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Ryn · 01-20-2006, 02:52 PM

I have to admit at our old school, 5 y/o's getting suspended was not THAT out of the ordinary. I dont know your child, but I do know if they are a threat to other students they can and should be removed from the classroom (throwing things, hitting, etc).

Where does one send a 5 y/o?

katlover66 · 01-20-2006, 08:09 PM

We have had her in couseling for a 1 1/2 yrs. She had come a long way and was doing great in school. Her teacher went out on maternity leave the first week of Nov. I met with her and the long term sub. Her teacher told the sub that Hailey is reactive but had improved a lot with all the help in school, home and counseling. We have been doing Parent Child Interactive Therapy and Positive Re-inforcement. the very next day my child gets sent to the principles office. She has been there 3 times now. My child said this woman yells at her and my husband has observed from outside the classroom. He saw my daughter approach the teacher to ask a question and the teacher told her to be quiet and go back to her seat.
We have taken responsibility and we have been pushing the counseling center to test her for bi-polar and adhd. Her birth mother has both. Her counselor will notify me next week with a time, hopefully Wednesday afternoon. Her counselor is going to sit in the classroom and observe and she plans to meet with the teacher and district counselor.
As far as an IEP meeting. They scheduled a IST meeting on a day I could not get off of work. I emailed that day both the counselor and the Principle. They never responded. The next Tuesday the counselor called and left a reminder message about the meeting. I again emailed her and the principle about rescheduling the meeting. Saturday I got another reminder in the mail. I again emailed both of them. Tuesday morning they held the meeting without us and made decisions without us. So I emailed the office of the Superintendent. If they wanted to work with me they would have rescheduled the meeting. I just feel this substitute is young and inexperienced. She cannot control the classroom.
My daughter was suspended because a boy was picking on her and she kicked him in the nuts. Self defense, he picks on her all the time.

Mavisavis · 01-21-2006, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by katlover66

As far as an IEP meeting. They scheduled a IST meeting on a day I could not get off of work. I emailed that day both the counselor and the Principle. They never responded. The next Tuesday the counselor called and left a reminder message about the meeting. I again emailed her and the principle about rescheduling the meeting. Saturday I got another reminder in the mail. I again emailed both of them. Tuesday morning they held the meeting without us and made decisions without us. So I emailed the office of the Superintendent. If they wanted to work with me they would have rescheduled the meeting. I just feel this substitute is young and inexperienced. She cannot control the classroom.
My daughter was suspended because a boy was picking on her and she kicked him in the nuts. Self defense, he picks on her all the time.

First off, I just want to say I understand the difficulties of raising and trying to figure out the issues of adopted children. It is definitely a challenging task. It doesn't help when you feel the "professionals" are not helping as they should. As for the suspension, as far as I know, they cannot suspend her if the misdeed is connected to a mental health issue or diagnosis. Although, in that scenario they could opt to send her to a "behavior school", which often is training camp to learn new and interesting tricks.

But you may need to get those diagnosis hammered out to help you fight for her rights. On an "all special issues aside" note........I HATE having to teach my kids that they cannot defend themselves. One of mine got suspended once for that also. It really irked me, as many adults said that my daughter had endured much taunting before the final blow. I hope you can get things running smoothly. Please keep asking for all the help and support you need.....I waited too long in the past and the problems mounted and bit me in the A$$eola later. Hang in there.

Bypassingme619 · 01-21-2006, 08:10 AM

Katy I am so sorry you having a rough time. I feel like that sometimes, confused. Katy follow your dreams. You can only hold everyones hand for so long. If you can't take care of you, your not going to be any good to everyone else. I wish I had some great advice for you but hang in there. Start putting Katy first. I know you have a 5 y/o but hopefully there is a way to workout her behavior. Biggest hugs Katy. Stay strong in prayer.

katlover66 · 01-21-2006, 10:13 AM

thanks everyone. My hubby apologized this morning and said he will try to understand what Hailey needs. He has never dealt with adhd or bi-polar. He has only seen my nephew act up, but has never been first hand with it. He agreed to look into family counseling. My insurance doesn't cover it, however the center I have Hailey at for counseling does family counseling on a sliding scale. I know it will get better. The timing was off and it just stressed me out more than it probably should have.