Can I whine? - ThinnerTimes

QueenB · 09-16-2004, 10:32 PM

I'm sorry but I just want to vent to some one who can say "I know what you mean" and truthfully KNOW.

I went and saw my counselor today, I don't know why I keep going back to see her cause I honestly don't feel very fondly for her BUT......the end of the session came back to me and my weight again. I have issues with getting up infront of people. We were talking about me and my desire to start in the Martial Arts with my children (my two sons are already climbing ranks

) but I explained that I doubted I would be able to test for belt rank infront of spectators. Why she asks? Because! I can hear the snickers from middle school when I was doing jumping jacks and in highschool when I was trying to run the mile and even now the people who see me rollerblading my heart out and roll their eyes....I am tired of feeling humiliated and belittled, of trying so hard just to make no progress, of KNOWING (NO it is NOT a figment of my imagination) that people see me and they think "FAT". She had the nerve to tell me it was in my head, like the pain in my hips, my knees and ankles are FAKE like the degeneration from weight compression in my discs are my imagination that I have been told NO impact sports only. SWIM she says...yes

because the issues I have been discussing with her would fair well with me at a public pool in a bathing suit........then again she is 4'11" and 100 lbs soaking wet, what would she know? Are there really professionals out there who aren't of the "you chose this" school.

I couldv'e gotten better advice from a rock.........I am cancellingmy other apt's and starting from scratch. Heck, I may just come here for counseling

Thanks for listening, here's your $30 copay

lealphachienne · 09-16-2004, 11:17 PM

You need a new shrink. Mine was the complete opposite. She was always attentive and didn't make off the cuff comments. I was her first WLS pt she's worked with pre-op and post-op. She didn't judge and supported how I was feeling as the truth. She directed and allowed me to figure out my own solutions.

stakeda · 09-16-2004, 11:57 PM

Queen B,

Private message me. I have a GREAT therapist to refer to you.

watergirl · 09-17-2004, 06:54 AM

How frustrating! Like the others before me, get someone else. I also know of a really good psyc. in the North County, Vista area.

HapBird · 09-17-2004, 06:36 PM

Don't give up on the therapy... just change therapists. I accidentally happened across a terrific one when I had to get my psych evaluation as part of my preparation for the surgery. I called my HMO and asked to talk to a therapist to deal with "food issues" and they referred me to a terrific counselor who herself had dealt with a big weight and compulsive overeating problem, so she KNEW what it's like, and there was no 'blame, shame, or attack' from her! So there ARE good ones out there - find one!

And don't underestimate the power of this forum! It's been a godsend for me, and for lots of other folks.

We're all in this together! Hang in there........

HapBird · 09-17-2004, 06:37 PM

We'll tell you if you're overdoing it... so feel free to vent! We're here for ya!