To those who doesn’t feel they “fit in”, the depressed, the frustrated, and all - ThinnerTimes

Baron Patrick · 01-25-2006, 03:17 PM

Let’s just stop for a minute. Stop and take a deep breath, and let it out slow. Believe me when I say you are love, and you are loved. Peace and harmony begins in your heart. Let it flow. Go to your “safe place” in your mind, and immerse yourself in it’s beauty, safety, and serinity. Become one with this place. Seek out the peace and experience it throughout your body.

As an obese person, we not only have the physical aspect that has tried to ruin our lives, but most importantly our emotional and spiritual being has been badly hurt - far more than any physical hurt, because it lasts forever. The best we can do is to minimize it, and by that we need to do it with love. Love yourself like you’ve never been loved before. It’s okay. If you feel pain, it’s okay, let it out. Cry, throw a tantrum, punch a pillow. It’s okay, you need to get it out. The fears we have are nothing more than empty emotions. Emotions that feed on other negative emotions. It is a great deceiver, holding you back from greater things.

Fear. False Expectations Appearing Real. It can’t hurt you unless you allow it. I know, it’s easier said than done. Look at it this way, haven’t you gone through hell as it is being obese? What more can you fear. YOU are the most important person. YOU are the one who makes the decisions about which way your life will go. All fear does is tear you down and leave you broken in the middle of the street.

Please don’t let that happen to you. Your much stronger than you realize. For the Post-Ops, look what you have subjected yourself to do. YOU made a conscious decision to go through this procedure knowing full well what is and could be ahead of you. You have been given such a beautiful gift, even those who are seeking to have wls. You know you need to do something, and quitting is not an option.

Take care knowing this forum, and everyone here truly care about you. We may not respond to all your postings, but believe me, we read them, sometimes two or three times. Everything you post is of value to someone out here. Your contribution is as valuable as you are as a person. I’ve not met any of you in person, but I know I have more real friends here than I’ve had throughout my life.

My love goes out to all of you. Sit back and feel my arms going around you with a big hug.

bridgetgirl · 01-25-2006, 04:50 PM

Well my friend, those words were lovely. I have been feeling resentful lately to those who are in love... or deeply in like. I'm feeling like I am going to be alone forever, feeling like perhaps maybe I am incapable of having a relationship- like I dont know how to. Last Friday EVERYONE from my office had their significant other pick them and take them out to lunch... and I sat her alone and feeling sorry for myself. The other night I was behind a car where a couple leaned across and shared a couple of kisses while waiting for the light to change, it bummed out, made me spiteful. I go home, my phone never rings, I just dont feel as there is anyone in the great big whole wide world that thinks of me, longs for me... and that is such a lousy feeling.
Sigh...... thanks for letting me vent n stuff on your thread. Your a pal!

SAMI'S GRAM · 01-27-2006, 09:14 AM

Thanks for the post. It came at a time when I really needed to hear it. I read on another thread that you're going to Hawaii. Have fun!

Martha

brookscn · 01-27-2006, 09:31 AM

Baron:
First of all, I think you need your own motivational cable channel. Seriously - you have so many invaluble insights, not only on GBS, but on life. I'd watch it - hell, I'd TIVO it!

Bridget: Look how far you have come - all of the challenges you have stared straight in the face and conquered. The big guy upstairs has a plan for each and every one of us - things happen when they are supposed to. But I know how you're feeling - when I filed for divorce from my first husband, I had some serious doubts about it - even though he was a cheating, lying bastard, at least he was someone to share a life with (however pitiful it was). However, I realized that I could never even have a shot at true happiness if I was still with him. So I filed. And I cried. And all of my girlfriends tried to make me feel better and fill the void with movies and dinners, etc.

Then one day, I decided - what the hell? Why am I sitting here watching television......so, I posted a profile on Match.com. One week later I posted one on YahooPersonals.com. Within 1 day of posting on Yahoo, someone contacted me, the sweetest, nicest, kindest man I've ever met, and long story short, we got married last April in Rome. So, I do believe that things happen when they are supposed to.

Keep the faith - good thing happen to good people - and you are good people!

Baron Patrick · 01-27-2006, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by brookscn

Baron:
First of all, I think you need your own motivational cable channel. Seriously - you have so many invaluble insights, not only on GBS, but on life. I'd watch it - hell, I'd TIVO it!

Thank you for the compliment!

More details to come, but I just MAY be coming to a town near you!

bridgetgirl · 01-27-2006, 01:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by brookscn

Baron:

Then one day, I decided - what the hell? Why am I sitting here watching television......so, I posted a profile on Match.com. One week later I posted one on YahooPersonals.com. Within 1 day of posting on Yahoo, someone contacted me, the sweetest, nicest, kindest man I've ever met, and long story short, we got married last April in Rome. So, I do believe that things happen when they are supposed to.

Keep the faith - good thing happen to good people - and you are good people!

Awesome story... does he have a brother

Im not desperate, I dont settle.... but I miss watching videos on the 'ol boob tube with someone! Thanks n stuff (( HUGS))

LizardQueen · 01-27-2006, 03:59 PM

Awwww, Pat, you awsome motivational speaker guy! Warm fuzzies to you and everybody else here! Bridget-remember in Snow White when she is singing "Somday My Prince Will Come" Honey, he's out there and he'll show up when the time is right! I'm so glad to hear that you won't settle! Settling is no good!!! You deserve the moon!

sUzYzPLaCe · 01-27-2006, 06:34 PM

One day you will find someone that is into you way more than you are into them... it will happen. Problem is to be ok with yourself when it's not time.
Hang in there you are a beautiful lady.. and any guy would be lucky to have you in their life! Suzy

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Originally Posted by bridgetgirl

Well my friend, those words were lovely. I have been feeling resentful lately to those who are in love... or deeply in like. I'm feeling like I am going to be alone forever, feeling like perhaps maybe I am incapable of having a relationship- like I dont know how to. Last Friday EVERYONE from my office had their significant other pick them and take them out to lunch... and I sat her alone and feeling sorry for myself. The other night I was behind a car where a couple leaned across and shared a couple of kisses while waiting for the light to change, it bummed out, made me spiteful. I go home, my phone never rings, I just dont feel as there is anyone in the great big whole wide world that thinks of me, longs for me... and that is such a lousy feeling.
Sigh...... thanks for letting me vent n stuff on your thread. Your a pal!

coptergirl · 01-27-2006, 06:48 PM

Wow Pat - you brought tears to my eyes as I have been in a funky place allllll day, and you up and warmed my cold little heart - THANK YOU!!

Bridget - I hope you take Pats words to heart. You matter quite simply because you are you. That in itself makes you truely special. Suzy and Amer are so right - your prince will come when the time is right, and he will be way more into you that you are into him. He is out there training to be a King to his Queen

((((HUGS))))!!!

SaturdazeChyld · 01-28-2006, 07:02 AM

Wow Baron, you truly are a thoughtful and sweet man. Your wife and family are so lucky to have you in their lives. And we are very lucky to have you here too. I appreciate your post so much. Thank you.

And I am praying for a surgery for you! If anyone deserves it, it's you.

Have fun in Hawaii and be safe!