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sierrab · 09-06-2005, 11:04 PM

hi guys !! i have been resurching gbs for a while now and have resigned to the fact i think this is the way i need to go because mt current weight is 313 and im 21 years old . ive tried weight watchers and had little sucess lost 31 pound but put almost all of it back on

, my delema is that my mom is against it cuz she heard there is a 1 in 200 death rate. But i think that this is the only way im going to be able get controll of my weight and my dream to have kids. also does enyone know if there is a surgeon in wa state

Shenelle Little · 09-06-2005, 11:32 PM

First I would like to say welcome. Wow this one is going to be a trick one because I respect the position of a mom, I'm one four times over and I believe when I'm tell my children not to do something, I am most time saying( how I) feel. I just learned this year that we as parent's have to teach our children and then step back and see them live out what it is that we tought them. It seem that you have done the responsible thing, you resurched this surgery you appear to know the con's as well as the pro's and sweetheart the pro's out weight the con's. If it will help sit donw with your mom and let her know in a serious way, not like mom I think I want this, more like Mother I feel that this is my path and a second chance at life for me and I want it bad. I pray that the next conversation you have with her God will soften her heart. Keep us inform.

Current weight 263
Surgery date was 9/6/05
but it was put back because
Doctor Callery's Assistant hurt
his risk, So I hope that its in the
next two week's.

SaturdazeChyld · 09-07-2005, 04:31 AM

Heya sierrab, Welcome in.

I'm in Washington, whereabouts in Wa are ya? Feel free to pm me the answer if your more comfy doing so.

suzi-b · 09-07-2005, 06:14 AM

Welcome to the forum. Over 10 years ago I had done some research on the gastric bypass, and was considering it. When I discussed it with my mom (I was 40 at the time), she was vehemently opposed to the idea. So I dropped it. A little over a year ago, I again was doing research, had attended a few seminars, and decided that I want a life. I would say wanted a life back, but I have never had a life due to my overweight condition. So on April 22, I had my surgery, and have lost 72 pounds to date. I did not tell my mom about my decision, and she still does not know, as we live in different parts of the country. But today I leave for a visit "home", and she will see the new me. It was a decision I made to have a healthy life, and I would do it again in a second. I am off all my Rx's but 2, no more diabetic meds or high blood pressure meds. Yippee! I will let everyone know what the reaction is. Take care and keep in touch!

Cinerbelle · 09-07-2005, 07:44 AM

Hi Sierrab,

There is not neccessary a death rate of 1 in 200....it depends on the surgeon. My surgeon has performed 1350 GBS surgeries and lost 1 patient and the reason he lost the patient wasn't even his fault. You need to research the surgeon and go to his seminar and ask the tough questions. Take your Mom with you, maybe then she would feel more comfortable.

Anyway, welcome! Have your Mom read the posts on this forum, there is a lot of great info. She can even post her own questions.

katlover66 · 09-07-2005, 07:48 AM

It is your decision, not your mother's. Only you can decide what you want and need. Don't listen to those who are uneducated about WLS. She loves you and doesn't want to lose you, however go with what your heart tells you.

Red Feather · 09-07-2005, 12:31 PM

i will keep my soap-box short and sweet - if 1 in 200 die of GBS, does she know that 200 in 200 die of Morbid obesity? We are the most vulnerable, as obesity causes diabetes, heart failure, arthritis, GERD - which can lead to a whole mass of other conditions, etc. etc. etc.
So to your mom i would say, "I'm going to die, if I don't do something". sad but true.
Keep us posted, and expect casualties in the process. *hi* happens...

HeatherT · 09-07-2005, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sierrab

hi guys !! i have been resurching gbs for a while now and have resigned to the fact i think this is the way i need to go because mt current weight is 313 and im 21 years old . ive tried weight watchers and had little sucess lost 31 pound but put almost all of it back on

, my delema is that my mom is against it cuz she heard there is a 1 in 200 death rate. But i think that this is the only way im going to be able get controll of my weight and my dream to have kids. also does enyone know if there is a surgeon in wa state

well my mom was also against the surgery and she works for a company that provides Doctors and hospitals malpractice insurance - for when they mess up and lose someone during any surgery or for any other reason....so she saw one claim in the last month that hit her hard and made her very afraid i would die leaving behind a 12 & 14 yr old.

i took my mom to the 2nd consultation with me and honestly i was afraid she would blow it for me at one point with her questions and death and complications statistics but my surgeon was prepared I am sure there are other family members that do what my mom did, he explained that the death rate for other treatments and but you know what....I left there with a surgery date and the support of my mother! & let me tell you as an only child it was so important to me to have her be by my side on this and yes i would have done it with out her too because i am sick of being FAT! and I have an extremely hard tome losing any weight because i do not have a thyroid or parathyroid so what i eat likes to stay with me since i have a very low metabolism....
You need to decided whats best for you and maybe if you are close to your mom take your mom to a meeting so she can ask questions and feel better about the descision because honestly your mom is just worried about losing you and surgery is major no matter what...I read the post earlier that you could die from being morbid obesy well if your mom is like mine she will not go for that comment but my mom was willing to go ask questions and after she did she too felt better about it and is actually taking a week off to be with me and help me....

I am wishing you the best of luck and I hope your mom will be there for you too!

2Bhealthy · 09-07-2005, 05:41 PM

Surgery date was 9/6/05
but it was put back because
Doctor Callery's Assistant hurt
his risk, So I hope that its in the
next two week's.[/quote]
Hijack! Are you saying Dr. Potts hurt his wrist? For the love of God, NOOOOOOOOOOOO!
sorry, that may have been a bit of an over reaction

dkessell · 09-07-2005, 06:03 PM

Hi Sierrb,
First welcome to the forum.
I have to agree with Cherie, 200 out of 200 MO people die from being overweight.
The fact is that you have to make this decision not your mother.
My father did not want me to have the surgery, because of the death rate just like your mother but when you think about it, if you are MO you are going to die from something else cause by your weight. When my father and I sat down and talked about the surgery and everything else that was going to happen if I did not get the surgery the plus for the surgery out weighted any of the minus. That talk turned him around. Maybe you just need to talk with your mother and tell her everything you know about the surgery and why you need to get it done. If that does not work take her to the support classes and your Dr. consultations it should do the trick.