WLS SPOUSES

Good luck, hopefully everything is going to work out for you guys. He really needs to give the surgery some serious thought. His health should be very important to him. Nobody can decide for him, he's got to want to do this for himself. Hang in there!

On Thursday, I took my hubby to the ER with chest pain, and again on Sunday. At 27!!! It scared him back into getting ready for surgery. He's seen how successful I've been able to be, and even before my surgery, and he's excited to be able to do the same. I just worry about his ability to change his eating habits. We'll see how it goes...

Hmm...sounds kinda like my hubby pre-op. My husband won't admit it but he was a big binge eater. The surgery was his idea too. I didn't want to have it and was too scared because I didn't know anything about it but the horror stories. So anyway, I had surgery 4 months before him. Fortunately, I wasn't required to lose weight, just not gain, before surgery but he kept his regular eating habits. I really thought the surgery was going to be hard on him but he's done really well! I think your hubby will be very motivated once he sees how the weight will be coming off you & how great you're going to start feeling. You definitely will need his support...perhaps he's just scared of losing the next best thing, besides you, FOOD. Just my thoughts. Good luck to ya!

My hubby and I are going through this journey together and he's having a rough time. He's 6'7" and weighs about 450 lbs, and has been heavy all his life. He was the one who had the idea that we do this together, but now I feel like I'm doing this alone. I'm having surgery in 2 weeks, have lost most of my required pre-op weight, and he hasn't lost a pound. He eats WAAAYYYY too much and doesn't seem to care about changing. I hope that when he sees success in me that he'll jump back on the path to surgery. I'm not going to try and force him to do it because I need his help and support as I recover. Life will be no fun if we're fighting. Has anyone else gone through this?

Thanks,
Unfortunately neither Jane nor I dump. I dumped once a week after surgery after eating my chewable vitamins, but have not had any dumping symptoms since then. We were really hoping that we would because we both have our carb addictions to fight. We were counting on that part of the tool to keep us on the straight and narrow in regards to carbs. I also agree that a little won't hurt. I just have to be careful that the "little" doesn't become "a lot".

Funny how sensitive we can be to perceived criticisms. Maybe I need a brain bypass too.

Hmm...great question! I usually don't worry too much about my DH food choices. As long as he is eating enough. I just basically remind him that we need to eat protein first and he, overall, makes good choices. When he feels that he's dumping...I usually tell..."you see, you shouldn't have eaten that" and then remind him next time that it made him dump. LOL
Also, I think we both are fully aware when we feel like eating bad foods. I always keep in mind that a little won't hurt. All in moderation. We'll always have to watch what we eat and I think it helps when we both point out when we do make poor food choices.

Hello! Sorry for the delay in joining and thanks for the invitation! I just have not been around much lately. Here's a question for you all... Having a spouse, who has also had WLS, to support you in this process is great, but how do you deal with it when you have to point out that your spouse is slipping up?

I notice that we take it as criticism when one of us points out that the other one is eating something that we should not be. It is never pointed out in a bad way. Seems like we're cocked and ready to go off if the other points it out, no matter how lovingly or gently the subject is brought up. I think we "know" we are misbehaving and get defensive. How do you help each other from straying? Thanks! -Mike-

P.S. J&D are another WLS couple if you want to invite them.

Aww, thank you very much!

Hey, you guys look great! I woudn't have recognized you from the before and after!

Hi All, do any of you know who else is a wls couple on the forum? Thanks! Please feel free to share pictures or ask questions. It'll be great if we start to share our experiences.