am faced with the voices in my head that are always very loud in changing rooms. I look *better* than before (oh, so much better!) but I still don't look *good* to myself. The good news is that I feel a little more detached from my appearance than I usually do: I feel like this is how I look today, but I know that next week, next month, next year I will look different. So I feel like I'm judging a work in progress, rather than judging the very essence of who I am, which is an improvement. I've already had to bail out of some plans set up by one of my travel companions. I'm going with my husband and another couple we frequently travel with, and the other couple is, well, much sportier and fitter than we are (particularly than I am). They will be climbing a volcano. I will not. It's an all day sort of deal, like hours and hours of hiking, starting out at like 8500 feet (2500m) in elevation, and I really really know that I do not have that in me right now. It felt sad to have to explain that to my friend, but at the same time, I know that because of my WLS, I will be able to do stuff like that in the future. As of six months ago, my future didn't look like it was headed in an "improving" sort of direction, health-wise, so that's a good thing. I've got two flavors of Syntrax Nectar individual packs and two boxes of protein bars to take with me, so I should be set for protein intake. I'm going to Guatemala, and will have no opportunity to buy that stuff there. I have an idea of what awaits because I've been there a couple of times before: food should be fine, lots of beans and eggs and cheese to be had. I've got my vitamins ready to go. I think with all this WLS stuff, I'm going to have very little room in my luggage for my other stuff! I think it'll be a good trip. I have a ton more energy now than I have in a long while, and I'm able to move around so much more easily in my body. I have a more positive outlook about things, and I don't feel so self-conscious. I'm not going to be able to weigh myself for 16 days. SIXTEEN DAYS Yes, I know how many of you feel about daily weighings, but they are my jam. I also won't be able to log my food every day since I will be without internet at some points. I'll be flying blind for more than two weeks, and that scares the heck out of me. Logically it shouldn't, but I think we left the world of logic behind a few months ago. I'm curious to see whether no scale and limited food logging will feel freeing or frightening. Could go either way. Wish me luck! I'm a little nervous about the flying.
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    I'm taking a bag of clothes to goodwill tomorrow - lots of sweatpants and jeans I can't wear anymore without dangerous wardrobe malfunctions. When I find something comfy I don't just by 1 - I by a BUNCH. So when I leave a size behind, it leaves quite a hole in my closet. I guess from now on I should practice the "only one of everything" approach!
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    My NSV is that I can wrap a towel around me and nothing is showing and I can cross my legs like a lady super excited. The small things make all the difference
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    Out showing homes today! Coral top sz xs, capris sz 6
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    Hi there! So, I have lost around 130lbs total. I have saggy skin, does it bother me? Not really, my arms, well I feel like Homer Simpson from the Xfiles episode with the "Watch it jiggle", but everything else is just fine. However, I do wear a body shaper every day, and have since my first month home. I wear this one - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01H6DGBZG/ As for hiking etc.. I usually do a 6-10 mile hike once a week. I try to swim and bike, and run. I also walk a heck of a lot, and my skin doesn't bother me one bit. I am quite active and I enjoy it. I don't get tired anymore, my body doesn't hurt anymore, I can run up and down stairs with no issues. I can climb up boulders, and actually go jogging without pain. It is now hard for my 6 year old to keep up with me. I am enjoying the freedom that I have now that I no longer have all of this extra weight to lug around. As for looking thin in clothes well, Yeah, I think I can pull that off. But yes, I do have sagging skin, here is my tummy, just now, 5 minutes ago, without my shaper - Eventually I'll tone it down I hope. But I also was overweight for almost 18 years, and have had three kids. It really, to be honest, doesn't bother me. I would have my surgery done again in a heartbeat, it beats being overweight any day of the week. As for does saggy skin make you look older, I don't think so, I am 35, and people don't believe my age when I tell them that. Here is a comparison shot of my face before and after the weight came off : To be honest I think I look much younger. I feel beautiful, saggy skin and all, and I enjoy showing off my body now. But a lot of that I think has to do with genetics, and age, and that's a gambit. I never lost weight after my first child. I just was rather stuck in this weight for the past decade. So I didn't have bouts of being thin and large, I was just .. fat. This is the first time I've ever seen my adult body thin and again I am thrilled.
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    I have actually come to think of the TT Forum as what an AA meeting must be like. Ensuring that I check in at least 1x every 1-2 days keeps me on track and gives me the support I need to be informed, make the right decisions, handle any struggles of a new sleeve, etc. It helps to read the successes and challenges from such a wide variety of members.
