[Marlen901]

I'm new to this whole forum deal, never actually been on any type of forum before. But my sister-in-law suggested I get involved and talk to people who are going through, or have gone through what I am.

Well, here goes...my name is Marlen, I am 25 years old, from Windsor, Ontario (Canada). I am 5'3 and weigh in at about 220 lbs, which for most isn't that much. But for me...this is a HUGE issue. I have had weight issues since I could remember. I have tried gyms, diets, diet pills (over the counter) and prescription drugs. NOTHING HAS EVER WORKED!!! I will lose a little and gain two times the amount back. I can't seem to get under 215 lbs. After so many years of seeing specialists, and different doctors, I have finally decided to take my doctors advice and go for the Gastric Bypass Surgery. Because of my weight, I have major problems with my legs, knees, ankles and back. I have a smaller upper body frame and a massive lower body. This is my last resort and I would just like for once to be like my friends, and walk into a store at the mall and not have to ask "Hi, umm...what's the biggest size you carry?" I'm currently wearing a size 18...and for me, this is not fun...when you have your friends around you and they are all wearing the latest fashion and you can't...it sucks! I am 25, and I want to fit in with the times. I want to wear a beautiful dress and not have to worry about wearing something underneath to SUCK ME IN in all the right places. I want to be able to go swimming and wear an actual bathing suit. NOT jogging pants and a t-shirt because I am so embarrassed that someone will see me and point out all the flaws I know I have. I'm not doing this for everyone else out there...I'm doing it for myself. I would LOVE to wake up one day and look in the mirror and be pleased with the way I look. Right now, that's not the case. I've been approved to have the surgery, which to me is like a dream come true. I am so excited, and nervous all at once. I don't know what to expect, but I am really glad that there is a place like this that I can actually talk to people about how I feel and get some feedback.

If you have any advice...I'm always willing to take it!

Sincerely, Marlen901

[Haveaball]

Welcome, I feel your pain. Good luck as you begin this new journey and again welcome!

[Squishy]

You just described most of us here. You definitely found a group that can relate to your situation and will provide you with a lot of support. As for advice... I am a recent post-op, but the advice that I received that helped me the most was simply to research as much as possible. The more you know about this, the smoother this process will be.

Best wishes!!!
-Mike-

[LyndasRoom]

Hi Marlen~
You are so lucky to have made this decision at a young age. BEFORE you gain another 100, or so. Isn't it ironic how you work so hard to lose those pounds, then they just come back and bring friends along to make life miserable! Congratulations on being approved..

[Marlen901]

I'm Researching Everything!!! That's How I Ended Up Here...thanks "google" Haha

[RNY4me]

I too had never joined any online forum or board before this one. But I am sooo glad I found this place and I hope you will feel the same.

There all folks from all walks of life and in every stage of their weight loss journey here. Whatever your issue, question or concern - someone here will have experience and can share that experience with you. Everyone is so willing to help each other.

We are glad you are here! Read posts and jump in when you want, you too have things to share. We look forward to sharing your journey with you.

[LisaBoston]

This is a great place for info to learn about life after surgery. Any idea of when it might happen.

You didn't say which procedure you are having?

Welcome.

[CeeCee]

Believe me darlin', a 5'2" frame is too short to carry much extra weight- and I had 100 more than you! Tell us a bit more- how far along in the process are you? There's oodles of good info here- do your homework and it will all be less scary for you. That, plus you'll go into your appointments with all the right questions!
Good luck! This is the ride of a lifetime!

[Corrine]

This is a wonderful place Marlen - I've spent hours pouring over the threads here. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone.

I still haven't made my mind up about surgery but I'm going through the classes and support groups to get as much information as I can.

You're in the right place.

[Marlen901]

Oh my God, everyone here has been such a wonderful help. I swear, the support I am getting from this forum is very comforting. Especially because none of my family or friends really and truely understand how I feel. To answer a few questions so far...I am starting my pre-surgical class tomorrow (Monday) and can't wait!!! It's an 8 week schedule, but they are fast tracking me and I will complete it in 5 weeks. I don't know exactly when my surgery (GBS) will be, but I know that it will be sooner than later. I have to let Sally (the co-ordinator at Henry Ford Bi-County) know which doctor I have decided on by tomorrow and then that's it. The ball will be rolling...She said I would probably have my consultation sometime the following week. I am so excited! I just can't wait any longer. I'm trying to get my body used to it from now, the eatting less...the taking small sips...it's gonna be a long road. Who ever said that weight loss surgery is the easy way out was completely WRONG! You have to work harder at this then to do it at the gym or dieting. This is going to be a long road...but I am willing to take it! And with all the support I am getting here already, I know that I will be okay when the journey truely begins. Thank you so much!! I feel like all of you are my extended family...you are not judging me...you are just here to support me and help me get through this time in my life!

I appreciate all of you!