lovemybestfriend

Hi There- My best friend is 36 and is going to have gastric bypass surgery the day after tomorrow. I'm going to be there 24/7. I'm lucky enough to own my own business and gave myself the time off. To get to the point, what I'm looking for is advice. Having been through it yourself, what is the best way for me to support her?

ajmoe

I can understand the feeling that you won the lottery and someone will call tomorrow and say that the numbers were wrong. I still have trouble believing that I can actually become a "normal" weight. I watch the numbers go down but it is slow and I feel like I am waiting for the numbers to start going back up. I weigh myself weekly and sometimes in between. My clothes are getting bigger and I try to rely on that for the most part bu I need to see the number to really believe it.
I had a strange realization the other day. I have known my husband for about 20 years. Since we were in Junior High. And I have always been heavier than him. I realized the other day that I may actually weigh less than him someday. It was very strange. I never thought about it and it is exciting. I realized before that I could possibly fit into his sweatshirts and stuff but never realized I would weigh less than him. It really was a great thought for me. Maybe a little strange.

I am sorry about your little girl. I am glad that your two babies are doing well.

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Angie
265/257/185/140
highest/before surgery/current/goal
Lap RNY 12/12/06
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Searching for BMI of Overweight not obese.

ajmoe

Be there for your friend. For me personally it would have been nice to have someone help me make my meals. Most of the time in the beginning you are eating the same foods over and over again and it can be very dragging to make them when you are not sure you want to eat them. So it would be nice to help get food ready.
Just listen. There are going to be plenty of times when your friend probably won't feel rationale. She/he may not feel like eating but be upset that she/he can not just eat anything, even things she/he does not want to eat. This surgery is a big mind game for many people so just listen.
Take walks with her/him. Help her/him get out and walk. I had my best friend here about 2 weeks after the surgery and we walked a lot. I could not go fast and it was good just to have someone there to talk and walk with.

You are a great friend. Stick by her/his side and that is really the best thing you can do for her/him.

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Angie
265/257/185/140
highest/before surgery/current/goal
Lap RNY 12/12/06
Made it onderland
Searching for BMI of Overweight not obese.