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    Got another one! I had an appointment today with the pulmonologist, since my sleep apnea diagnosis was a year ago. She asked all kinds of questions related to the surgery and typed my current weight into the computer. A popup appeared with the message, "This patient's last recorded weight was xxx. Are you sure you want to go ahead with the weight you just entered?" The difference in my weight was enough to trigger a warning message! Lol
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    It is very easy to revert back to old habits. What one day is considered a special treat can easily become something you regularly eat or drink. I remind myself every day, what I eat today I will crave tomorrow. So, if I choose to eat something today, I have to be prepared to resists the cravings for it tomorrow. I also regularly remind myself that my body is simply different. I estimate I need about 500 calories less per day than another woman my age who is the same height, weight, level of activity, fat%, muscle%, etc. I still have issues with food and I know I always will. Accepting that has made this process much easier for me. For years I would beat myself up over it. My mother and my 6 year old nephew are coming for a visit later this month. I told my mother, we don't keep much food in the house and to send me a list of what they want. She said, I'm sure you have plenty for us to eat and snack on. (hahahahhahaha!) So, I told her we don't have things like: cereal, chips, bread, crackers, cookies or any kind of sweets. No soda. Our peanut butter is the natural kind. The only yogurt we buy is Fage with no added sugar. No pasta or rice. The only kind of fruit I buy is berries and the occasional banana. The list went on and on. I told her to send me a list of what they want and I will buy it. It won't bother me to have whatever foods they want in the house for a few days but whatever isn't eaten by the time they leave will either go with them or in the trash. She said she will send me a list. I do occasionally eat sweets - candy, ice cream, cake, etc. And chips, I will have chips from time to time too. I would guess in a year I probably eat about a loaf of bread. But the rest of those carbs, I don't eat them and I really don't miss them.
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    Educating yourself beforehand is invaluable! -Bring a long charging cord and cute PJs to the hospital. -Take PAIN medication for the surgical gas pain, & don't get behind on it. -Weigh infrequently. -Don't compare yourself to others. -Get a Camelbak Eddy water bottle (I prefer the insulated ones). -Buy a bunch of measuring cups & a digital food scale. -Don't buy a bunch of protein supplements until you know what your tastebuds like AFTER surgery. -Don't be shy about calling your surgeon to ask questions. -Come here often. Best wishes!
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    I had my RNY procedure three months ago today! The surgery feels like it happened a million years ago and just yesterday. It's been tough and lately I have dealt with very strong cravings that I have had to stamp out. I try to take the recovery mantra "one day at a time" to heart as some days are easy and some days are pure insanity. I'm thankful that I didn't let my insurance company deter me from perusing other ways of having surgery. I am loving life at 45 pounds lighter!
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    Thanks @Gretta, @BurgundyBoy and @tracyringo! I'm feeling great and have been out walking and/or sitting at the beach. Once I was finally discharged yesterday, I came out of the hospital to find I had a flat tire. Le sigh So I patiently waited in my drug-induced haze for AAA to arrive and help a girl out. The AAA gods were with me and a guy came and put on the spare so we could be on our way in less than 30 min. Which, if you have ever used AAA, is an absolute record for them. Today I managed to get in 80 g of protein and 30 oz water. Heck yeah doing this protein thing like a boss!
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    As usual, Stephtay is giving very wise advice. I also note that my post-op weight loss history followed a similar and successful path, even though she and I had different forms of weight loss surgery and are of different genders, Some doctors seem to say or imply that it is almost impossible after weight loss surgery for a person to reach his or her ideal weight and then maintain at that weight. In my opinion, this is (with all due respect to the medical profession) wrong. Stephtay and I (as well as many other long term members of this forum) are living proof of this. I truly believe that every person has the power with weight loss surgery to reach, and then maintain long term at, our ideal or goal weight as long as the person follows the normal post-op diet of lean protein, lots of liquids (except during meals), low carb, low calories, taking vitamins etc. More specifically, my weight loss history is simple. I began at 304 pounds. In the two months prior to my surgery I lost 20 pounds to be at 284 pounds. After my RNY gastric bypass surgery in November 2013, my monthly weight loss rates were as follows: 1. 23 pounds 2. 16 pounds 3. 16 pounds 4. 12 pounds 5. 18 pounds 6. 7 pounds 7. 7 pounds 8. 2 pounds 9. 0 pounds 10. 4 pounds 11. 2 pounds - at which point (in mid-October 2014) I reached 177 pounds. This is just below my goal weight of 185, so I have gained a few pounds and am around 181 pounds most days (except after a really nice vacation ). See the attached Fitbit chart. if I can do it, anyone do it. Do not believe the naysayers, do not believe that because you have failed on prior diets you cannot do it, and most of all do not underestimate how wonderful it is to stick to the diet plan to make yourself healthy, thin and active.