7 months post op and over eating again? - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

minky · 10-05-2008, 01:21 PM

Hello everyone, I am from England and had the op in March. At my heaviest I weighed in at 268lb. Just before the op I weighed 263lb. I decided to have the op because I was basically getting heavier and heavier. I had a 2 1/2 year old and a five month old baby and my weight was stopping me enjoying their babyhood. My husband had seen how unhappy I was. When we first met I was a size 12 and at the end I was more like a size 26. My husband had gained weight during our 12 years together but nowhere near my amount of weight. He had managed to lose 4 1/2 stone through diet and excercise and had watched me try and fail every diet under the sun. Finally I broached the subject of having the op. I wasnt very hopeful as we arn't rich and I would have to pay £11000 for the op. My Husband made all of my dreams come true by agreeing. He said that he loved me whatever weight I was but that he knew that I was unhappy and we managed to juggle our finances and raise the cash. I decided not to tell anyone about the op. I am the youngest (and only one with a weight problem!) of six children and I new that my family would be in up roar about me having the op. I did have very supportive friends that I could have told but I decided that since I was so rubbish at lying it would be easier not to tell a sole. The day of the op was a bit lonely. i was on my own in the hospital and I could tell all the staff felt sorry for me! I kept getting asked why I didnt have any visitors. When I told them I had kept it a secret they all decided to be my adopted family and came to visit me when they were on there breaks etc! I missed my kids dreadfully and remember waking up in intensive care and the nurse asking if they could call anyone to let them know i was ok. I couldent even get them to phone my husband as we had the mother in law staying over and I was afraid she would guess something was wrong. Anyhow I am 7 months post op and have lost 71lb. I am a really worried as my weight loss has really slowed down. I have only lost 1lb in the last month. I dont seem to control my portions at all. I am eating quiet large meals? I feel soooo guilty every time my husband looks at my plate. He has never said anything but he must be thinking how greedy I am. I have had a major op and I am still over eating. The only contact I have with the hospital since I left is a nutricionist who calls once a month. I have found myself telling lies to her. I tell her I am eating healthy and small portions but the reality is I am not. I feel such a failure I have been given a chance that not many people can afford and I am throwing it away. I am really ashamed. Has anyone else found that they are still eating big meals or is it just me being a greedy pig?

GrandmaRose · 10-05-2008, 01:33 PM

Oh, you poor thing! I know just how you feel. Here is a way you can start over:

Measure your food. You may not be eating as much as you think you are. NEVER eat more than 1 cup total at one meal. Actually, a "normal" human only needs 1-1/2 cups at a meal. But we are trying to lose weight.

Drink lots of water. Then read the 5-day pouch test rules and use them. They are posted in this forum somewhere, or you can "google" them on the internet.

Now, here's my very best advice: Journal every bite that goes into your mouth. I have four columns: food (what it is) calories, net carbs, protein grams. For example, I eat Fage yogurt with 1/4 pkg SF pudding mix and milk in it. That's Fage pud - 150 - 9 - 20. (breakfast) If I even grab some grapes or something, I log them on. That way, I know where I am and I stay accountable.

By supper time, if I am over 1000 calories or 40 carbs, I just drink a protein shake. then I snack on SF popcycles later in the evening, because I have used up my allowance for the day.

The beauty of this is: EVERY DAY I CAN START OVER. If I "blew it" the day before, I have another chance today.

Best to you. Struggle on. It's worth it.

GrandmaRose

Lap RNY 05/08/08
68 pounds down and stalled.

minky · 10-05-2008, 01:48 PM

Thanks for the advice. I really should log what I am eating. I have read other peoples experiences on this site and they dont seem to relate to me. i do get the full feeling but not so full that i feel sick. I never get "dumping syndrome" and that some days I can only eat small amounts and that other days I am eating large amounts. I feel full but not sick and that I go from feeling full to feeling hungry straight away? It must be psycological but it makes you wonder what kind of mind I have that I keep sabotaging myself! Well done to you by the way for all that you have achieved!

DianaL · 10-05-2008, 02:15 PM

I have not had my surgery yet but waiting for it with so much excitement. What I will advise you is what I have been told over and over; the surgery is only a tool, it is YOU who has to decide to make the right choices otherwise you WILL end up back to where you were. If you can write down when you eat and why. Try to figure out why you are eating more than you feel you are. Sometimes it takes us reading what has happened before we actually see it.

Godsblessedme · 10-05-2008, 11:35 PM

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Has anyone else found that they are still eating big meals or is it just me being a greedy pig?

admittedly i find myself eating alot (or i think so) and you've done well i'm almost 10 months and only lost 71 pounds. Keep it up are you excersizing

rachalrg · 10-06-2008, 01:09 AM

Hi Minky,

Gramda Rose, Diana and Deborah all had the right suggestions in my opinion. Are you seeing a therapist to help you with your eating disorder? The only way to truly help yourself is to 1) get back to the basics, 2) be completely honest with your nutritionist, and 3) see if you can't start seeing a therapist for your eating/emotional disorder.
I've been seeing a therapist for mine and he suggested I order a workbook online from amazon.com. It's called The Appetite Awareness Workbook by Linda Craighead...here's the link...
Amazon.com: The Appetite Awareness Workbook: How to Listen to Your Body And Overcome Bingeing, Overeating, & Obsession With Food: Linda W. Craighead: Books
I haven't gotten mine yet, it should be here, God willing, on tuesday for my Wednesday appointment so I can get started.

Good luck to you and stay positive, start moving your booty, drink lots of water (not within 30 minutes after eating..it flushes it right out of your pouch), vent your frustrations to your hubby or here on a thread or in the blog here as well. Get it out and don't stuff it down with food.
Take care of yourself, you have babies that need you to.

splendifor · 10-06-2008, 01:40 AM

I don't know if anyone else has experienced this but there have been a few days that I found myself eating more than I would like so I cut back and I found that my stomach responded and I don't need as much to get full when I do that.. I kinda think (uneducated just based on my own experience) that the stomach is still fundamentally a stomach and when we eat less, it "shrinks" some?? or gets re-sensitized..? I know I can tell a difference when I do that...

anyone else?